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heartnsoul is offline heartnsoul Post #1  July 11,2009, 3:54pm
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i had dated a few times after my ex husband of 14 years,divorced 5 years,every guy i find claims to be christian b ut there fruits are bad.i just recently got dumped by a guy i loved,we dated three moths,all was going well,got a note saying he no longer wanted to be with me,he came for his stuff,gave me no real truthful answer to why he broke it off. i am a kind loving person,i just never find the right guy.got any advice to give me?
 
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Religious beliefs (or claim thereof) are no indication or guarantee of truth, honesty, character, integrity, morals, ethics, values, etc.

Some find it wise to look for a good man rather than a Christian man. Those characteristics may occur in the same person, but can occur separately.
 
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I agree with JDavid.

Just because a man loves Jesus, doesn't mean he's going to love YOU.
 
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Wait, lemme get this straight: you're looking for a Christian man, but often find their fruit is bad. Then you give an example of a guy you "loved" who broke it of and just "came for his stuff".

Are you talking about a book or sweater he lent you, or his toothbrush and pajamas?

If the stuff is just 'stuff', oh well, things weren't going as well as you perceived. If he's spending the night, he may have realized this conflicted with his faith and had to extract himself from the bad situation.
 
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I have been praying for a christian man.I dated a few guys,they were not the one.Any advice to how to meet the right one.I have had no success,just recently dated a guy,thought he was everything i wanted,then he left me a note on my door stating he had doughts,then another note its over.Sometimes i feel like giving up,but it is still a desire in my heart.I am 40,two kids.What am i doing wrong.How can i trust again.I know there are good guys out there,but help i find the wrong ones.Any advice?
 
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I dunno...
Maybe get more involved in church activities. Your chances of networking with Christians would increase.
 
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Dear Hearnsoul,

Christians are a diverse group of people as you know. We may share some common beliefs--some liberal...some conservative....some very immature spiritually...We all have our quirks, hang-ups, and different tastes,passions, and goals as well.

Don't assume that because he's a Christian that he's your type. I've met many that I've considered to be either duds or hypocrites. Some were not really Christians at all.

Listen to a man's words, but watch his WALK over time. Does he walk the talk? If not...Next!!

No Christian man (or woman) is perfect, but there is someone that will be perfect for you. Stay in prayer and listen to that small voice. Believe that God will deliver. Just remember that you may not get what you want...be he may be what you "need." Keep your moral standards high and listen to that small, still voice. I'm right in there with you and I'm still kicking.

God's probably shaking his head and waiting for me to stop being the control freak of my personal life..ha. Keep your sense of humor...Learn from past mistakes, but LAUGH at them, too.

Bless you, dear woman. Be strong and love yourself. Keep the faith.
 
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This is what's sad in this world. Christianity has been tossed and thrown way out of context. We have all these different religions and beliefs being taught that everyone get's confused. Seems like everyone is starting to forget the Bible, the true Word. I so get what your saying, I see so many teen girls that are "posers". They'll be like "Oh yeah, I'm a Christian." then start running their mouth saying some filthy words and go have sex with some dude. Things are just getting screwed up now, Nobody seems to be real anymore. I know how you feel, It's so hard.
 
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The spirit of spiritual schizophrenia, and spiritual bipolar is rampant in the "Christian" community. I love God, and I am a Christian. However, if I say that I am a Christian, but am engaging in sex outside of marriage........... what message am I sending. It's like you are learning to be a person with seperate values. You are Christian, but you are in need of a revelation concerning dating a truly Christian man. A Christian strives to be like Christ. No one is perfect, and believe me.... I am not. I am celibate, but it is hard. I actually am strugling, but the key is to keep pressing. We must be Christian in actions and deeds, physically and spiritually.
 
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[quote=JDavid;670720].
Some find it wise to look for a good man rather than a Christian man. Those characteristics may occur in the same person, but can occur separately.

[quote=KungFuFtr;679687]
Maybe get more involved in church activities. Your chances of networking with Christians would increase



There's Christians and there's Christians. Some were raised in it, some have their own conversions.

A good place to start would be in a church. Or volunteering in your community somehow.

And a good man is a good find, no matter what his personal beliefs. Character counts!

Good luck.
 
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