Is praying in a restaurant on a first date a little strange?


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lynn_79 is offline lynn_79 Post #1  July 17,2011, 9:32am
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I am Christian and my date is also. We met for the first time at a very casual restaurant and when our food arrived, he proceeded to pray. I was a little surprised, as my family and I have always prayed at home and not in a restaurant. I've never seen people do this before in such a setting, so I naturally felt a little embarrassed and unsure of what to do. I personally believe that prayer is a very personal thing between a person and God.

What do you think?

(side note - I do not live in the Bible belt, where perhaps this is a usual practice)
 
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I've seen people do it...doesn't offend me.
as long as they don't make huge production out of it(and I've never seen anyone try)...I see it as they're "doing their own thing", spiritually.
(And it is a personal thing between him and his god...and that's why he didn't ask you to participate)
 
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TheThinker wrote :
I've seen people do it...doesn't offend me.
as long as they don't make huge production out of it(and I've never seen anyone try)...I see it as they're "doing their own thing", spiritually.
(And it is a personal thing between him and his god...and that's why he didn't ask you to participate)
Actually, he did ask me. . .or mumbled. He was kind of soft spoken, so I didn't catch on to what he asking immediately.
 
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lynn_79 wrote :
Actually, he did ask me. . .or mumbled. He was kind of soft spoken, so I didn't catch on to what he asking immediately.
If I recall correctly, the eHarmony article on Christian dating suggests praying on a first dinner date to gauge their date's reaction. I'm just throwing it out there that this may not be his usual m.o. but something he read to try on a dating advice page.
 
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If I recall correctly, the eHarmony article on Christian dating suggests praying on a first dinner date to gauge their date's reaction. I'm just throwing it out there that this may not be his usual m.o. but something he read to try on a dating advice page.
Maybe. Hmm. I wish it wasn't so difficult to find a normal Christian guy! It's either one extreme or the other. Where are all the regular down to earth, Christian guys? I don't recall the men in my family going overboard when they were dating, trying to pray with their dates or evangelize. I respect a firm belief in God, but I just can't relate to the people who have to fly their freak flag, forgive the example. LOL

Maybe being single isn't so bad after all.
 
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I'm not religious, but I wouldn't find that strange - isn't that part of being religious/spiritual? I mean, engaging in the practices that are considered cornerstone? Like praying? Which some people do all the time and actually sounds like a nice thing to share, for people who are into that sort of thing?
 
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I'm not religious, but I wouldn't find that strange - isn't that part of being religious/spiritual? I mean, engaging in the practices that are considered cornerstone? Like praying? Which some people do all the time and actually sounds like a nice thing to share, for people who are into that sort of thing?
Well, this was the first time I've ever prayed or seen others pray in a restaurant. I feel it's a more personal practice - that's the way I've been brought up.
 
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When I go out with my friend and her family, they always pray before meals. I always tend to forget and have to stop and put my fork down! I've also seen many other people in public do this.

Those I've witnessed doing it always do it in a respectable, quiet manner. Personally I think it's wonderful in this era of selfishness and greed.
 
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lynn_79 wrote :
Well, this was the first time I've ever prayed or seen others pray in a restaurant. I feel it's a more personal practice - that's the way I've been brought up.
I'll tell you this, if I met a woman who was cool, and this is the extent of the "strangeness" I'd have to put up with...I'd have no problem seeing her again.

I dunno..as long as this guy's not shoving the Bible down your throat over dinner, I think you'll be fine.
 
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lynn_79 wrote :
I wish it wasn't so difficult to find a normal Christian guy! It's either one extreme or the other. Where are all the regular down to earth, Christian guys? I don't recall the men in my family going overboard when they were dating, trying to pray with their dates or evangelize. I respect a firm belief in God, but I just can't relate to the people who have to fly their freak flag, forgive the example. LOL

Maybe being single isn't so bad after all.
I think that I am a "normal Christian guy!" And yet I evidently fly my "freak flag" regularly when I am out as I pray over my meals. I do not, however, make a big production out of it and am not trying to evangelize my dates or the people eating around me. It is just what I do.

And it if fairly normal behavior in the crowd that I run in. And no, I do not live in the Bible Belt either.
 
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