5 Reasons She Won't Call You Back

myusernamehere: There's only one reason she won't call you back: she's incredibly rude. It's fine if she's not interested but why can't she just send a quick "sorry, not interested" response? It's very disrespectful to be ignored entirely.

Imagine you go for a job interview. They decide not to hire you but don't tell you that you aren't being hired. They just leave you hanging. Would you be too happy about that?

Anyone?

myusernamehere:
Imagine you go for a job interview. They decide not to hire you but don't tell you that you aren't being hired. They just leave you hanging. Would you be too happy about that?

Anyone?

There's only one reason she won't call you back: she's incredibly rude. It's fine if she's not interested but why can't she just send a quick "sorry, not interested" response? It's very disrespectful to be ignored entirely.

Imagine you go for a job interview. They decide not to hire you but don't tell you that you aren't being hired. They just leave you hanging. Would you be too happy about that?

So What do you do if you're the repeat offender?

jayhawkgirl: Me, too. I am much more likely to respond if a guy mentions something specific in my profile when he first contacts me. I hate the canned e-mail (and it is so obvious).

EH Is an endless smorgasbord where the members tend to be gluttonous. 5, 50 500 reasons, pick a number, you will be correct. Short, medium or long profiles are like resumes: someone will want what you write and others will not. No correct answer.

JustAskGloria: Someday, when you're 65, you will understand that the older man who responded to you, feels like....maybe you'll remember back and say...."wow, can't believe I said that to that man."

Everyone wants to and deserves to be loved. That's the real reason that most people are on dating sites. They might not have the characteristics you like....or like my son's response--when I would say, "I can't believe you asked me that question," -- Hey, it was worth a try.;)

JustAskGloria

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If it's the same lady that we have in the forum (and it appears that she is), then she is middle aged, and should treat other middle agers more gingerly:p

Ihategasprices: 2 reasons --most women on- line are conceited.-Most women online are flaky. 

I totally agree. Most women online are not really ready for a relationship. Sometimes they go into so much details about who they are looking for. You read those profiles and see that you fit their description to a T. Then you send an email. And you can see that they got it. But then, no replies. You wait days....maybe weeks. You send another mail. Same result: no reply. Now, that can be annoying. Personally, I appreciate a simple "Sorry I am not interested/seeing someone etc".

oprlvr: My peeve is the middle aged men I frequently receive 'flirts' from --- worse yet --- asking for a coffee "date", etc. Like we're really going to have lots in common :( when the age difference is so obvious.

Peeve? I would imagine that once you put your profile up on a dating site, you pretty much invited every member of that site to hit on you. It is now up to you to accept their advances or reject them. This shouldn't be considered a peeve.
And, unless you're younger than 25, and your definition of middle age is older than 40, there is nothing abnormal in a relationship with such an age gap. Going by EH standards, age is really just a number, and should not preclude a relationship between willing partners.
And (I could be totally wrong here. If I am I apologize). Going by the picture that you posted, you should be in your mid to late 30s at least. If so, then it is totally expected that middle aged men (defined as between 40 and 60) will regularly hit on you.
Again, you have a right to decide what you really want, but it would be wrong to feel annoyed that "middle aged" men are flirting with you on a dating site. In my profile on another site, I stated that I wanted to be with women aged 30-35. But women as old as 48 years are sending me flirts all the time. Hey, I still want to have kids and can't marry post-menopausal women!
I simply delete the flirts or even politely respond to them, because those women can't give me what I'm looking for. But I never got annoyed.

sstimess: No photo no reply. It's not bad enough woman hate themselves so much that they are undergoing plastic surgery in record numbers. Fixing as many things about their outwardly appearance as possible while ignoring the internal issues that drive men away. Don't forget how they dye their hair, use make-up, false eye-lashes, etc., etc., etc. aw sell as the lighting of the photo, which can hide wrinkles and such, air brushing of the photos to hide other flaws, stetching the photo to make them look thinner, etc., etc., etc. Anyone dumb enough to think that the picture will actually match the person that they meet is kidding themselves.
If this is the reason she gives then you know she is totally out of touch with reality. And that she is not interested in meeting a loving and caring male; she's more interested in proving to that group of enablers she calls girl friends that she has the hottest guy. Good sign of a narcissist and should be avoided at all costs. Be thankful she never called back. I can't tell yu how many damaged females there are out there and how they never learn and continue to do it to themselves with utter abandon.

Amen to that, I honestly think that most women would rather be used and abused than go with that one man that would treat them with the dignity and respect that we all want from the opposite sex.

jayhawkgirl: What I'm talking about are the e-mails I get that say something like, "I read your profile and it blew me away! What you said really struck something inside me and I felt compelled to write to you immediately."

But then there's absolutely no mention of what was allegedly so compelling in my profile. A friend of mine and I got the exact same e-mail---three full paragraphs---word for word, full of that stuff, from the same guy. That is disingenuous and that's why I'm suspicious when I get something like that.

I can see having a few standard lines prepared that you send to everyone in a first e-mail, but is it really so difficult to add just one sentence that mentions something specific about that person? That would take, maybe....one minute? I always include something personal (i.e. that shows I've read the guy's profile) in my e-mails---even when I'm saying "no thank you," so I don't think it's asking that much.

Of course, that would require that you actually read the woman's profile first, and who wants to take time to do that, right? Easier to just send a mass e-mail, shotgun style, to every cute chick and see what you get back. I get it.

I read the profile of every woman i screen here but i never even get to the email part because i swear that everyone I've been matched with is shallow or ultra superficial because i can't even get past the guided part in order to get to the email section. You all complain about the guy not reading your profile but what you all are guilty of is judging some one solely on his pic. Sure he may read your profile and even may ask a question or 2 out of curiosity just to spark up a conversation but nothing is ever going to go anywhere if he can't get a response. Here's a tip: try getting to know that person before you decide that he's "not your type" just because he's not obviously screaming sexy and handsome in his pic.