10 Signs He's Into You
Wondering if that cutie you’re dating digs you for real? The clues to knowing if he’s genuinely into you aren’t the big, showy gestures you might think. So stop keeping score on flowers, gifts, and fancy dinners.
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1. He Calls for no Reason
If your guy’s really into you, he doesn’t wait five days after a date to call you. Instead, he calls you whenever he feels like it, even if it’s just to say hi and see how your day is going. If you’ve been dating a lot of players recently, this new, emotionally available behavior may seem startling. Don’t criticize or judge it. Instead, enjoy it!
2. He Actively Seeks out your Company
Not only does your guy call if he’s really into you, but he also makes an effort to see you regularly. And it’s not just about having a hot date on Saturday night. When a guy genuinely likes you, he wants to spend time with you, regardless of what you do together. So if your cutie invites you to hang out and watch movies at his place, get coffee after work, or meet at the Laundromat on Sunday night so you can keep each other company while washing your clothes, chances are good that he’s into you. If you feel comfortable, reciprocate by seeking out his company.
3. He Makes Time for you in his Life
Even in our overly scheduled modern-day lives, if a guy’s into you, he makes time for you. So if he calls to say he’s going away on a business trip for a few days but would like to see you before he goes, wants to talk while he’s away, or is intent on making plans once he returns, all signs point to the fact that he’s honestly into you. Make sure you make time for your man, regardless of your own busy schedule.
4. His Friends know about You
Chances are, you’ve dated the kind of guy who showers you with attention and gifts and also chases you incessantly, but never introduces you to the other people in his life. While this behavior may be confusing, the truth is that when a guy is really into you, he includes you in his entire life. That means his friends know about you. And not just how hot or sexy you are, but how interesting, funny, and amazing you are. As time goes on, he not only tells his friends about you, but he introduces you to them and makes you a part of his inner circle. Show your appreciation by making an effort to get to know his friends.
5. He Takes the Time to get to know your Friends
Not only does a guy who’s into you share his friends with you, but he takes the time to get to know and appreciate your friends. And while a player might seize the opportunity to flirt with your girlfriends, a guy who’s really into you shows genuine interest in your gal pals while reserving his affection for you only. Let him know that you appreciate him by returning his affections.
6. He Maintains eye Contact
When you’re with your sweetie, a sure sign that he’s into you is his ability to comfortably make and maintain eye contact. If a guy has ulterior motives or just isn’t interested in who you really are, he won’t bother looking you in the eye. So if your cutie catches and keeps your gaze, smile and return his gaze, enjoying the fact that he’s really into you.
7. He Leans in when you’re Talking
Not only will your man maintain eye contact if he’s into you, but his body language will be equally telling. If he leans in when you talk, keeps his torso facing you, maintains eye contact, and doesn’t cross his arms and legs defensively, he’s showing you his emotional availability and interest through his body. Be sure to practice the same kind of physical communication with your own body language.
8. He Listens
If your potential boyfriend’s body language tells you that he’s into you, the next sign to look for is how well he listens and responds to you. Is the conversation always all about him or does he ask you questions, seek out your opinion, and genuinely seem interested in what you have to say? When a guy’s really into you, he not only makes you a part of the conversation, but he also asks for your input, listens intently, and responds appropriately. Let your love interest know that you’re interested by listening and responding to him, as well.
9. He Regularly Touches You
While a player may engage in inappropriate levels of PDA, a guy who’s really into you may be less demonstrative. However, that doesn’t mean he won’t touch you at all. In fact, if you’re dating someone who’s really into you, he’ll routinely touch your arm when he’s talking, stroke your back reassuringly, and hold your hand when the time is right. These displays of affection show respect, intimacy, and interest. If you feel comfortable, let him know you’re interested by gently touching him in a similar fashion from time to time.
10. He Takes an Interest in your Interests
A surefire way to know if your man sees a future with you is if he takes an interest in your interests. Even if it’s something that doesn’t appeal to him, like Pilates, painting, or your Portuguese language lessons, he’ll encourage you to pursue your interests and ask you about them. Be sure to return the favor and engage him about his own interests. So there you have it – ten surefire signs that the guy you’re dating is really into you. Once you educate yourself on the signals that matter, you’ll be better equipped to see and sift through the superficial players in your environment and then identify the genuine gems worth dating.
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Ashly
February 27,2012 at 11:44 pmI met this guy. And so far, he's a 10/10 on this one :), that just made my day :) We even talk on the phone. Not text...He's sweet, funny, fun, a stoner like me lol. He has kids, but he always makes time for me. He's come over every night for atleast 3 days. Iv known him for about a month and i only slept wiht him once, and that wasn't on the first date :) he's still into me.
Thoughs of you out there that havnt met the right one. You will, plenty of fish in the sea :)
harnomygirl
June 20,2011 at 04:58 pmShe said there was a spark between them. She liked him too.
eha_answer_man
June 20,2011 at 04:46 pm@ anita2205 in Post #101:
One date and he's that crazy about you ?
Run away! Run away!
Trust me on this one.
harnomygirl
June 20,2011 at 04:36 pmBe patient. You'll find out after your vacation and there's nothing you can do until then. The ball is in his court, but you could let him know that you're back when you get home.
anita2205
June 20,2011 at 02:00 pmWell, I met a guy from dating site and had all this 10 signs, he was really exited to meet up for the first time, the date was perfect, looking into my eyes, listening me what I had to say, let him kiss me goodbye. I had to go on holiday next day I met him, he was ringing me for no reason, texting me out of blue, saying he is going to miss me now after he found me, until I had to switch off the phone on the aeroplain he was texting, next day was one last text and never heard again from him....I text him just to ask him how he was never replied.....We had that spark between us, what happened I don't know, if he is going to be in touch with me after I go back from holiday I don't know.I really would like someone to tell me has it been just a good acting or what was that???
harnomygirl
June 17,2011 at 10:37 amI don't think it did:
sunshineforme
June 17,2011 at 07:57 amHope all works out for you!
vanknight
June 2,2011 at 01:10 pmThen why did you let him do all these things, if he wasn't worth your time. At what point did it occur to you, after the free meal or before?:eek:
PinkyOnyx
February 8,2011 at 07:08 pmWell I got 7 out of 10 going for me so far. I started dating this guy that I was matched on eH with and things were kinda bumpy for me at first. He was difficult to read and was secretive about alot of things. But slowly he began to open up, not by much but I've been satisfied with the progress, and now I am at the point where I am wondering if he is into me for me, so these really help.
Luckily, he does make time for me and seeks out my company. He is a single parent so we have to balance four schedules, his and my work schedules and his child's school and custodial schedules. But despite him being so busy, he does make time to see me; which is usually me staying the night at his place and spending most of the following day with him.We also have gone on a few dates, lately we've both had some financial struggles that cut back our dates, which is fine since I get to see him regardless. I love every minute because we just seem to grow closer. Even though these night overs happen when he doesn't have custody of his child that night. I have yet to meet his child, due to him wanting to protect her and see where we are going.
Our "Calling" is actually texting lol. I know that sounds bad for alot of you out there, but that is my usual form of communication with everyone. Because I have yet to meet my guy's child, our communication is limited to texting regularly with the occasional phone call here and there. But sometimes he will text me out of the blue, asking me what's up, asking how my work is going; small things like that.
Another big thing is the touching. We aren't types that usually hold hands or kiss in public because we are private people. But I don't think if you saw us in a store you'd think "wow, those two are good friends." My friends who have met him said we had an air that just said "We are a couple, but we don't have to show it". But when we are alone, we never stop touching each other. And its non-sexual too. We are both playful people, so we have the playful "love taps" and wrestle fights. He is always moving my hair out of my face. When we are watching TV or a movie, he's either holding my hand or has his hand on my hip or thigh. And yes, there are the occasional butt taps and playful grope.
And lastly, is his eye contact and him listening. It's hard for me though to keep eye contact because I am shy all the time, and his eyes are so beautiful, they take my breath away. He has picked up that I am shy and get nervous around him because I like him so much, and he teases me alot about it, hehe. But when we talk, its so easy. And he listens intently and adds small comments when its right.
I am so lucky to have found this guy... is it too good to be true?!
seekerd
February 7,2011 at 01:23 pmOK, man to man, I'll say you need to get a grip of yourself and man up already. I don't bloody care if this woman was an angel. 16 years (maybe 17) is more than enough for anyone to grief for an unrequited love, especially when the other person is already married.
You are not going to live here forever, so why waste so much of your time pining over another man's wife?
Even if someone died, you have one year to grief over them, tops. Anything more is considered pathological grief in medical circles.
Get over it, dude. Get out there and go be another woman's husband. There so many beautiful women hoping and praying everyday to meet a real man for a husband. Be one. And do it full time.
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