musry is offline musry Post #1  September 5,2010, 9:21pm
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so, i have been on EH for a little bit now, and i am just wondering would be a bad idea to quote bible verses when answering someone's 2nd question??
i really like some bible verses, and they really fit in some situations.. would it make me look like a snob when if i use them?
i am sure it might scare some people away, but that's not totally a bad thing right?
 
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Wonderwoman402 is offline Wonderwoman402 Post #2  September 5,2010, 10:04pm
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It will probably make you look "holier than thou" to do so, but if you're only wanting to be matched with a super-religious bible thumper, go for it!
 
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It depends on what the question is, what is the context and your purpose/motivation for using the scripture.

As it may put some men off if, you are responding to a basic question with a scripture. i.e. What do you like to do for fun?
 
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musry is offline musry Post #4  September 6,2010, 9:37am
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the question was "What have you learned from past relationships?"
and i basically said, to live more in the moment and not worry too much about the future.... kinda like Matthew 6:34!

hope it doesn't make sound like a bible thumber... haha
 
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I would immediately close any match that was remotely evangelical or had any religious references. A bible quote would be a huge turnoff.
 
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musry wrote :
the question was "What have you learned from past relationships?"
and i basically said, to live more in the moment and not worry too much about the future.... kinda like Matthew 6:34!

hope it doesn't make sound like a bible thumber... haha
Any time you quote the Bible to people who don't share your faith, you become a Bible thumper. It is not received well. I would close a match who did this.
 
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musry is offline musry Post #7  September 8,2010, 10:10pm
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yeah, i honestly wouldn't want to date someone that doesn't share my faith......
so.. lol let me rephrase the question...

to all the Christians out there... is it rude to quote from the bible...
 
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Dear Musry,

Welcome to eHarmony Advice (eHA) and thanks for posting.

I'm a Christian - a born-again Believer I'll say - to distinguish from the more umbrella usage of Christian.

I once had a match who'd managed to fill out most of his personal page using Scripture and almost every answer was Scripture.

It was like reading the Bible and did not give me an idea of who the person really was or what they really thought other than they could quote Scripture.

To answer your question specifically, "No, it's not rude to quote from the Bible."

It seems to me that you answered the question about what you've learned from past relationships just fine and not in any preachy sort of way.

That does turn people off - even Believers.

There's probably things in your eHarmony "About Me" profile that shows you're a Christian and those who do walk with the Lord on a day-by-day basis show it through the way they talk and through their walk.

Just write your matches the same way you'd talk to them. It's rather doubtful that you talk to people in Bible verse quotes, so don't do that in writing either.

Be yourself. Write like you speak. There may be an occasion if someone asks you in the Stage 1 questions, "How often do you lose your temper," that you might choose to write-in your answer and below is an example of how you might use Scripture in a non-preachy way. Possibly something like,

"Am patient, slow to anger. Like to follow the Proverb, 'A soft answer turneth away wrath . . . ,"

or whatever your answer would be.

Do you see the difference? Simply write as you would speak your answer.

You see, as a Christian, you show your Christian walk by the Fruits of the Spirit and your actions. You do not have to spout Scripture to model Jesus and to be His hands and arms on earth.

Here's some wise counsel for you. "People don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care." Dr. James Dobson

That why on Thanksgiving Day say, they go around and pick up the homeless on busses, have a really nice meal with lots of good food given to them, and THEN have a short message of some sort.

Do you see how it works? The caring comes FIRST.

You will have plenty of time to share Scripture with your matches over time. Always remember, too, that actions speak louder than words.

There's a time and place for everything under the sun, as Ecclesiastes tells us, so wait for the prudent timing and place so people are not turned off - though some will always be no matter what.

Just let those roll like rainwater off your back.

Simply be who you are. You don't want your answers to read like a Bible commentary or concordance or such.

You can answer a person's second questions in a regular way. The person will soon learn what you're all about without quoting Scriptures in your answers.

Remember, the Pharisees and Sadducees often quoted the Scriptures to Jesus, and they were the biggest hypocrites of all.

Keep in mind your match wants to communicate with a human being - not a robot. If the person wants to read the Bible, he or she can do so.

Your love for God will come through so just relax and don't overthink it.

Remember, too, that no one is perfect until they get to Heaven (other than Jesus) and you don't want to come across as being "perfect" by quoting the Bible for your answers with your matches. Again, the person wants to get to know YOU - not particularly that you can perfectly quote Scripture which many people can do.

Write and let us know how it goes for you.

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I dont see anything wrong with quoting from the Bible, since it is God's word and he wants everyone to know about Him and His Son Jesus Christ. Yes Im a christian, no Im not holier than thou. I am just a sinner saved by grace and trying honestly help people find the truth and share the truth from God's word.
Yes I believe the Bible to be the Holy and perfect word of God spoken to man for mankind. It s the oldest book with the most manuscripts to validate its validity and divinity than any other book in history. So many people have tried to get rid of it and its still here and still the best seller of ALL TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Just an honest concerned Christian dealing in the truth with everyone I talk to. Not a Bible thumper, but will loving tell you the truth according to God's word. Check out www.wretched.tv Its a great christian website to discover the truth.
 
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Yes that is true you dont want to shove scripture at someone, because you want to be caring and loving sharing a verse here and there is good but to quote the whole Bible at someone is not right.

You need to care about the person first and the rest will follow and God will provide the opportunities. But on the other hand if you're really Bible believing christians talking about scripture and quoting scripture in the right context and the right reasons in love that is a good thing.
 
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