shapeShifter79 is offline shapeShifter79 Post #1  September 1,2011, 7:21am
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My ex-wife informed me she planned to begin taking our children to a new religious institution (unnamed) she doesn't believe in--because she feels isolated and could socialize with the people there.

She wanted our daughter to attend religious school there (1) to make life-long friends, (2) to learn about religion for cultural literacy purposes, and (3) who knows maybe that sect is right about God?

Argh! What silly reasons to join a particular religion!

Thank goodness I talked her out of it.

So much for opposing religions being a non-issue if they don't believe.
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Good for you! There are plenty of ways to give our children an objective view of religion without attending religious services or schools. They'll get a far more rounded look at faith and religion that way.
 
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What Religion was Jesus? Is Religion Jesus?
Religion = Man
Jesus = life
The problem has always been man and there attempts to the answers of life but what do we really know? Man is always learning and growing in knowledge but never coming to the understanding of truth. Religion is a twist of truth and mans efforts to god, gods, and God. However stranger thing happen and some have used this bridge as a step of faith and found Jesus. Some Tried to find Jesus and end up with nothing more then Religion. Jesus hates religion but in this world the 2 have become one. That is just the battle we face to get to truth. My question to you is this. Why do you hate so much? Has Religion (God) done you wrong? Or is it that excepting God a king and truth will put a wet blanket on the things that you want to do! So did you really do a good thing with your wife or was it a self anger you have to a god that love you.
There is a better way to true (religion) faith and that is in prayer, keeping an open mind, and study. Know one knows all. But the best way is being let by the spirit within you (not the flesh) and God Word. Tried, tested, and is still the # 1 book in history in all things and even in this conversation. Thanks.
 
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Creostone wrote :
Why do you hate so much?
Why do you curse so much?

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Has Religion (God) done you wrong?

Make up your mind--first Religion = Man, now Religion = God.

Members of some religious groups have done me right and of some others have done me wrong--as with most people. If this particular religious group gave away free chocolate chip cookies every Winter Solstice, I would still emphatically say "no" to having my children indoctrinated in a Druidic sect that neither I nor the mother believes.

You're free to do otherwise with your kids.
 
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@Creostone ppl like you are lucky i don't believe in hell hahahahahah
 
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@shapeShifter79 sorry if i just posted that response the wrong way, im new to all this. I was hoping this thread was about if its a good idea to call yourself a christian even if you are not in order to get better matches. If i called myself a politically conservative person who practices the christian religion instead of a native american influenced neo-pagan thats active in the libertarian movement i think the site would give me better matches, but if they are socially conservative and want to circumcise our sons, send them to church and so on then thats divorce status. Is there a thread somewhere for that?
 
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shapeShifter79 wrote :
My ex-wife informed me she planned to begin taking our children to a new religious institution (unnamed) she doesn't believe in--because she feels isolated and could socialize with the people there.

She wanted our daughter to attend religious school there (1) to make life-long friends, (2) to learn about religion for cultural literacy purposes, and (3) who knows maybe that sect is right about God?

Argh! What silly reasons to join a particular religion!

Thank goodness I talked her out of it.

So much for opposing religions being a non-issue if they don't believe.
Hopefully you have at least joint legal custody of your kids so you have equal say-so in their religious upbringing.

If your ex-wife wants to attend some religion you don't agree with, that's her prerogative. However, depending on the terms of your parenting plan/divorce decree, she may not have the unilateral right to take them to a church that you disagree with.
 
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MountainJason wrote :
I was hoping this thread was about if its a good idea to call yourself a christian even if you are not in order to get better matches.
In my estimation that's not a good idea.

First, lying about something fundamental to your life partner will require increasing memory and mental effort. For example, when you meet her congregation and they ask you about your old congregation and the moment you accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior you'll have to remember those lies, too.

"Oh what a tangled web we weave,
When first we practise to deceive."

Second, consider the impact on your conscience, self-esteem, and character. When you fall in-love with her, you're going to be lying to someone you love for your own personal gain. Further, she won't love you, she'll love who she imagines you are. Will you and others respect your character given that and when lies become easier?

Third, your religion may like most follow the golden rule which includes not deceiving others for personal gain.

Fourth, you already mentioned kids!

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If i called myself a politically conservative person who practices the christian religion instead of a native american influenced neo-pagan thats active in the libertarian movement i think the site would give me better matches
Actually, a non-Christian will get Christian matches on eH. They simply won't get Christian matches who only want to be matched with other Christians. And I don't see why you believe Christian matches who rule you out for your reigion would typically be "better" since at their core they'll usually have different values than you.
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
Hopefully you have at least joint legal custody of your kids so you have equal say-so in their religious upbringing.
Thanks Wonderwoman, I have joint legal custody and primary physical custody--you are correct, it appears I may even have legal recourse if she attempts to change the religious approach we've been folowing the past several years. This time she backed down with a bit of common sense, but I'll store away that little nugget in case she tries to change things in the future.
 
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