Seven Health Benefits of Sex

Sex can "lesson"? It's lessEn, dufus writers.

My ex of 17 years never wanted to have sex. To her, it was just a job and a means of trying to control the relationship. What a difference to my current wife. She's passionate about sex, is exciting, often tells me how much she wants me, initiates sex often, wears sexy clothes, and has never once said No. Sex is certainly not everything, but our awesome sex life contributes a lot to our love and makes our relationship stay fun and exciting and is a constant reminder for me why I married her and how much in love I am.

I see a lot of friends unhappy in this department. The women shut down the sex life after marriage, kids, etc. No man can last with no sex life and if getting it at home and in a positive way, will eventually stray.

For me, my wife makes me happy in 100 ways, but her enthusiasm for our sex life means I have no desire to look anywhere else.

One comment I do want to make. Involving Sex and the relationship it entails. I am in the my late 20's and while I was going through college, I had a great job. It was and still is my career and I love it. I've screen many woman when dating and one of the key factors I look for is whether a woman wants a relationship or someone to help take care of them. Woman, will often (in my experience) sleep with a man if she knows he's financially secure and use that to her advantage. To her, sex is a means to an end. She treats it as an act or job, and then continues on with her own life. That right there will turn me away. I posted about pet peeves my stereotype situation and this fits in with it.

Sex should only occur when both partners agree to have a true relationship. Not the dating phase. Dating is to help determine whether you can pursue that individual for a health commitment, and that includes sex. Sex, as mentioned above, should strengthen the bond between partners. But in todays youth, being part of it, I see to many woman who use it as an act, or just a means to an end. The act can be done, even solo, but if there is no emotion behind it, how can it truly be health? If there is a connection, I truly believe sex will give the most benefit, than just doing the act of releasing pleasure and moving on. What saddens me to know is even my generation and the generation after me, uses sex and suffer the consequence, mostly by getting pregnant and the father will just up and leave. Taking no responsibility, and now there is a child born into this world with no father and a mother who questions her actions. One mother of two (twins) said to me this, "I don't regret having my children, I just regret how it happened."

If more people can be responsible when having sex, everything in life will be just that much better. I wait, and every time when a bond is forming, it is a greater pleasure than just getting it done.

The blog is correct. Sex is so important. When everything else fits and the sex does not its called friendship. I have friends, lol... What is hard is finding a person you fit with on a sexual level. People say all sorts of things, it may be that words mean different things to different people or people are just trying to be something they are not in order to be attractive to another. The worst thing is being sexually frustrated with a person. For me its a deal breaker. Its also hard to bring this up early in a relationship without seeming loose. Its also hard to explain to a man he is not your cup of tea without him feeling less that a man. What one woman may like another may not and vis-a-versa. There is no general right or wrong. So, whats a girl to do???

Why don't you both meet! You won't have to pay a fee, and Sir, you can show her what it means to be spoiled by a man!

I don't ever remember being spoiled by a man, I was always the one spoiling him and he expected it...so I guess I was the loser there..live and learn !

It would be great to be able to meet the man of my dreams, but I remember when meeting men didn't require a monthly fee...