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    newurbanlady wrote

    at January 28, 2010 05:13 PM

    I am in the older age group and for me, I couldn't imagine a date that doesn't have my level of education. What in the world would we talk about? I work in an educational institution and like to discuss/debate issues of the day. I did this through my 30 year marriage and that's what I do with all my friends so income is not important but doing something you believe in and being happy in that is essential for me.

    chap4949 wrote

    at September 17, 2009 06:20 PM

    Treeye...I am relatively new to eHarmony. I understand this is a website that attracts mostly Christians. One question I would ask is "how seriously do you take your faith?" Gods rules are clear. If you want God's blessings on your relationship and marriage, you must live by His rules...that means no sexual intercourse before marriage. in this day and age, it may sound archaic, but then look at the divorce rate!!! Living by the world's values is not what gives you joy. I was blessed to have been married to a wonderful guy for 35 years. We put Christ first, then our relationship above all others. We gave the best of ourselves to each other...and we were best friends. That does not happen in just a few dates. It takes time to nurture a relationship and develop a true friendship. People mistake passion or lust for the real thing. I assure you from someone who has been there...it is merely a cheap imitation. The real thing is profoundly more deep, more satisfying, more intimate...and it is worth saving yourself for and waiting for the right guy. If you think this guy has potential, practice safe dating...do things in groups, go to activities in public places, and make a contract up front that this is your value system. If you both respect the boundaries, neither of you are going to put the other in a tempting situation that will compromise your long term goal. I always told my boys when they were dating to treat their date like they would like some other guy treating their future wife! And you are "some other guy's future wife" until you have a ring and you are walking down the isle. I have counseled many couples in my time. I have NEVER met anyone who was sorry they didn't wait. I met countless ones who did. The question then is...you know you are worth it. You know God loves you even more than a potential date does, and He made both of you with a plan...not for harm, but for hope and a future. Will you trust His will and His way...and be willing to wait for the safety, security, true love and commitment for a lifetime...or settle for second best. As a widow, I too, am facing the same thing. But I know how good it can be. I would never settle for anything less. God bless!


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