Six Signs You're Settling for Second Best

what do you do if you met a great guy worth settling for? I'm talkin the whole shabang. Opens the doors, says romatic things, listens to me and evsrythng. The problem is I dated him for 3 years and I know he's not the one for me. I'm just not sure if I should settle for him. He is a rare catch. All the other good guys are taken or got ruin by some other girl. I know Im only 23 and he 25, but I am not sure if there are gonna be any great guys out there left that i could actually fall for.

I have to agree. I am currently in a relationship with a man and we have good and bad times. The bad times are becoming worst. If we have something planned he doesn't show up or arrives extremely late. When I question him about it, he gets upset as if I am to blame. I told him I worry you don't show up. Everything is, he had a family emergency, he had to work late or he forgot. He is a divorced Dad and if his daughter calls and says she wants candy, he would cancel our plans to run over to be with her. I explained to him she has a Mother and a Step Father who can buy her candy. He claims I am jealous. I'm not jealous, I just think it is ridiculous that he feels guilty and jumps to her every whim. I told him if I gave him those same excuses he would excuse me of seeing someone else. I have decided that he is blocking my blessings from meeting someone new. I am better off single.

"The best person for you will not feel like a fixer-upper." This is soooo true!!! And the funniest part is that sometimes that best person is in front of you!!

I read almost eveyone's situation and comments and there were so good points and meaningful take home lessons from some experiences.
I feel like I am at a cross road in my life and I'm not sure what to do. I am 27 yrs old, have a good career and all that good stuff. I have been dating my boyfriend for 6yrs now and the last 2yrs was a disaster. Found ot he was lying for almost everything and made me change the way I looked at him and most importantly feel for him. I feel really hard to go back out there and date and also i know I will feel lonely. I just don't know if I should walk away after all this time. But there is almost no more trust.
Being single ain't looking like a bad option but I guess I'm just hesitant of throwing away 6yrs.
Sigh...

Speaking from a guy who has been single for a while but generally content. I don't think everybody is meant to be in a relationship. Honestly, outside of what we see in movies and read in books and ya da ya da, reality can sometimes be far different. It takes time, work and commitment, right? A person's survival instinct comes first, do what we need to do to survive, than the rest comes. Not everybody can balance this in a healthy way. I am not saying give up though!

well ladies you are not the only ones that settle i have come to realize i have been doing the same thing the last girl i was with was beatiful and a very nice person. but the drama i call high drama now was ridiculous, she was also a party girl, i love to go out as much as anyone but not 2 or 3 nights a week.my problem was i thought what's so great about you that she is not good enough. she was not the smartest girl and i said that to my friend he said maybe your dumb, which made me think so what no ones perfect what makes you so much better than her. there were times when i was physically shaking my head thinking this is just ridiculous. i'll be honest i loved her but she just wasn't right for me. i worked at a girls house in november and she has given me hope that there is actually nice normal girls out here. this girl has a pretty face and is as nice as can be but my problem is that she is way to good for me. the sad part for me is that the kind of girl i would be head over heels for and the kind of girl i always dreamed of is just to good for me what do you do. i feel like it would only be a matter of time before she realized i wouldn't be good enough. the first girl i was serious with turned out not to be what i was hoping for same with the second but the last two i definately knew before i started they were not perfect for me. so all i can say is good luck trying to wait it out ,i'm in the waiting it out period as we speak. isn't love so exciting, have fun picking at peoples flaws.

Well, if I see any of the afore mentioned clues to settling for second best, baby I run in the opposite . Why ruin someone else' life and your own? Its not fair to the other person and you have a duty to let him or her know! Most people or couples know before they commit there is something wrong with the relationship. Its better to speak up and part your ways or just be friends. I'm not into being dishonest with myself or some who may just might get really hurt. Stats tell us that there are 500 people in the World who are a perfect match, but meeting them is kinda hard . Trust me you have to talk to a lot of men before you get to the first one. But I have met my match about five or 6 times. I declined the offers : STUPID, STUPID STUPID me.

Kate :)

Wow everyone! There are so many positives to being single...just as many as being with the 'right guy'. So if he comes along-great, but if he doesn't, life can be just as wonderful and fun. It's all about perspective and of course, self contentment.

I am not sure that Hollywood love exists, my parents have been married for nearly 60 years and both would tell you and have told me. Love is a relationship between "2" people and those people will always be "2" individuals. You will grow together as a couple and you will share most everything, you will have alot in common to begin with especially attraction, much of it sexual. But that is not chemistry that is physical attraction and can make you accept things about a person that you won't like.
Have a look at yourself are you perfect, will you accept less than perfect from others?
I am not talking about forgeting the fireworks I just figure that when I fall in love it will take a whole lot of time, Not the sort of thing that happens after a cup of coffee and a couple of dinners when I still don't know all the differences that my new partner displays.
Settle NO WAY but expecting to find someone that you may want a break from now and then, My parents say that isn't unheard of, Holly wood wants you to feel good but they never tell the story after "happily ever after"