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Is this a result of infidelity only?

How would you feel about someone who simply lost love for his or her partner, but chose to stay and try to get it back?
I think a number of couples go through feelings like that, D, and I applaud them for trying to rekindle their marriage. But at the same time that Mark Sanford is saying this about his wife, he's describing the woman he's had the affair with as his "soulmate". Sounds like a pretty confused soul to me.
- July 4th, 2009, 08:11 pm
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I think a number of couples go through feelings like that, D, and I applaud them for trying to rekindle their marriage. But at the same time that Mark Sanford is saying this about his wife, he's describing the woman he's had the affair with as his "soulmate". Sounds like a pretty confused soul to me.
Ah, but according to another thread on eHA, love is a DECISION, not a feeling. So he can DECIDE to fall back in love with his wife, no? Then all should be well.

Actually, his statement was a slap in the face to both his wife AND his mistress/soulmate. With that one statement, he probably lost them both. I have a lot of sympathy for both women. He's lied to both and hurt them both.
- July 13th, 2009, 09:02 pm
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He could have decided to work on his marriage and be faithful to his wife, and he says he will. But yes, I suspect you are right on target about his ultimately losing them both.
- July 13th, 2009, 09:12 pm
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I don't for a minute believe he can just decide to love his wife again and to not love the other woman. That is one reason I have such a problem with the whole premise that "love is a decision." He apparently has some very strong feelings of love for the other woman. He can't just "decide" to make them go away.

What he has decided is to try to salvage his financial and political behind. He has decided to try to make a tolerable household, and deny his true feelings.

They may stay married, but there is no happy ending for anyone in this picture.
- July 13th, 2009, 09:30 pm
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As you say, he'll probably end up losing both of them.

But from a political point of view, I still can't get over his poor judgment in leaving the state with no contact information while he was in Argentina. If I were a South Carolina voter, I'd remember that.
- July 13th, 2009, 09:44 pm
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I suspect that depends primarily on how much power he retains … just like Clinton.

At the end of the day, Kissinger was right.
- July 18th, 2009, 02:58 pm
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