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marymac1 is offline marymac1 Post #1  May 5,2010, 12:42pm
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For the past few years I have been totally dedicated and committed to God. In the process I have realized men don’t approach me anymore. Over the years I have been wondering why men dont find a powerful woman of God Sexy and Attractive. Are true men of God scared to approach a true women of God these days? I am very confused could some men of God please enlighten me on what is happening?
 
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For the past few years I have been totally dedicated and committed to God. In the process I have realized men don’t approach me anymore. Over the years I have been wondering why men dont find a powerful woman of God Sexy and Attractive. Are true men of God scared to approach a true women of God these days? I am very confused could some men of God please enlighten me on what is happening?
What is "woman of God" mean anyway?
 
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Often, when a woman is committed to serving God, she can seem standoffish to men (with good reason!, she's got other things on her mind). Some guys do find a woman who is very religious a bit intimidating.

It would be a terrible idea to back down from your beliefs, but you might want to make sure you are "available" in your interactions with men.
 
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When i say "Woman of God" I am reffering to a woman who lives by the word of God (The Bible)
 
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For the past few years I have been totally dedicated and committed to God. In the process I have realized men don’t approach me anymore. Over the years I have been wondering why men dont find a powerful woman of God Sexy and Attractive. Are true men of God scared to approach a true women of God these days? I am very confused could some men of God please enlighten me on what is happening?
A good man with honorable intentions WILL find a woman of God appealing. The big problem is that these days there are a lot of people out there who aren't serious/mature enough to be responsible and loving. Much of the time it's all about self-interest and having a "good time"....wasting precious life and time away with selfish distractions and selfish desires. To me, it's like a medal of honor when someone steers clear of you just because you are a person who strives for goodness in God's eyes.....in a way, it's probably better that way because you automatically see who is sincere and interested as opposed to someone who would simply want to be with you for their own self-interest, using or manipulating you for their personal gain.

My advice to you is to not lose hope (I know it feels hopeless some days), but perseverance and patience is important. Loneliness and the fear of being lonely are 2 of the biggest and most common psychological ailments affecting the world's people today.....people make a lot of rash moves and bad judgment calls out of panic....it often leads to troubling circumstances and end results that often leave a person emotionally scarred, trapped in unfavorable situations that end up taxing their lives, their health and burdening them with problems that often affect their future, their family futures, including any children they may have had from bad relationships. Always uphold your sense of values and beliefs, never let them be compromised. A Christian life is one of perseverance and sacrifice....nothing is free in this life, you have to work for it....including the saving of your own soul. If a man doesn't respect or admire that of you (or even realize the power that faith in God can have on a family and relationship), then he really isn't the right guy for you. If it happens it will happen, if not, don't feel so bad....sometimes it's best to be alone and relatively happy than be with someone you aren't compatible with and feel miserable.

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I'm not a man of God, I define myself as "Spiritual but not religious", maybe because of that, I saw a different angle on this question right away, that I'd like to share.

Men like to root for number one. We cheer for the winners of the Super bowl, World series, Indy and Nascar, not whoever came in second. Likewise we like to feel like we're number one in someone's life. There's a fear, probably an irrational one in most cases, of always coming in second. We don't want to be pushed aside for a woman's career, faith, or God forbid, another man. The only exception is the kids.

In my own experience, I dated two women of deep faith, one Christian, and one, Metaphysical/New Age, but both holding deep convictions. In reality, these women had their faith, careers, friends and children so I was probably 7th or 8th on their list of priorities, but the secret is that they never made me feel that way...I always felt like number one in their lives.

In short, don't give up your faith, or other things you hold dear, but don't give off the vibe to a new man that he'll never be #1.
 
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here is the problem as i see it- there are no "men of god" left to truly value a "woman of god."

and what few "men of god" there are- are flirting with worldly women while worldly men are put off by the virtue of the woman trying to live her faith.

it is discouraging. but that is how i see it.
 
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here is the problem as i see it- there are no "men of god" left to truly value a "woman of god."

But you see, it's this kind of logic that then makes good honorable and virtuous women fall from grace out of frustration. They think that in order to attract a guy, that they have to "put out" and act all $lutty. This in turn further causes more problems and the inevitable "secondary virginity" nonsense kicks in once they cave in to the manipulators and users. There's a loss of self-esteem and personal value. No one wants to be used and abused....it's what we do with tissue paper....human beings are a bit more valuable.

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and what few "men of god" there are- are flirting with worldly women while worldly men are put off by the virtue of the woman trying to live her faith. it is discouraging. but that is how i see it.
Personally, I don't flirt with anyone that I sense are dishonorable or self-serving. Everyone likes to blame others when things go wrong, but few think of blaming themselves for their lack of foresight. But that's more of a case of allowing one's emotions and fears to get in the way of sound moral judgment and of self-esteem.

It's always important to be true to one's self. Fear and loneliness are the biggest enemies. And the way people are conditioned these days, it's not easy at all. It's imperative to stay brave and courageous no matter what.
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i was just stating my observations. you have yours.

welcome to advice!
 
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notyet wrote :
i was just stating my observations. you have yours.

welcome to advice!
Nothing wrong in stating observations on another person's observations.

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