shoniej is offline shoniej Post #1  December 22,2009, 1:57pm
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started smoking socially with friends...we'd have a few cocktails and a ciggy...now i find myself craving a cigarette whenever i drink...even if it's one glass of wine when i'm relaxing after work...i really need to quit...it's affecting my workouts...but it's sooooooo hard...i had this problem a few years ago but quit without a problem when i moved in with a friend that didn't smoke...why is it so hard to quit this time around?...any suggestions on kicking the smoking when i drink habit?
 
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Probably you should stop thinking of it as "social smoking" and think of it just as "smoking", since that's what it is.

Do anything you have to, to quit. Stop drinking for 6 months while you do it. Good luck!
 
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It's an addictive drug-and thats just the truth.

It isn't YOU, it's that damn drug that opened the receptors in your nervous system when you had your first ciggie again and they keep calling to you.

Thats what addictive drugs do.

NOT smoking is the only way to not get hooked again and again. Alcohol is called an addictive drug but it's not nearly as strong of one as nicotine. And for many they socially go together.

All the bars and taverns in my state are now smoke free (except for private ones like Cigar Bars). However there is always the huddle of people at the back door, smoking in the freezing rain.

Ya gotta just say NO!
 
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cp30 is offline cp30 Post #4  December 24,2009, 10:31am

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some people are social smokers. To dismiss that is unfair. I am.

I have a few rules. Never smoke indoors. Don't smoke around friends or dates that don't like it or don't smoke (even if drinking) and never regularly buy cigarettes.

I may just be lucky in that if I start smoking too often I just stop. I don't feel good and that feeling overpowers any desire to smoke, and I actually forget about and get into the habit of not smoking at all.

If I go out and drink and smoke a lot I won't feel good the next day. I won't desire cigarettes, but I know friends who will, as they are true smokers.

For me, it's not worth the discomfort.

It goes good with a glass of wine. It does not go good with breakfast.

I don't know if I'm much help. I would say just limit opportunities (only smoke outdoors) and avoid smoking around people who don't smoke. I'm able to do this even when drinking -- if I like the people enough
 
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I don't know anyone who is a social smoker; they either smoke or they don't. I no longer do, but I used to--most idiotic move of my life to have ever started, regardless of my reasons why.

Here in Ohio, everything is smoke free. In the winter, when the windchill is -20, you have to go outside to smoke. That made a lot of my friends quit. The increase in the cost helped most of the others quit (last I heard, some places around here were charging $6 a pack). The rest either still smoke or quit for their health. I chose to quit for my health.

How do you kick it? If you're truly a social smoker, you shouldn't have a problem with NOT having a cigarette with a drink or at any other time. You just have to deal with the cravings, like anyone else who is trying to quit. Ignore it. Find something else to occupy you. Don't give in to it. It's hard, but it's not impossible, or no one would ever quit. And once you kick that urge, don't go back to it, or you get to do it all over again...what fun!
 
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brneyedangel wrote :
I don't know anyone who is a social smoker; they either smoke or they don't. I no longer do, but I used to--most idiotic move of my life to have ever started, regardless of my reasons why.

Here in Ohio, everything is smoke free. In the winter, when the windchill is -20, you have to go outside to smoke. That made a lot of my friends quit. The increase in the cost helped most of the others quit (last I heard, some places around here were charging $6 a pack). The rest either still smoke or quit for their health. I chose to quit for my health.

How do you kick it? If you're truly a social smoker, you shouldn't have a problem with NOT having a cigarette with a drink or at any other time. You just have to deal with the cravings, like anyone else who is trying to quit. Ignore it. Find something else to occupy you. Don't give in to it. It's hard, but it's not impossible, or no one would ever quit. And once you kick that urge, don't go back to it, or you get to do it all over again...what fun!
Wow - only $6/pack? Cigarettes here are easily double that price!

Similarly - there is no smoking at most cafes, restaurants and more recently smoking has also been banned within public locations and even some apartment blocks. In my State, smoking is banned in the car if there is a child or children present.

My Dad was a chain-smoker: five packs/day to be precise! He quit by going cold turkey. That was over 20 years ago and he has never started up again. Good luck!
 
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meri75 wrote :
Wow - only $6/pack? Cigarettes here are easily double that price!

I'm guessing based on what I last heard. I don't smoke anymore.

Similarly - there is no smoking at most cafes, restaurants and more recently smoking has also been banned within public locations and even some apartment blocks. In my State, smoking is banned in the car if there is a child or children present.

My Dad was a chain-smoker: five packs/day to be precise! He quit by going cold turkey. That was over 20 years ago and he has never started up again. Good luck!
Good for your Dad for kicking a 5 pack a day habit! I never smoked more than a pack a day, but even then, that was way too much. Like I said, I never should have ever started. But I started out socially, and it stuck. I'm just glad it's behind me now!
 
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You could remember that doctors say each cigarette takes an average of 10 minutes off your life span.

Or you could get mad and quit because having an addiction makes you someone else's pawn, and you're stronger than that.
 
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