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restlessinsc is offline restlessinsc Post #11  June 19,2009, 2:47pm
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I believe that it is vitally important for people to be compatible when it comes to making a relationship successful. Especially when it comes to religion and faith. We need to be open and honest about who and what we want in someone. That is a part of our life and who we are. If two people have completely different beliefs it won't work. Even if you might have other things in common. This is coming straight from the Bible. Anyway, what I really look for is consistency and what they say and do. Do they really live out there faith? I have seen guys who say they are Christians and they want the same in their matches then they talk to much about sex. That doesn't add up to me. It's hypocritical and a big turn-off. That's my two- cents worth!
 
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Jesuskid wrote :
it is important for men to state their position in Christ.
has to be noted, tho, "i'm a follower of christ" is not a statement that edifies anyone else about one's position in christ.
 
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Maybe graceventually can confirm this, but isn't there a special place in heck for people who list themselves as Christian and mention Jesus, God, Christ in their profiles, but have no idea whom they are talking about??

I have had some who profess without any kind of fruitful confirmation of their faith. I kind of wonder if some of the overusers of the divine titles are able to function in the world. Jesus didn't sit around in church all day, and neither should we. I want a match who is interested in social issues (yes, I'm United Methodist), and is willing to get his hands dirty feeding the hungry, etc.
 
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All people express their faith differently. As Christians, more than in what the possible match says, we refer to our discernment to know shallow from deep.
 
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basementcatliveshere wrote :
Maybe graceventually can confirm this, but isn't there a special place in heck for people who list themselves as Christian and mention Jesus, God, Christ in their profiles, but have no idea whom they are talking about??

I have had some who profess without any kind of fruitful confirmation of their faith. I kind of wonder if some of the overusers of the divine titles are able to function in the world. Jesus didn't sit around in church all day, and neither should we. I want a match who is interested in social issues (yes, I'm United Methodist), and is willing to get his hands dirty feeding the hungry, etc.
Amen, sister!!
Actually, a profile that described some of the volunteer work that the person did would look pretty good. At least my fiance said that was one of the things that interested him when he read my profile on match.com.
 
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graceventually, would you mind terribly if I sent you a pm with an etiquette-type question? I am also United Methodist, and have a question that pertains to that and to eh, as well as candidacy.
 
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I don't remember whether I mentioned Christ or Jesus in my profile, but I put definitely that I am an ordained Pastor, because that isn't just my job, it is my life! I want it out there at the beginning because I think it is important for the person who might consider me to know. It doesn't mean that I cannot relate to those outside the church, but for a partner, I need to have someone who not only respects my call, but is supportive and understanding of the times when I might be called out to a hospital for a dying member, or a family in crisis, etc. I also want to be able to talk to someone about theology.

But basementcatliveshere, you make a good point in seeking the kind of person who would be interested in Social Justice Ministries, getting their hands dirty feeding the homeless, etc. ME TOO. So beyond someone identifying themselves as Christian, I want to know their theological perspective. Many of the "Christian" guys I have been matched to, label themselves as conservative in politics, and their language indicates most likely conservative in theology as well. We wouldn't be a good match. Not that I am better or they are, just a very different perspective in how we approach faith and life, that would most likely be incompatible.

I do think the pickings are slim, in terms of men in their 40's and 50's, that truly fit my profile. I cannot change my profile, because it wouldn't be true to who I am.
 
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I used to really dislike the constant mentioning of "Jesus", and "Christ", in someone's profile, but, I've run into a dilemna.... I've found that about 99.95% of people on eharmony would say that they are a christian, even when they may not have had a true conversion experience. And even if they have truly been born again, their total lack of disregard for dating with Godly principles is no where to be found....I was talking to a guy on eharmony who was "saving himself for marriage". And as I inquired further, Apparently this meant only the "last act".... And I find that twisted and can't really believe that anyway... Not only that but he was "really immoral and given over to illicit relationships, which apparently he was on e-harmony to find. If you are hinting about phone sex to another member, you may be a christian, but you need serious intervention for an addiction.... Was he a christian? Only God knows, but more than likely he was a "deceived", christian like many men I meet.... Not someone who is surrendered to Christ....... I should have reported him........But there is a difference between stumbling and "given over to a lifestyle that is not pleasing to God".... There is however some christians who are ridgid, and strict in their outlook, and cling to rules and not to a relationship with Christ..... Rather legalistic individuals, with a seeming total lack of grace and love or forgiveness for their fellow man.... and yes that is not the type of man I want to date either... I was talking to a man and his wife the other day about the predicament of finding true committed christian men, and the man made an observation that the number of commited christian single men, pales in comparison of christian women who want to make living for Christ a priority.... So yes, I mention more than just "I'm a christian". ... in my profile to weed out the creeps, and the nominal....
 
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basementcatliveshere wrote :
graceventually, would you mind terribly if I sent you a pm with an etiquette-type question? I am also United Methodist, and have a question that pertains to that and to eh, as well as candidacy.
Certainly! I have been away a few days; sorry I didn't get back to you sooner!
 
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Realgirl and Jesuskid, I agree with you both. My #1, no compromise "must have" is that a man that I would consider dating, let alone marriage, is a Christian. I'll learn other compatibility factors through the questions and answers. If you love Jesus you should never be ashamed or afraid to say it, regardless of the forum.

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