Our Ten Favorite Dating Tips for Men

For me, the first date is generally a coffee date, which I pay for. It's an opportunity for the two of us to feel each other out. If things go well at the coffee date, then I will take the lady out to dinner. There is nothing wrong with me paying for dinner. Putting aside the issue of it being the "manly" thing to do, why not try thinking about it like this: taking a woman out to dinner is an opportunity for you to show her much you care. By taking her out to dinner, you are, in essence, putting your best foot forward and being a gracious host. Who doesn't want someone to roll the red carped out for them upon first meeting? Most people, if they have any home training, will respond graciously when they're given royal treatment. Even if it doesn't work out romantically, you would have left the lady with a very good impression of who you are.

I'm new to dating again after 17 year marriage, I'll be honest with you, when I go on a date I'm nervous as hell, and paying for dinner is the last thing on my mind, I'm paying, that's just how it is, but for all reallity everyone has an oppinion, and they are all exceptable. Everyone is differant, sugardaddies, sugar mammas, indepentant split the bill, dominant, submisive, controlling, uncontrolable, it goes on, we all have our own ways, no wrong or write ways. As for me I look at a profile, email, and chat, If I go on a date it's because I'm already sure I want to make a connection and who ever it is I'm going to meet is compatible. They already know I'm paying for dinner and a rose, I have to make a good impression, after that if we're really compatable I shouldn't have to go all out for dinner, but just a simple lunch or breakfast or coffee, and I would hope that she would pick up that inexpensive bill just to show she is willing to put something into the relationship, It's a sign us men all need.

I pay for the meal. I would take out a loan to pay for the meal. If you can't pay for a meal then you probably shouldn't be dating. I'm not saying that you have to be rich, but it brings the question of the practicality of dating to the forefront. Culturally, we don't indulge in this practicality, or like to think too much about it, but it's important.

Paying for meals is probably related to your other beliefs and thoughts about female and male roles and how you picture yourself as a husband or father in the future.

Lots to think about, but I say pay.

I agree with most on this one.. first date I am paying for the bill! On the flip side, if she asks me to go to dinner then I would think she was paying. I tend to reach for the check with friends and family anyway.

Perhaps this will help. It's not a one size fits all society? BEing the reason for dating different people. You should have a sense if your date likes a manly man or if she wears the pants. As a women I can tell you every woman wants to be cherished and cared for, make her feel special. It's not like you are handing her toilet paper under the stall!!! Something's are wanted from the man because it tells the women that you are STRONG & CONSIDERATE! I haven't met a gal yet who prefers the limp handshake, over a firm one, but NOT squeezing her hand until its crushes. BALANCE! Buy the meal prepay look like the hero, but don't go backwards and be mousy or you will loose her. FYI paying for a dinner ISN'T a big issue, so don't make it one. Be secure.

I can't help but notice after reading several dozen comments from you guys and gals, that paying for dinner is a big issue. I've finally got into open conversation with someone with whom I've met on eharmony and have gone through guided communication with. Everything so far is right as rain. We're getting to know one another and seem to have a common interest in each other.

Tonight I sent my first eharmony ''email'' to her. I won't go into details about what I said in the email, as that's not relevant to my question at hand. So I sent her just a nice quick email to say I'm enjoying getting to know her through guided messages, and that I hope we can continue getting to know one another. I then asked a few light questions in reference to a picture where she appears to be exploring a cave. Something light, to make conversation with. Nothing to personal, and nothing to boring like ''Hey, whats up''.

So assuming things go well down the road and we've talked a few times by phone, I intend to ask her out. (thats the idea, right?) And after reading 3/10 dating tips, I've given thought as to possibly doing something like Mr. Hamilton did with his friends. By paying for lunch or dinner ahead of time. For one, I think it shows you can take charge. Secondly, i would think it skips that ackward moment when the bill is placed on the table and you look at each other. My person opinion is, unless the woman asked the man out, it's his bill to pay. Atleast for the first date. Maybe you guys feel different. If I pre-paid for dinner or lunch, is there the chance she could be insulted she wasn't atleast given the chance to pay her part or help out.

Let me know what you all think of this idea. It's not concrete or anything, it's just an idea, and I've had this idea before. I was just thinking of implementing into my date. Your thoughts?