Why Successful Women Can't Find a Great Man

If you are not strong enough, confident enough or secure enough, then tread carefully

They may eat your raw and fresh, bruise your ego and make you cry...:eek::D:p

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I did not go through every page of this discussion. But here are my two cents: (Btw, I consider myself a successful woman. When I go out, people compliment me "extremely attractive or very very cute". Usually, they are men or women in older ages.)

1) Successful women do NOT automatically mean that they are so tied up about their time. They actually have more freedom and resources/support to decide how to allocate their time.
2) Women who are ambitious do not necessarily indicate that their r/s skills must suck. Otherwise why they did not get married... Just the opposite, many of them have to exercise delayed gratification and make sacrifice to be where they are today, i.e. others maybe in hot fun relationships, they probably have to bury themselves in the library. ^_*
3) Going after lesser together men does not work, either. Not so much for success or money... Often times, when people go settle for less, they thought okay, then life should be a lot easier. The reality in my knowledge is you would have to deal with very controlling treatment from an insecure partner who may suffer from low self esteem...

4) If you are dating someone who is intelligent, educated and together, then it will never be boring. You can deeply connect with each other on so many levels, and your life will be filled with many possibilities, abundance and freedom as well.

5) Successful people do embody overall healthier life perspectives when it comes to investment, finance, health, kids' education etc.

6) Successful women do not mean that they must be high-maintenance. Why would they? If they work hard to become who they are today, they will not easily take things for granted. If life treats them well, why they complain? If you complain often, you cannot be successful. High-maintenance is an illusion or perhaps you run into some spoiled bad apples.

7) They are smart, confident, sexy and social, learn things quickly, including cooking, taking care of the house and kids and everything. I happen to have mentors, bosses are great role model. Intelligent, charming, successful, great cook, thoughtful, loyal and faithful, a great father, a great mother raising wonderful families. Everything in place!

Last but not the least, yes, they do usually have some requirements: You are not allowed to bossy them. They may need a lot of space and freedom to pursue their passion. And, this may well be the reason why they choose to settle in older ages rather than marry young. It's a priority, a timing and a choice, not because they cannot find anybody or have some hidden problems. ;) Well, they may take you together in this life, and it's gonna be FUN! ^_* Oh, btw, did I mention they can be beautiful, too!

If you are not strong enough, confident enough or secure enough, then tread carefully ^_* ^_* ^_*

Let's say you have two totally hot Walmart checkout people. One male, one female. To most women, the guy's job will stand out much more than his looks. To most men, the girl's looks will stand out much more than her job. It's about priorities, not right or wrong.

They did a study where they took a male student and took pictures of him dressed up in McD's uniform and in a suit. Women consistently rated the guy as being on the complete opposite ends of the attractiveness spectrum, depending on which costume he wore in the picture.

As others have suggested it is the disparity in status in life. Not many successful women will date a guy from a lower socio-economic status.

I remember my sister's comment about a guy she had gone out with a long time ago. "He is a good guy, but it will never work. I spend more at the hairdresser's than what he makes in a week."

I'd have to say that in my opinion, highly successful women are sought after just like highly successful guys. The allure is the same, many fun things most are happy to sign up for -- houses, travel........

There's lots of men who can't achieve it on their own too, just like the many women chasing wealthy guys.

The very successful women I know have to weed out golddigers just like the guys.

eHa_who: @cybertwinkie, if that photo you are using is really you i am interested in getting to know you...successful or not by anyone else's standards.

Compliments don't work, my friend. You need to use negs.

@cybertwinkie, if that photo you are using is really you i am interested in getting to know you...successful or not by anyone else's standards.

ann123: I'm successful and I've been told that I don't look aproachable. That might be one reason.

I don't know about not looking approachable, but I have met many men who have stated successful, confident women intimidate them. It's not that they don't want to approach you, they do. I think they feel you are out of their league.

keepitreal4love: Most men don't care if you're successful, they're looking for compatibility and physical attraction.

Very true.

Women look at it like:
1- I consider successful men to be attractive.
2- I am successful.
3- Men should consider me attractive.

It doesn't work that way,

If you read the thread the correct assessment of the situation has been given more than once by a number of people. It's mostly a numbers game and a lot of it has to do with the actual woman in question. It has very little to do with men. Most men don't care if you're successful, they're looking for compatibility and physical attraction. If they avoid successful women on purpose it's because they know they're inferior and you don't want them anyway.

A successful man is more open to dating different kinds of women a successful woman wants someone that is exactly like her. A successful man, if he wants to, will find someone for a LTR way before a successful woman. If you go on Match and read profiles of successful women you will find this to be true.