Would you convert to a new religion for love?


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Wonderwoman402 is offline Wonderwoman402 Post #11  July 2,2009, 12:29am
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I searched my beliefs in my 20s and found my current church (Unitarian Universalist) through that process. It is not the religion I grew up in, but it fits me well.

At this point in my life, I am unlikely to date anyone whose religious beliefs are vastly different from mine, nevermind considering marrying someone who would even consider asking me to convert!

That said, my beliefs are compatible with several other religious outlooks, including liberal Christian, Reform Jewish, Quaker, Atheist, Agnostic, Buddhist, and the ever-popular "Spiritual but not Religious."
 
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I've actually run in to this issue twice.

Both times I ended the relationship because I wasn't willing to convert.

Both women were marriage material, but I can't buy in to something that I don't believe in.....even if I love the woman.

The second one especially was hard to break off because I really got along with her best......

She fit me better than any other woman I dated.
 
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I would be open to experiencing, not necessarily converting. I'm spiritual, not religious. God is God, who speaks to us, through us, in different languages that we understand. Some of us pratice the traditions and rituals associated w/ a religion or a church; some don't. I'm not going to deny another their beliefs or practices, nor would I ever presume that mine are "correct," "right," or the only way to know God and spirit. I would in fact appreciate the opportunity to be open to and in all liklihood celebrate another's views and beliefs, even if they differ from my own, and I would want to receive the same respect.
 
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I was married to a true Christian and I was protestant but brought up both because of my mothers second marriage. All I remember as a kid is one church showed Jesus on a cross the other didn't (protestant). I consider myself protestant because of my beliefs but got married in a Unitarian church. We went mainly to Christain churches, when we went during the marriage. I would be open to other beliefs in god but would not consider converting to anything against god. Heck, you should be able to find that out in the communication stage if they worship the devil, don't you think. "Is it Satin" (church lady)
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No. My faith is the most important thing in my life and I believe that Jesus Christ is truth.
 
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Surprise! No. For me, the religion question would likely come up early in the relationship. I believe in respecting one another's beliefs, but if those beliefs *required* you to convert, then why would you have been with them so long? People are complex, and love's a funny thing... But you don't fall in love and have intentions of “changing” your partner. That's just not healthy for the relationship. And if your faith is not well defined and/or you are willing to explore other options- nothing wrong with that! But at the age most of us are here- I see late twenties being on the “low” end- I believe we've got a pretty good idea of what we believe. I think most people are bound to stick with that.
 
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If you are only converting to be in a relationship with another person, then have you truly converted? I'm reminded of George Costanza here...
 
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I absolutely would not change religion for anyone under no circumstances. I rather stay single. The fact that anyone would change their religious or spiritual beliefs for another person only shows that the person never had strong religious or spirtual convictions in the first place and that to me shows what a fraud they are.
 
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Would I convert to someone's beliefs to further a relationship? Absolutely not. I have developed my own convictions (not "beliefs") through a lifetime of experience and observation. I could not suddenly reverse my convictions and accept supernaturalism because someone wanted me to do so.

How could anyone believe what they do not believe? Fake it?

Would I occasionally (or ever) attend church services with a significant other? Probably not. With one exception. I have attended meetings of a Unitarian Universalist Fellowship (as Wonder Woman mentions).

The UU is a gathering of highly intelligent, tolerant, non-judgmental people – without any dogma – without even a suggestion that anyone worship any particular deity in any particular manner. Google the term for more information. Refreshingly different.

Would I expect any woman to abandon her beliefs to associate with me? Absolutely not. If religion was not an issue or topic of conversation OR a limitation on our relationship, I would have no comment or expectations regarding her religion. However, in practical terms, I have not chosen to be in a LTR with any devoutly religious woman (anything more than nominal).

However, as a young man I dated "the preacher's daughter" (and the deacon's) literally – hot and wild. An escape from oppression and association with "the bad boy" can have remarkable effect on libido. I quit fooling around like that in my twenties (and stopped being so "bad").
 
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