Do You Have The Kind Of Attitude Men Find Irresistible?
When you meet a new man you like, it’s tempting to think you need to actively do something to show him why he should be attracted to you and interested in you. You might think you need to show him what a great cook you are by making him a meal or helping him with a problem so that he sees that you’d make a good partner.
But while every relationship needs a balance of give and take, these efforts on your part are not what make a man attracted to you. The truth is that the women who men find irresistible have certain "attitudes" that draw a man's attention and interest easily – with little or no effort.
You can think of these “attitudes” as what you are saying to a man without you saying a word. Your internal emotions, your body language, and your tone of voice all communicate your “attitude” at a deep level.
Here are three attitudes that are subtly irresistible to a man:
Irresistible Attitude #1: "I don't let a man determine what I will have in my love-life."
This kind of woman won't settle for a man who isn't giving her what she wants and needs emotionally. Men respect this at a deep level, and they either become engaged and inspired by this to want to be with you…or turn the other way if they really aren’t looking for what you want.
How do you embody this? By first taking stock of what you really need in a relationship, and then sticking up for it. For instance, say you’re ready for an exclusive relationship. Simply tell him, “You have every right to date other women, but I’m looking for exclusivity. It’s what feels right for me.” This is a lot different from issuing a man an ultimatum. It tells him that this is what you need independent of him and that you are not looking for him to make something happen. Rather, you are stating what you are looking for – with or without him.
Irresistible Attitude #2: "I'd leave a man before I allow unacceptable behavior."
This woman won't stay in a relationship that's abusive, degrading, or morally questionable. She also won't put up with bad behavior from a man. Integrity and trust are important to her, and she lets him know that.
The cornerstone of this attitude is a healthy sense of self-esteem. In a relationship, the first person you must take care of is you. Know your boundaries so that you can recognize when someone crosses them – and let him know when something is not acceptable to you.
Irresistible Attitude #3: "I wouldn't keep a man from doing the healthy, personal things he enjoys, or let my own fears or limitations stand in his way."
She knows that her man is an adult who has the right and freedom to make his own choice. She understands that the more she tries to restrict him, the less he's going to feel open, free and empowered when he’s with her. She respects his need to pursue his goals and dreams.
A smart woman gives a man the “rope” he needs to be himself. She recognizes that when each person in a relationship nourishes his or her particular passions, that the relationship also becomes more interesting and passionate.
When you embody these irresistible attitudes, a man is much less likely to "get weird" on you when you let him know how you're feeling, because he’ll be craving a meaningful and deep connection with you as well. These attitudes tell him that you are the kind of woman who has a strong sense of what she needs and that she is not looking to him to make her happy. She takes responsibility for her own happiness – and this is infinitely attractive to a man.
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Anonymous
March 30,2012 at 10:43 amBottom line, be yourself. The good and the bad, be true to your nature. The real you will always come out in the end. Bait and switch is never good.
Anonymous
March 30,2012 at 10:43 amBottom line, be yourself. The good and the bad, be true to your nature. The real you will always come out in the end. Bait and switch is never good.
Anonymous
March 30,2012 at 10:42 amBottom line, be yourself. The good and the bad, be true to your nature. The real you will always come out in the end. Bait and switch is never good.
negak
June 2,2011 at 08:54 amWhile none of these things are bad per se, they are not going to make you the image of allure to all men. I find this article shallow and uninspired. These will not make you an "irresistable" ideal. More than anything, I think it's the tone that's way off.
Like the other two, this projects the image that you'll generate attraction by keeping the other persons at arms length emotionally. "I know what I want, and if you just happen to meet my criteria, we can share a bed for awhile." Real heart-cincher right there! I do like the line "Men respect this at a deep level, and they either become engaged and inspired by this to want to be with you…or turn the other way if they really aren’t looking for what you want."Some men, perhaps many Men, appreciate a girl who has a strong will and standards, if/when those standards are compatable, and will be turned off if they are not. You won't attract everyone, no matter what you do. There's all different kinds of attraction. There's strong attraction in validation (meeting standards/being needed/shareed goals/and many more). There's attraction in physical appeal. There's attraction in being able to rely on someone. I don't know what kind of attraction this article is shooting for, but I wouldn't count on success.Rizzler
April 11,2011 at 09:01 pmIm with you man! I just booted a pretty nurse after two months becuase she thinks I should get a job and go to school. I have a mortgage I can pay, bmw is paid off, and as of last week Im tracking down some private note money that people filed for BK for. She doesnt know that. She now works and goes to advance nursing school full time. I come from a 10 yr mortgage backround and Im doing my sabatical and will grab life by the horns shortly but it really bothered her. I told her to kick rocks. Now i was so supportive of her and drove her two school for a month because she barely got a dui when i met her. Just bad luck. her previous man is a Real estate con artist who is all over the web and left her and went to another country where he has family as he is hispanic and persian. Anyway...I would have helped her in anyway. But This has seemingly been a problem...so I releived her of that. its a weight on my shoulders and im now motivated to get back in the swing of things...for me!!!! not for her expectation like Im her novelty ken doll and operate at her pace. IF you tell me to jump I wont say how high, If i thnk its conditional. I have backbone baby and options!! And long story short I was good to her for that time. Oh well things had potential.
lizzy1999
April 7,2011 at 01:06 pmWhy? Just curious...
boomer_gal
April 7,2011 at 12:56 pmYou're right & it probably could've been fixed with just better lighting.
And as to the original question, about men finding my attitude irresistable... apparantly not.
TheThinker
April 7,2011 at 10:04 amhmmm..yeah..reminds me of a hanging.:p
Dropdeadredtx
April 7,2011 at 09:51 amThe photo with this article is dreadful. The young woman looks ill and angry, kind of like a junkie. Very off-putting, IMHO.
Nanette
April 7,2011 at 09:11 ami wouldnt be exclusive with a man that didnt ask me to be, no.
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