Diana_P is offline Diana_P Post #1  June 4,2011, 5:04pm
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Do you believe the Spirit of God can lead you to the right one? How do you know if it is His choice or your choice?
 
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i do believe that the "spirit of God" can lead you to the right one and to me it will always be "His" choice. it can't not be his choice. he made you, he knows who will work for you and who wouldn't so i think his choice would become your choice.
 
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There's a great book by Dr. Henry Cloud, who is both a psychologist and a clergyman, called "Finding A Date Worth Keeping". In the book, he outlines a plan for meeting and dating "Mr. Right". In his practice, he meets a lot of women who think "God will send me a mate when it is the right time". And, he agrees! But, he also feels that you still need to be out there "helping" God to do that. And that means joining online dating sites, attending singles events, letting friends set you up, just getting out there and meeting other single people in your day-to-day life...

He might "send you a mate" - but not if you're not there to receive him/her!
 
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A simple question........Does 'God' ....CHOOSE?
 
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mitchell175 wrote :
He might "send you a mate" - but not if you're not there to receive him/her!
True
 
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hermes01 wrote :
A simple question........Does 'God' ....CHOOSE?
.........or maybe just provides us with the right options?
 
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hermes01 is offline hermes01 Post #7  June 7,2011, 11:17pm
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Does 'God' 'provide'.................?
IT is Eternal....to 'provide' is a movement in time.
 
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The following is an opinion of a 28 year old single guy. It in no way reflects the opinions of all 28 year old single guys.

My "singleness" gets brought up a lot in the church group and seems to be a favorite topic for the "fix-it" squad. Most of what they offer is the usual talk like, "God has made someone for everyone," "You'll find them when you aren't looking," "Oatmeal with cheese? Madness!". Let me explain what these mean with a bit more clarity.

"God has made someone for everyone":
The Bible says that it is not good for man to be alone. (Gen 2:18) Does that mean God has someone for you? Possibly. There are those in the Bible who never married, or at least never had wives mentioned. Others have been called to be single. God knows the desires of your heart however. (1 Chronicles 28:9) If you deeply desire a significant other, God knows that. If it is not in His plan for you to have one, He will not only change that desire in your heart, but also prepare you for a life with just you and Him.

"You'll find them when you aren't looking."
He gives the desires of your heart (Psalms 37:4). If you are seeking God in an active relationship, God will honor that and if there is someone out there for you, He will bring that person into your life. And as I said earlier, if it isn't in His plan that you get married, He will make Himself sufficient for you.

On a more personal note: God talked to me on this one and said that this also has to do with surrendering that desire to Him. When you give God all your hopes and dreams and lay them down before Him, He doesn't always take them all away. More often than you'd think, He gives them right back to us in the way He wants you to have them. (I could go into great detail about this, but that's another sermon.)

"Oatmeal with cheese? Madness!"
Try it. Seriously.
 
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ForgedInFire wrote :
When you give God all your hopes and dreams and lay them down before Him, He doesn't always take them all away. More often than you'd think, He gives them right back to us in the way He wants you to have them. (I could go into great detail about this, but that's another sermon.)

"Oatmeal with cheese? Madness!"
Try it. Seriously.
What do you mean by He gives them right back?
 
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((Mostly just bad wording on my part. Let me explain...))

It's a common fear among Christians (or at least the ones I know) that when we surrender the things of our lives over to God, He takes them away from us and doesn't let us have them. For example, well, an example in my life was computer gaming when I was younger. I didn't want to give that up to God cause I was afraid He would say "No more gaming". It was a real struggle to give it over to Him because of the fear of losing it attached to it.

When I finally did give it over to God, He told me that I didn't have to give it up, but let Him be Lord in that area of my life as well. Since then, God has gotten me involved in Christian Gaming Ministries and among other things. What I gave over to God, He let me keep, instead of taking it away from me.

The whole point behind this is, when it comes to finding Mr./Mrs. Right, the same principal is in effect. If we don't surrender that desire over to God, we don't give Him the opportunity to work in it. There is always the chance that God doesn't want us to have something we give over to Him, but more often than you'd think, He just wants to be Lord of it and will let you keep that desire.

((Hope that clarifies it a bit. Sometimes I can be a bit off with my wording.))
 
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