The Ten Biggest Reasons You Get Dumped (Ouch!)

by Managing Editor Jeannie Assimos and Senior Director Grant Langston


You Have Secrets (1/10)

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Joe was a nice guy, but he had lots of secrets. For example, his parents didn’t know he drank alcohol, and so when they came for a visit he and his girlfriend had to stash their wine collection in the basement. There were dozens of these little life secrets that he felt he had to keep. One day Kari said, “Enough!” and threw in the towel. If you’ve built a web of lies for your family, your co-workers, and various groups of friends, don’t be surprised if a new romantic partner balks at wanting to join the charade.

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Anonymous

May 21,2012 at 02:58 pm

What about sex? I was brought up in a Roman Catholic family. Sex before marriage was wrong. Several years ago I met a woman while I was living in Maine. She was about 6 years older than me. Don't get me wrong. She was good looking and sexy. She made me feel as though I was the woman and she was the man. There was a Sunday afternoon I was over to her house. We were sitting on her couch in the living room and cuddling each other. Then her son came home and that stopped. I could see that all she wanted me for was sex. I arrived at her house one weekday night and bluntly told her I was breaking up with her and it was due to her trying to ustle me into bed. I am trying to meet a woman now. When I teel them online I want to get to know them ans I am not all about trying to hustle them into bed I think they don't believe me. Then they go away.

Crimsonrosalie

May 21,2012 at 05:00 am

Why do you say the pushing to get married one is for the ladies? Sorry, but in my experience it has been the other way around. So sick of the generalizing and stereotyping!

Anonymous

April 18,2012 at 05:14 am

If you have to constantly worry and question if your mate is seeing other men or women. You can first ask yourself if you are being unreasonable. Then ask if you think you have a problem. It could be you who is insecure and doesn't trust. Sometimes, however, Your mate could have a personality trait (i won't say disorder) that doesn't allow them to love at a deep level. They are constantly building up their ego with the conquest of new people who "like" them. If you are investing emotionally in someone who cannot really return your level of emotion and dedication, then this will never work. You can not trust them. They do not honor the commitments you two have put forth to be exclusive. They may not find it wrong or unethical to cheat since their values are deeply divergent from yours or even self serving. Our deepest and most sacred emotions can be trampled on, disregarded, and trashed. This is not easy to recover from and can require help to get through it. In the end, I find these people are constitutionally dishonest about life and and the compromises they have to make to stay in a good relationship.

Your mom

April 12,2012 at 05:24 pm

Don't do these things. >;)

Anonymous

April 10,2012 at 05:56 pm

Number 10 Emotional Problems is exactly what was wrong with my last BF. 4 years I spent with him and he made me think I was crazy. After spending time with a psychologist, I am not crazy. He is controlling with anger issues along with severe emotional issues. Thankfully I got out before he moved in with me or I sold my house and moved to him.

Anonymous

April 10,2012 at 05:55 pm

Number 10 Emotional Problems is exactly what was wrong with my last BF. 4 years I spent with him and he made me think I was crazy. After spending time with a psychologist, I am not crazy. He is controlling with anger issues along with severe emotional issues. Thankfully I got out before he moved in with me or I sold my house and moved to him.

Anonymous

April 10,2012 at 05:17 pm

How do u get out of a realationshit????

Anonymous

April 11,2012 at 07:46 pm

you can say - I don't think this is going to work for me...

If you think you have to provide reasons? How about timing, situation(s), compatibility, etc..

Anonymous

April 10,2012 at 02:46 pm

All 10 are very good reasons to consider in a relationship. Some very good reasons for ending a relationship.

Anonymous

April 10,2012 at 07:49 am

should be 11 of them:

11) you're a nice guy with no ego...


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