I don't remember whether I mentioned Christ or Jesus in my profile, but I put definitely that I am an ordained Pastor, because that isn't just my job, it is my life! I want it out there at the beginning because I think it is important for the person who might consider me to know. It doesn't mean that I cannot relate to those outside the church, but for a partner, I need to have someone who not only respects my call, but is supportive and understanding of the times when I might be called out to a hospital for a dying member, or a family in crisis, etc. I also want to be able to talk to someone about theology.

But basementcatliveshere, you make a good point in seeking the kind of person who would be interested in Social Justice Ministries, getting their hands dirty feeding the homeless, etc. ME TOO. So beyond someone identifying themselves as Christian, I want to know their theological perspective. Many of the "Christian" guys I have been matched to, label themselves as conservative in politics, and their language indicates most likely conservative in theology as well. We wouldn't be a good match. Not that I am better or they are, just a very different perspective in how we approach faith and life, that would most likely be incompatible.

I do think the pickings are slim, in terms of men in their 40's and 50's, that truly fit my profile. I cannot change my profile, because it wouldn't be true to who I am.

I used to really dislike the constant mentioning of "Jesus", and "Christ", in someone's profile, but, I've run into a dilemna.... I've found that about 99.95% of people on eharmony would say that they are a christian, even when they may not have had a true conversion experience. And even if they have truly been born again, their total lack of disregard for dating with Godly principles is no where to be found....I was talking to a guy on eharmony who was "saving himself for marriage". And as I inquired further, Apparently this meant only the "last act".... And I find that twisted and can't really believe that anyway... Not only that but he was "really immoral and given over to illicit relationships, which apparently he was on e-harmony to find. If you are hinting about phone sex to another member, you may be a christian, but you need serious intervention for an addiction.... Was he a christian? Only God knows, but more than likely he was a "deceived", christian like many men I meet.... Not someone who is surrendered to Christ....... I should have reported him........But there is a difference between stumbling and "given over to a lifestyle that is not pleasing to God".... There is however some christians who are ridgid, and strict in their outlook, and cling to rules and not to a relationship with Christ..... Rather legalistic individuals, with a seeming total lack of grace and love or forgiveness for their fellow man.... and yes that is not the type of man I want to date either... I was talking to a man and his wife the other day about the predicament of finding true committed christian men, and the man made an observation that the number of commited christian single men, pales in comparison of christian women who want to make living for Christ a priority.... So yes, I mention more than just "I'm a christian". ... in my profile to weed out the creeps, and the nominal....