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I'm a rhythym guitarist...I believe music is the most "beautiful" language and a great way to express your feelings...Ahh no I didn't pick up guitar to "impress" the girls. Mainly because of the Beatles, particularly John Lennon. If a girl likes me only 'cause I play guitar than I'd say she's pretty shallow and I'd find someone who loved me for me and I love her for her. LOL the funny thing is the very first song I learned on guitar was Lennon's "Hide Your Love Away." ;-)
Oh, if only you were a decade older. I would never like you just for your guitar playing. But that shiny red truck in the background....with the lights and the whistles and the sirens...vrrroom!

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- June 14th, 2009, 07:41 pm
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It's not your instrument, it's you.
- June 14th, 2009, 08:04 pm
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DancingFool wrote :
It's not your instrument, it's you.
uhhh....we'll just leave that one alone
- June 14th, 2009, 08:31 pm
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DancingFool wrote :
It's not your instrument, it's you.
all_seasons wrote :
uhhh....we'll just leave that one alone
LOL.....and just where is your mind this evening?
- June 14th, 2009, 08:42 pm
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Maybe the guitarist doesn't "get" the girl, but look at this example...



Mr. Johnny Cash. Yes, he was mainstream and popular and all, but without that talent where would he have been (with the ladies that is?)
- June 19th, 2009, 04:03 pm
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My husband was a drummer (he passed away) and always said no one paid attention to the bass and drummers.
I still look for the drummers, who are the soul of any group.
- July 2nd, 2009, 02:07 pm
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I used to love musicians. My ex-husband was a bass player in bands for many years.

These days, I avoid ALL musicians. I guess I've outgrown that. I don't need to feed their egos or fight off the other women drooling over the band at bars. I have no desire to be a band widow again... either alone while he's off at band practice or a gig, or putting up with the same riff over and over and over and over again until he gets it right at home. Or loud band practice in our basement... so loud I can't get much of anything done in the rest of the house.

I'd MUCH rather go out and listen to a live band with a boyfriend that has NOTHING to do with the band so we can dance together, instead of me dancing by myself or with the other 'band widows' and also so we can leave whenever we want instead of waiting until the place has closed down and then tearing everything down and packing it away before heading home at some ungodly hour.

No, I don't find anything charming about musicians at all any more.

To address the original question: In my experience the drummer is always the flakiest member of the band, so even when I was into musicians I wouldn't be interested in the drummer. The lead singer/guitarist is usually the most charming, but also the most high-maintenance in terms of needing his ego fed.

Yeah....well most serious musicians would avoid you as well
- July 5th, 2009, 05:13 pm
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Bandmate wrote :
Yeah....well most serious musicians would avoid you as well
And I am quite grateful! We'll both be happier that way.
- July 7th, 2009, 10:51 pm
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I play acoustic...am not in a band...I'm a songwriter of sorts at times...have played out some...I prefer to play and sing for a guy when I've known him for awhile. It's really quite personal...like art..It IS art...

Anyway, I love to go out occasionally and see a guy skillfully playing guitar..putting his heart and soul into the music. Part of me is very attracted to him for the shared passion, the other part admires his talent and the hard work that went into becoming so skilled...I do not, however, pursue musicians and I understand the lifestyle they must keep to work in the business. This doesn't jive well with most of us who lead kind of mainstream lives. It's a choice. I'd settle for a songwriter-type myself or someone who plays for pleasure.
- July 28th, 2009, 10:40 am
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I'm attracted to a guy that is passionate about music in anyway, regardless if they play an instrument or not. Although, if they can, that's even better. =) But i'm definitely not attracted to someone just because they play an instrument. How shallow
- July 28th, 2009, 04:02 pm
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