Need some advice from some true men of God

here is the problem as i see it- there are no "men of god" left to truly value a "woman of god."

and what few "men of god" there are- are flirting with worldly women while worldly men are put off by the virtue of the woman trying to live her faith.

it is discouraging. but that is how i see it.

2)Depends on how you "are a woman of God". Now I'm not talking about the whole deal on "fornicatin' it up for the night, weekend, month, year" but more to the level of "how you carry out your interpretation of that". If you're being preachy, quoting stuff or anything like that you have the automated reaction of "Okay great, you got a personal responce to things based on what you were taught to focus on, not from you relating to me form your heart." If that's going on, or you're trying to convert people it's not gonna fly well. It'll look like an "ulterior motive" and no one's gonna watch that for long.

Often, when a woman is committed to serving God, she can seem standoffish to men (with good reason!, she's got other things on her mind). Some guys do find a woman who is very religious a bit intimidating.

It would be a terrible idea to back down from your beliefs, but you might want to make sure you are "available" in your interactions with men.

The only time I have ever met a woman I thought of as a true woman of God was the time I was introduced to a Buddhist nun. She seemed to me to be truly different from other women and men I have met. She seemed to shine from within. I was in awe of her and her obvious serenity and godly ways.

You are definitely "fresh" off the press, Pirate! Excellent and succinct imput, and often the way I feel when a woman acts "super spiritual." It is indeed intimidating, and you often feel that such a person would be looking for some "worldly" and less than spiritual flaw in your character- "He didn't pray before his meals!" "He doesn't attend services on a regular basis!" "He enjoys a beer or two from time to time!" "He uses profanity out of frustration and impatience!" Well, now you all know why you could write me off.

But, such a woman who acts in a "super spiritual" fashion does seem standoffish and unapproachable, so you might want to self-examine the vibe you may be putting out. Also, I don't know you, but don't let being a "woman of God" make you less than tolerant of someone's human frailties and imperfections, and don't play the game of spiritual one-up-manship ("so and so's just not 'spiritual' enough") . After all, we are all at various stages in the journey. And don't reject someone because they don't fit your vision of a picture perfect "MAN OF GOD," that's also why many people eventually find themselves alone. Remember what Christ said about the religious leaders, they appeared all polished and "spiritual" on the outside, and did all the right religious things, but inside they were seething with spiritual corruption and decay. The "right man" may be the one who appears unpolished, unrefined, rough around the edges, and even "unspiritual" by religious standards on the outside ( He may not pray five times a day facing Jerusalem, Rome, or the seat of his denominational headquarters; read fifty chapters from the "word of God" each day, carry the largest study Bible, complete with liner notes, to services on a regular basis, listen only to "Christian" music, read only "Christian" books, hold the right political position, or refrain from "worldly" habits, practices and appearances).

The "right person" may appear to be a tarnished gem on the outside, but have a warm-hearted, good-natured, and a compassionate, receptive, and teachable spirit on the inside. Anyways, "super spiritual" people will sometimes find themselves alone, since they have unrealistic expectations, and they often project this vibe to others.