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Hi. I am never been married, no kids… I am dating a single dad… Biblically speaking who comes first if you remarry? Your kids or your new spouse?
- October 25th, 2009, 02:33 pm
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God's first! I know you knew that!

Biblically speaking, in a marriage you become one. Since the children are present, he needs to consider them in his decisions. If he is making healthy decisions with respect to their needs, and not out letting them get away with things due to guilt, there shouldn't be a concern for "first or second."

If you are in this stage of the relationship and already concerned about who is first, you may be headed for trouble.
- October 25th, 2009, 02:50 pm
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TracyBluebird wrote :
God's first! I know you knew that!

Biblically speaking, in a marriage you become one. Since the children are present, he needs to consider them in his decisions. If he is making healthy decisions with respect to their needs, and not out letting them get away with things due to guilt, there shouldn't be a concern for "first or second."

If you are in this stage of the relationship and already concerned about who is first, you may be headed for trouble.
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- October 26th, 2009, 09:48 pm
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Always lead with your heart. Sometimes the kids have to come first, other times the spouse will come first. One needs to be flexible and understanding when becoming part of a blended family. He is a package deal, and if you don't like or can't get along with his kids... do everyone a favor and move on.

Before you consider marriage, you need to have a discussion on what your role as a stepparent will be. One thing is for certain, the kids were there first, and if you were to make him choose... the kids will always win. He will always be their dad.
- October 26th, 2009, 10:15 pm
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
Before you consider marriage, you need to have a discussion on what your role as a stepparent will be. One thing is for certain, the kids were there first, and if you were to make him choose... the kids will always win. He will always be their dad.
I have told my kids I won't ever be looking for a replacement Dad, I just want someone to enhance my life. If that person is the right one for me, they will have to be the right one for my kids too.

You are right in saying there needs to be a discussion about it.

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- October 27th, 2009, 08:47 am
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