Men's Ten Biggest Complaints About Women
You meet us. You like us. You date us. You marry us. And somewhere along the way it might seem that you love us just as we are, but rarely does it work out that way. Women see potential. They see rough edges, and they want to sand them off. This makes us crazy. We don’t want to change. We have chosen our car, hair, friends, home and hobbies because we enjoy them. The knowledge that you are thinking, “If he could only….” is a deeply disturbing thought, and perhaps more sinister is the idea that this behavior is so common that even if you aren’t the kind of woman who wants change, we expect that you do and are only biding your time.
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abonnymouse
June 2,2011 at 12:43 amWe can't help crying. It's our hormone balance. Many of us don't want to cry and really hate it.Try this: "I'm sorry I upset you. Let's talk about this later." That way, nobody wins, you look empathetic, like the bigger person, and you get to talk about it when she is better able to discuss it. Offer a hug, and if she doesn't want it, leave her alone. (If she says no but really wants one, that is a different story--that is bigger than the crying issue.) Bring her a cuppa her favorite (wine, tea, coffee) and let her know that you're up for discussing it later if she wants. This indicates you view the topic is not closed but that you respect her as well.
Mel
January 18,2012 at 08:59 pmGood one!
Anonymous
January 19,2012 at 08:07 amSpot on! I hope the guys r listening. As for the article section on men being afraid women want to change their man, I think it's ridiculous to present this as a gender based issue, I think the number of men who are more than happy to pay for breast implants does make accusations and discussion moot. Changes we ask for don't cause so much pain Physically or emotionally for such a risk to one's health. The fact is you guys are way too powerful and influential for being a bunch of spoiled babies.
Anonymous
February 3,2012 at 02:04 amDon't call us babies! You're the one crying all the time. And hormones are not excuse for. Women don't respect man anymore. It is seems like every second one has daddy issues. I know Freud said that we are based on our parents relationship but it is too much lately. Flushing news for you ladies out there we are not equal. Somebody has to take charge and biologically we are the one that wire to do so. I am for respecting women but equality and feminsm movements ruined everything. Women don't us to be nice they want us to be strong and dependable. If we show any signs of weaknes, you will have us for dinner or better yet accuse us of being weak. Relationship is a job of both and nagging is not what I am taking about. I thank we should send our significant others to China once a year then they would respect men more. I hate all the drama that TVs brings into our life's from let's be on the brake to let's stay friends B's that what I call it.
Anonymous
January 19,2012 at 09:22 amIf these were lessons learned...you are on point. Women are emotional and we cry..(some more easier than other I must admit) However, if you follow the suggestions above you might find a much better outcome.
Anonymous
January 19,2012 at 09:34 amHere is the deal....learning to listen to what a person is saying is key. Take emotion out of it, listening and hearing what a person is trying to relay to you can take the sting out of a lot of conversations. I think we are on the defense all the time and block out what is crucial and insert additional emotional isms lurking just below the surface. However, check this out..sometimes we can't get to the crux of a problem unless we push.
Yes, the outburst can be volatile yet through that outburst...some truth lurks in the balance and you have to be ready to deal with it in a sane manner.
My ex. and I used to play roles and it put things into perspective for me at least. He would ask me to be his "friend" not his lover, and just listen to the subject impartially. Of course its hard, but it forced me to "hear" what he was trying to say..and not get upset thinking he is trying to hurt me in some way.
Learning to take the emotion out (in some cases) and thinking logically works for me now.
Anonymous
January 20,2012 at 07:39 ambrilliant!!!
Anonymous
January 22,2012 at 12:06 amListen to your emotions. This is logical. Not ignoring your bodies messages.
A doctor may have a very good case till you get a second oppiOnion.
AS YOUR MATE MAY ALSO.
CAN HE RELATE AND VALIDATE YOUR PERCEPTION TOO?
MESSAGES TO YOU SHOW THROUGH YOUR EMOTIONS. SOMETIMES DISCOMFORT IS ONLY A PUSH FOR CHANGE AND VALIDATION. TO IGNORE YOURSELF IS TO NOT VALIDATE YOUR OWN SELF IN SOME CASES. LIKE MATTERS OF LOVE.
Anonymous
January 19,2012 at 05:03 pmOf all the double standards that ladies accuse the male of, the ladies really need to wake up to reality. The comment about hormones is an absolute joke. There is a hormone called testosterone that affects males much more than extrogen in a female, however males are supposed to control it, but ladies don't need to control their emotional outbursts? Really? This is the ultimate double standard and believe me ladies, there are plenty more where that came from. Ladies are sometimes so far off the mark when they accuse men of one thing and their own actions bring their own result. I know estrogen is the root cause of everything illogical, but I expect more from a woman - control yourself.
Anonymous
January 19,2012 at 10:19 pmI agree with you that many women have imposed a double standard on men, control your hormone reactions and getting mad when you are not able to. As a female who cries very easy and has learned to control it some, if not most of the time I know it is possible to learn some manner of control. It took a lot of hard work and practice, but I did not like the idea someone would think I was trying to manipulate the situation with my crying. I know some women cry to manipulate the situation, but I hated/hate being put into that category!!!
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