Online Dating 101: Photos
Step 2: Your Photos
When it comes to selecting the best photos for your profile, you don't want to choose just any old snapshot. You need the right photo-the kind that captures the real you, and attracts and shows your matches who you really are.
1. Make your primary photo sing -
If a picture's worth a thousand words, make sure you're saying your best-smiling, with eyes wide open; they are the windows to the soul. 
2. Showcase your style with your secondary photos -
Secondary photos are those viewed when a match clicks in to your primary photo to see more photos of you. Secondary photos are a great opportunity to showcase your personal style, so long as you stick to these commonsense photo tips and eHarmony Photo Guidelines.
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3. The Medium is the Message
| Cell phones and Web cams may seem convenient, but pictures come across grainy and shady. Get a hold of a good digital camera, take traditional film photos and scan at a high resolution, or have them professionally taken. |  |
Another option: Professional Photos
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Long gone are the days when you'd get your picture taken every year in school. Professional photos are another way to guarantee great pictures for your profile. Photographers and photo studios are easy to come by and headshots needn't cost a ton of money. Plus, professional image quality is far superior than most do-it-yourself options. |
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L
April 23,2012 at 09:11 pmTotally agree about the age comments, as a 32 year old I was shocked to be matched with men who are old enough to be my dad (and look like my parents age). I also ask people to reconsider putting your kids in photos, it's just not safe. I would say no sunglasses either as it looks weird, I put the date the photo was taken in the comments just so others know how old the picture is.
Anonymous
April 18,2012 at 07:52 pmAlthough I am really new at this online dating, I must agree with a lot of the women who have posted that I am much younger looking than my age and my deceased spouse was 4 years younger than me. I, too, am getting matches from guys MUCH older than I want to date, or want to worry about "taking care of" with declining age or health. We may have a "lot" in common, but just as they say, I am not looking to date my Dad or my Grandfather, no matter how well we seem to match up! I would like to see a more diverse age span, so that there is some physical attraction, as well as the chemistry! Please add a better AGE selection, or a question as to "what age group would you consider dating." Thanks!
mir
April 18,2012 at 07:34 pmi don,t relate to women,who are older than me i would like to relate with women who younger than me at least 10 years old and i am just 40 years old
Anonymous
April 17,2012 at 08:03 pmHi There, I tried online dating a few years ago but found it quite difficult as I get to know the guy over the phone and plan to meet and we are really getting along well BUT because I was born without my hand I feel I need to tell them this before we meet and it makes it really difficult. I have put on my profile that I dont have a hand but I am worried it will put people off even getting past the first step. I am a great woman, high achieving, amazing career and have alot to offer, the hand thing is so minor in my life but it's hard to not be upfront about it. What should I do. Be upfront or not?
Theodora
April 22,2012 at 04:07 pmI have a similar problem - had polio at the age of 5 which left me with muscle weakness, walked with a gait and now use crutches. After taking to the team who assisted me to develop my profile, this is what I wound up posting under additional information: (the story is true; you might have something similar to record.)
One morning, when in college, I went to the mall. As I blended with other shoppers, I noticed a young man walking on to me as if he knew me; he slowed down his pace, looked at me in the eyes and said “You are lucky you can walk.” and walked by disappearing in to the crowd. I walked with a limp due to polio virus. His comment and clear eyes engraved on to my memory. We are all carrying with us burdens, seen or hidden; though they group us in categories, they do not define us as who we are. I am not the effects of Polio; instead, I am the sum total of my life experiences and what the God bestowed upon me.
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feel free to write back and maybe correspond and support each other in this journey!
Best of luck.
TK
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Anonymous
April 16,2012 at 05:04 pmI am 53. I don't look it and I don't act it. A work colleague recently found out and could not believe it; she thought I was 45. I look at my matches and they look like my grandfather. Call me shallow and superficial, but I am not dating someone 63!
Anonymous
March 19,2012 at 01:44 amHi 80 i hear what u saying ,but at the same time not all woman are the same.some of us are still plain old school,if u beautiful inside u will be beautiful outside to with out the make up,dont be disillusioned ther is someone out there for u :) patience is a virtue bless ur soul and keep believing in yourself :)
L
Terry Gravelle
March 3,2012 at 12:54 pmDear Customer Care Team:
I just came back to e-harmony a week ago, and have only 1 new match.
I know it's only been a week, but I have paid a lot of $ to e-harmony over the last 2 to 3 years. I feel I am not getting my $ worth.
I have decided that I would like my membership payment back in a full refund. I am tired of paying for a service that I am getting nothing in return.
Terry Gravelle
Marina
February 23,2012 at 03:47 pmThis email is for men, without getting into the dynamics of physical attraction I must ask, what are some of you thinking! You sound so wonderful then the photos arrive...for instance, if you have posted a cropped photo showing the arm of another woman you have lost about 80% of your available audience. If you SAY that you are physically fit, don't post a beer belly. If your most endearing photo is you with a cut out of Danny DeVito with a beer, reconsider. In all, use some common sense. Wear clothing. Don't have a slick head shot done by a studio. Women want to see you in a good light, leave the party photos home and look genuine. This applies to all ages. By the way, let me remind those who elect to comb over, Sean Connery is bald, women don't mind!
Anna
December 29,2011 at 08:31 pmI've just sign on to e-harmony the first on-line site ever for me...I only have one pic and need to get more, (something I have not expertise in, I'll do my best to get more.
Further, I would like to see younger men then my age as I am a very youthful person and often get asked to go out by men 20 years younger.
Good Genes...
I would like at least 8 years younger, how do I do that?
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