6 Signs He May be the Cheating Kind
You have a sneaking feeling that something about your relationship just isn’t right. He’s been acting distant, moody, or even too nice. You don’t want to go there but your mind just can’t help it—could he be cheating?
No one likes to think that they’re involved with a cheater, but it happens pretty frequently. According to a survey conducted by the University of Chicago, 22% of married men and 15% of married women admitted to having been unfaithful at least once.
Think he’s having an affair? These 6 clues may help you determine whether or not he’s being unfaithful.
1) He’s Convinced you’re a Cheater
Some people are more suspicious than others, but if your mate is suddenly accusing you of being unfaithful, it’s likely he’s cheating. Why? Because now that he’s cheating he knows it’s possible for you to do the same (and get away with it).
So if your normally healthy and happy mate is suddenly overwrought with unjustified jealously, watch out. It could be that he’s really the one cheating on you.
2) He’s a Little too Mysterious
Mystery is a big draw in a new relationship. It’s exciting to be with someone new; someone you don’t know that well. Discovering who that person is and what they’re all about is part of what makes new love so thrilling.
But if you’re months or even years into the relationship and your mate is extremely vague about his past, work, friends, family—or just plain everything—beware. It could be that he’s distancing himself from you emotionally subconsciously, or he’s consciously withholding information to prevent getting caught in a lie. Either way, he’s covering something up.
3) He Knows a lot of Women…and Makes Friends with them Easily
Ever date a guy who talked to every woman he laid eyes on? You know the type: you’d leave him for five minutes a party and return to find him flirting with another woman. Or there’s the guy who knows a lot of women and happens to run into them all the time. Kind of makes you stop and think. Or at least it should.
A guy who has a lot of girl friends or seems to know every woman within a 50 mile radius should be handled with extreme caution. Now, a ladies man isn’t necessarily a cheater, but you should consider whether or not you can handle the constant competition.
4) He Seems to be Compensating
If a cheater has even half a heart, he feels guilty for cheating. To compensate for the guilt, he acts extra nice. Think lots of “I love yous," flowers, and presents for no reason.
We’re not suggesting that every time a man does something nice it’s a sign he’s cheating on you, but if suspicious behavior is immediately followed by a syrupy sweet gesture, that’s a red flag. Not only is he trying to ease his conscience, he’s trying to distract you into thinking everything is okay.
5) He’s Always at Work
When people think of the typical cheater, they probably think of the guy who puts in long hours at the office but is really carrying on an affair. Well there’s a reason why that stereotype exists.
Cheaters use work to cover up their infidelity because people don’t usually question it. It’s the perfect excuse come home late, go away on business and put in extra hours on the weekend.
Just because your mate works non-stop definitely does not make him a cheater, but like we said, work can be used as an excuse. If he’s working all the time and doesn’t seem to have any energy left for your relationship, something needs to change.
6) Your Friends Drop Hints
There are few constants when it comes to love and relationships, but there is one thing you can count on: your friends. You may not want to hear what they’re saying about the person you love, but they are usually right.
So if your friends are dropping hints, “Don’t you think it’s weird he works all the time?” or “What’s up with him and his ex?” stop and listen. Dealing with a cheater for a mate is undeniably difficult, but if you have friends who care about you enough to point it out, you can overcome anything.
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brownskin10
July 19,2010 at 01:30 amMy husband is always working on the weekend I feel like it's someone that he been cheating with at work because he comes home like he is so confuse about coming home something just not working right far as us being married its a waste I have told him that we can do something different in our life to turn it around and make it better. Because I got weak and had affair with some one that was very young like 26yrs old I didn't feel love from my husband at all he very much mental abuse me all the time it was never nothing I did right. I always been a hard work put him first in my life no matter what. But in this affair that I had was not long just friends but one thing turn in to another and it got out of hand. But at the end of this I got use because this guy photograph everything we did expose me to the world andI had to go to law enforcement.
mrflyer
February 10,2010 at 11:44 amArticles like this drive me nuts, because this is bound to put some innocent guys in trouble.
Sometimes people really are working late at office or bring you flowers for no particular reason. And some men have lots of female friends, which doesn't mean they are going to bed together.
For that matter, many gay men have lots of female friends, so maybe that's an indicator that he's gay rather than cheating. See how silly this gets?
How about some better clues he may be cheating, like you found actual evidence? Or he suddenly seems distant for no reason?
PY_2
February 10,2010 at 11:28 amJust another idiotic-gender biased article by ehA.
redhair0317
February 10,2010 at 11:18 amCommunication is key to any relationship and true understanding leaves no room for doubt. Also a strong foundation has to be made and that means not forgetting the basics.
Communication
When there is a disagreement both partners need to come together after first calming down, and allow each person to express their side of the story. Then try this execrise: When speaking to your partner speak clearly and not out of anger and when you've said everything then your partner should be able to say what you said word for word and vice versa The reason for this execerise is that it gives both partners a chance to be heard and you are talking to each other and not past each other.
synchrona
February 4,2010 at 07:10 pmHmmmm,,,,I kinda agree,,,,,BUT,,,,,could it be that I'm in denial
All I know is that once I accepted and he accepted that he had cheated and lied,,,,I gained respect
What really hurt was what his guilt did,,,he withdrew and resented me for ,,ahem,,,,being the 'cause' of his guilt
We're friends,,,but I don't trust him re a relationship
I have to be the one and only
BUT?????
I used to have horses and they would try to get to the greener grass on the other side of the fence when their own pasture was depleted
iLovemyBByKJ
August 23,2009 at 07:12 pmmy baby's daddy told me he wasn't really cheating because it was just through the internet, and its not like "it was every going to happen anyway". yah, that's a load of bull if ya ask me! anyone who has to justify their mistake definitely has issues. Based on my experience, once a cheater, almost, always a cheater or a liar. Guys that don't think they are really cheating, when they are, are the ones that only care for themselves because they put your feelings aside to put their own feelings first. UNFORTUNATELY. that's why, he's just my baby's daddy, and no longer my life partner. talk about a turnoff
Fleuellen
July 29,2009 at 07:34 amWhat is "cheating?" From the posts it seem it is only the soap opera definition of sexual intercourse with other than partner/spouse. Really? A definition of a lie is planting "a false belief planted in the mind of another." I'm really doubting that many of the so called aggrieved kinda don't know. They may just wish they were "the one" but really know they are not. And as for this is a guy has lots of female friends - This is so lame. My female friends would be the first and most critical if they thought I was "cheating" on my partner. My mates - not so much.
D_Lion
July 27,2009 at 04:54 pmLCIII,
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LCIII
July 26,2009 at 05:48 pmWe are all working on the erroneous assumption that we share the same definition of cheating. So, what exactly is cheating? I define cheating as withholding something from someone that they are entitled to. For example, you owe the customer $3.00 in change and you give that customer $2.00 in change. That's cheating!!! Now, when it comes to Man v. Woman, if I am taking another woman to lunch, and MY SPOUSE OR "FIRST-LADY" and I were not committed for lunch that day, time or moment then that is not cheating. Even if I were in a relationship and we had an agreement how far each of us could go, then as long as I didn't exceed my agreed upon limit, then that would not be cheating. The problem lies in the fact that we very seldom spell-out in advance what the limits are in our relationship until someone is disappointed. Then we end what could have been a "beautiful relationship" for failure to properly communicate. I got caught "cheating" but I don't believe that I was really cheating. HAVE A GREAT DAY!!!!!!!
D_Lion
July 26,2009 at 05:09 pmAn article in the New York Times within the past few weeks described recent research (professional researches using survey data) which found about 10% of people admitting infidelity within the prior year, and 20% at any time.
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