hogrally is offline hogrally Post #1  September 18,2008, 12:26pm
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Is it just me or does any one else think Cote's life story was played by Richard Gere? Why does the ability tobe successful buying and selling businessesfor profit not lend it self very well to being successful in personal relationships.
 
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minty2 is offline minty2 Post #2  September 18,2008, 12:34pm
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Well it sounds to me like he's in investment banking, or very closely related business (hedge funds, distressed, or lbo's). In this industry, you put in a lot of hours, under pressure, and the tendency is to look for release, and indulging yourself when you can. Since you have the money to find it quickly and easily, you do. That lifestyle for a single man (or woman for that matter) doesn't lend itself to growth until you run the gamut and get tired of it. Some never do.
 
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What is the obsession with CDR? People have different lives. "Be kinder than necessary, because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle." It is a good quote everyone should evaluate within his or her life. Let him come and go in peace. He is obviously fighting some battle and was looking for guidance. Albeit he may or may not have been able to find it within the advice boards, but let him find his way the way he chooses.
 
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Agree. It is always about TIME.


Time dictates their every move.


Literarlly, 'timing is everything'.


Those involved in the business are impervious to those who aren't on their 'schedule'.


As a net result, they miss out on alot of 'normal' stuff. It is almost impossible for them to 'slow down'. They are always 'distanced' from 'normal' human interaction, because for them it is 'time wasted'. If it's not 'up to speed', or supra intense, with money flying left and right, it's not 'fun'.


It's a heck of a way to live a life. IMHO.


It takes it's toll eventuallyl - psychically, and emotionally.
 
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Teaona383,263515 wrote :

What is the obsession with CDR? People have different lives. "Be kinder than necessary, because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle." It is a good quote everyone should evaluate within his or her life. Let him come and go in peace. He is obviously fighting some battle and was looking for guidance. Albeit he may or may not have been able to find it within the advice boards, but let him find his way the way he chooses.
Teaona282,


I don't know that it's 'an obsession' as such. I think simply he provided a rather clear voice on the boards.


I do agree that he must find his own way.


I also think that this is an interesting topic: ie. when work is an obsession, is there ROOM for a relationship ?


Cote, as such, does not have to be a part of the discussion.
 
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Teaona383,263515 wrote :

What is the obsession with CDR? People have different lives. "Be kinder than necessary, because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle." It is a good quote everyone should evaluate within his or her life. Let him come and go in peace. He is obviously fighting some battle and was looking for guidance. Albeit he may or may not have been able to find it within the advice boards, but let him find his way the way he chooses.
Uh.. I agree with your quote, and specifically, I was not pointing any fingers.


But as far as an obsession.. you're replying so does that make you obsessed too? No, no more than anyone else. When you're on an advice board, there's this urge to respond to people, and frankly, some give you that the impetus to respond more than others.
 
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minty2,263490 wrote :

Well it sounds to me like he's in investment banking, or very closely related business (hedge funds, distressed, or lbo's). In this industry, you put in a lot of hours, under pressure, and the tendency is to look for release, and indulging yourself when you can. Since you have the money to find it quickly and easily, you do. That lifestyle for a single man (or woman for that matter) doesn't lend itself to growth until you run the gamut and get tired of it. Some never do.
What's an iBo?


Coming back to the time 'issue', this is rather close to my present circusmtances. I am obsessive about my work, I put in long hours (believe it or not relative to the time I also spend here !!!), and I personally find it very difficult to make 'adjustments' for anyone who doesn't respect MY time.


I am self-employed and have been for near 30 years now. I've managed to create not only a reputation for my Self for what I do, but I am very conscious that I must CONTINUE to put in this kind of effort if I want the full benefit of my initial investment of TIME.


Soooooo, in my instances, it's not so much 'pretty woman', it's more like 'pretty men'. I say that tongue in cheek, but the truth is I am also aware that I just do not make time for more 'complicated' relationships whether they would be successful or not. I'm just not 'there'.


That said, I have been 'involved' with a guy now for over a year ... we've had our ups & downs, but overall, he is on a similar 'schedule' and so does understand my own priorities this way. This may sound REALLY weird, but we just made 'a date' for spring 2009. I'm looking forward to it, and I know he is too.


sigh, weird I know, but there it is .... at least we ARE strangely committed to each other ... sigh ... ok, I know this is sounding weird ... but it's what we BOTH prefer ... at this point in TIME .....
 
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yeah...i hear the 'you aren't ready, or you don't have time' for a relationship (usually one of the reasons given for closing. Meaning, I don't have time they feel needs to be devoted to them. I dunno. I would hope, if there were somebody, they might want to share the things i have and do, and maybe even enjoy it? and I could make some time, if someone thought the effort was worthwhile? haven't gotten ANY positive feedback on that. Inlike richard gere, CDR, or others...I don't make millions to counter with, either. But the view from my orch is priceless, to me.
 
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minty2,263490 wrote :

Well it sounds to me like he's in investment banking, or very closely related business (hedge funds, distressed, or lbo's). In this industry, you put in a lot of hours, under pressure, and the tendency is to look for release, and indulging yourself when you can. Since you have the money to find it quickly and easily, you do. That lifestyle for a single man (or woman for that matter) doesn't lend itself to growth until you run the gamut and get tired of it. Some never do.
I do middle market LBOs. Not a banker though used to be one. The description of the lifestyle is spot on.


I am far from tired of the lifestyle. Physically, yes, as I haven't slept much in 4 days now. But psychologically I am having a ball!


You had asked earlier if I am a Master of the Universe. I guess I am, though I prefer Big Swinging Appendage.


Why would you say that this lifestyle doesn't lead to growth? I learn every day. I am definitely growing. If the growth is gone I will leave this line of work and retire to Kamchatka.
 
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lada,263564 wrote :

yeah...i hear the 'you aren't ready, or you don't have time' for a relationship (usually one of the reasons given for closing. Meaning, I don't have time they feel needs to be devoted to them. I dunno. I would hope, if there were somebody, they might want to share the things i have and do, and maybe even enjoy it? and I could make some time, if someone thought the effort was worthwhile? haven't gotten ANY positive feedback on that. Inlike richard gere, CDR, or others...I don't make millions to counter with, either. But the view from my orch is priceless, to me.
Lada, sit tight my pretty, they just don't 'get you'. There is no reason why you should be put off by THEIR lack of 'getting' ... Me thinks you need a nice buck farmer, someone good with their hands, someone who loves the land, someone who WILL get your orchard, and the sunsets with you.


There are a couple of fellas like that here, but you have to HUNT for them, plus, as you know, 'rural guys' are kinda shy .... And don't we just LOVE EM for it ....


MONEY has NOTHING to do with ti. Zip. Nada.
 
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