Before we get started, a little disclaimer: we are not implying you should run down this ENTIRE list on your first date. These are just some cool "getting-to-know-you" questions you might want to keep in your back pocket in case nerves set in, or you want to avoid any awkward silences. OK ... so onto the reading topic! It's not too invasive, yet will give you insight into what the person across from you is interested in - or not.
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HelloKitty2
August 19,2011 at 03:01 pmLove, love, love.
HelloKitty2
August 19,2011 at 03:12 pmThese are simple questions that give insight to the person. Love it!
brianz
September 3,2011 at 05:31 pmThese are great question, but I was actually hoping for something a little more "out-of-the-box". Unless it's a total blind date, which I've never actually been on; I would have asked most of these questions either during the e-mail exchange or possibly on the first or second phone call before even asking the person out on date.
Anonymous
January 27,2012 at 10:54 amI kind of want to ask someone what is in their fridge out of the blue now, I laughed a little thinking about how random that would be yet humorous if it was asked without any relation to cooking.
MidwestMan
January 29,2012 at 04:20 pmI am taking a new approach. I am not going into great detail and getting drawn into long email exchanges or phone conversations. I am keeping the email exchanges brief, finding out what she likes/doesn't like then suggesting we meet for a date at such and such place and asking for her phone number, and giving her mine in case one of needs to change or is running late. If she declines and wants to keep emailing, I will oblige for one more round, still keeping it brief, but also keeping my options open and actively pursuing other matches. I'll also keep the phone conversations brief, 5-10-15 minutes MAX of idle chit chat, then suggest a date and once confirmed, wrap up conversation. The whole point is to not learn too much about her or her me before we actually meet. My experience has been getting drawn into long email exchanges or phone conversations, no matter how good they seem to go, are detrimental in the long run. Save it for the first, second, third date. It's more fun to ask these types of questions in person.
Anonymous
January 30,2012 at 09:06 pmYou sound very familiar. Do you live in Ohio by any chance? Good tips, by the way. I will keep them in mind.
MKD
February 5,2012 at 03:26 pmI love this approach. There is something exciting (a little nerve wracking but exciting) about keeping some mystery there for that first date!
Anonymous
February 8,2012 at 12:41 pmThank you mid-west man. Somehow, many men think that because a woman agrees to give them her phone number instead of hit and miss email chats, they can give the story of their life on the first round. I just recently had a person almost burn my ears off on the phone after many attempts of trying to delicately change topics and let him know this was TMI. The mystery should be kept on both sides and much other information reserved for face to face meetings or further dates. AT least he told me friends called him 'big mouth', so I was forewarned. No meeting this one.
Anonymous
February 18,2012 at 01:55 pmi have to contously think to shut up, or i might say to much i guess i need to chill. ive been alone for awhile & i havnt spotaniously blown up yet.
1HeartHealer
October 29,2011 at 04:08 pmI agree with Brianz... good questions, but pretty typical except I did love "best day ever" and the photo that went with it. I also like the ideal dinner guest question and sky's the limit question, which is way better than what do you do for work. I love my work, but it's too serious to discuss on a first day and kind of brings too much sobriety to the room. I like going out to get away from the serious of work.
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