Virtuous is offline Virtuous Post #1  December 20,2009, 8:17pm
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Exactly what is "unequally yoked?" I'm still figuring out what my own yoke is or is not, so how do I know if I'm unequally yoked with someone else? I'm confused....HELP!
 
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If you are "equally yoked" you have the same beliefs and the same level of commitment (or lack thereof) to your religion as your partner does.
 
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"Equally Yoked" is a concept that derives from Christianity. Here is one answer derived from a Google search (a good way to begin finding answers to nearly any question)

The term seems to be used primarily in the religious realm.


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I think to answer your question it would help to understand what an unequal yoke is. II Corinthians 6:14 tells us to not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers.

In the Bible days when people would plow their fields they would use an equal yoke. Which simply meant they would use two oxen, or two cows, two mules, etc... It was an equal yoke so the animals would pull a straight line. If you put an ox and a mule together it would be crooked.
Christians are not to yoke together with unbelievers. That doesn't mean that we are supposed to shut everyone out of our life that isn't a Christian, but it means that those closest to us should be of the same faith that we are.

Also don't think that God is concerned about whether you marry a rich man/woman or what ever other social reason. God is not concerned about any of this and this is a misunderstanding about being unequally yoked. God is concerned about your faith first and foremost.

I truly believe that equally yoked is so simple that we miss the whole idea. It simply means that THE MOST HIGH has set everything into motion and for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. Answer The chaste for the chaste, The adulterer for the adulterer, the fornicator for the fornicator etc. this way no partner can hold any past doings over their partners head, because the have committed the same offense.
 
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I think it has something to do with breakfast people and non-breakfast people.
 
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besides what was mentioned above, i believe it goes deeper than that. to marry someone who doesn't have the same common goals and convictions is going to set you back and possibly drive some wedges in your relationship. if God has told you to become a missionary overseas and you decide to get into a relationship with someone who, although loves God, has no desire to reach out beyond their four walls, what does that do with what God wants for your life. some of the happiest couples i've seen are ones that have the same perspectives on the issues, life goals, and so on. they work as one to accomplish those things, each one making up for the other's deficiencies. to yoke yourself with someone that will not bring you closer, but farther away, would be what will cause heartache down the road.

if you don't know what your "yoke" is, then that would be the first place to start. write down the things that are important to you and what you won't compromise. then look for others who share the same things.

this opinion is strickly from a christian point of view and entirely my own. feel free to pick it apart if you choose.

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As a person who is looking to get "yoked" herself I find this topic of particular interest. I actually had to submit a note to the webmaster of another site that I am registered under because they matched me with a Christian (which under Islamic law is a no no....the man can marry one of the people of the book...Christian or Jewish but not the other way around)

As far as my family as a whole is taken into account we are diverse in belief between the different Christian sects (Catholic, Baptist, Pentecostal, Evangelist) which is typical for Hispanic culture. What I find interesting is that these family members didn't always marry people of their own sects yet had very successful marriages.

When I think about the topic of being equally yoked what comes to mind is religious commitment and mutual respect. These couples through their strong religious beliefs had a high regard for each other and humanity as a whole. They were mature enough to realize that it was their religious commitments that shaped the people that they were and in the end their attraction for one another. As far as Sunday service was concerned....they took turns each week attending the others church. This makes sense to me because I find that people within your own sect/religion can have such diverse and diametrically opposed views on how a home/family should be run/raised.

As a self-proclaimed moderate Muslim, I find this topic of particular concern when trying to find a mutually agreeable mate and I find many Christians have similar challenges as well. It goes well beyond fornicators and adulterers to the fact we must ask our prospective partner...does my brother/sister of faith smoke, drink, attend church/mosque on a regular or just holiday basis, go to the bar/clubs, etc.Personally, even though my parents are and raised me Catholic, they had more in common with Islamic mores, to the point that my friend told me I was more Muslim than many Muslim people she knew. So how do you like them yokes?
 
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Being unequally yoked is something I struggled with for years, trying to identify folks who have my same views on major topics that identifies whether or not you can fully trust the guy/girl in question: Do they try to save the world? Do they eat meat or just veggies? Do they wear goth clothes or mennonite dress? etc. etc. etc. Although these are pertinent, the basics are the things you can use to pare off bad relations (despite your best efforts, people respond to their environs in a specific manner THEIR way). Even as I type, I hear the discussion of folks banished from churches for failure to comply with pet doctrines. But if you don't have the First Name Basis of the Creator/Creation relation, pursue that relation before pursuing relations with man. I'm persuaded that will be rewarding enuff to clarify the issue of with whom one should yoke up. I'd recommend "fossilized customs" for consideration since secular society has no true regard for the equally yoked idea; that rests solely in the 3 world religions ideology based on Abraham's experiences. Me personally... I converted from christianity to Israel's religion (not talmudic judaism) after close study of the faiths of the world.
 
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This is not complicated. The bible says not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. So, believers are not to be yoked (hooked up with, coupled with, married to) unbelievers.
 
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unequally yoked or equally yoked must have the same common grounds, if not it will never work.
 
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In the the spirit of the original post (which sounded humorous and tongue-in-cheek to me), let me say that my yoke is bright yellow and I'd definitely be unequally yolked if matched with someone who liked it hard-boiled!



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