RoxyRedhead is offline RoxyRedhead Post #1  December 8,2009, 8:16pm

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This year I was diagnosed with the auto-immune disorder Chron's Disease, following an e coli infection I got while traveling. Long story I won't go into here.

I'm curious what others here who might have IBS or Chrons or other serious disorders do when dating. I have pretty good control of Chrons by watching what I eat-it has a fairly restrictive diet.

Occasionally, though, I do have a flare up of which the primary symptom is a nasty case of diarrhea and flatulence which makes dating - awkward. To say the least!

I am hesitant to try new restaurants now and that gets boring- I used to love to go to unusual places for something different. Also I have more fatigue now. I'm hoping as time goes by I'll perk up and get back to my normal high energy level but for now it's stressful to do my commitments and date also.

Interested in your thoughts or ideas.
 
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IBS sucks... I somehow got it in nursing school but am now thinking it's part of the whole latex allergy joy that I'm currently dealing with. Chron's.. I can't even imagine how you're dealing with. My mom contracted it a couple of years ago most likely a side effect of her RA. The amount of pain she goes through... ugh. I'm not sure how you guys deal with it, but it sounds like your diet is really a great idea!

I know it might seem boring, but is trying something new really worth the pain it might cause? Owch. A guy will understand it... it's just food right? When compared to meeting someone awesome, that's nothin!
 
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thanks for the note Katie-I usually only have pain when I choose to eat something I know I shouldn't eat. Since I'm pretty much a non meat eater but not quite vegetarian..I do eat fish and occasionally organic chicken and dairy on occasion, it's fairly easy for me to control by diet alone.

I'm not enthusiastic about either more medications or surgery for this if at all avoidable

I wonder if the radio active die I had in the bone scan 2 days ago set off a Chrons flare up. It's so strange, dealing with this disease. Woke up this morning with the runs-such fun! I've been so good eating during this holiday season.
NO chocolate at all-that means NO Sees Candy! Been eating my broiled fish and steamed veggies and rice, pretty much a very boring daily meal plan, when zap, I get hit with this for no apparent reason.

Although I have been somewhat stressed out and stress can have an affect.

Who the heck knows?
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I was diagnosed with Chron's Disease when I was 17 (nearly ten years ago now) though I believe I had it since I was around 10ish (because i was very aware of my stomach issues but no one could properly diagnose me). Shortly after being diagnosed, my intestines perforated due to the Crohn's (and because of complications, nearly lost my life).

The girl I was dating at the time ending up becoming my wife several years later - she was very supportive and very understanding - though she was there from the beginning (of diagnosis). She is now my ex-wife though for other reasons unrelated.

I certainly understand your concerns. I personally have not been back on dates since the divorce so no personal experiences yet to share. I am considering going near vegan to help control the Crohn's as well as another condition I was recently diagnosed with that is also an auto-immune disease that restricts diet. I fear I'll come across as boring or just plain weird/picky, but how do you come out and say 'pick anything but everything because well, I'll tell ya later?'

The light at the end of the tunnel, for me anyway, is ten years on I have become very adept at understanding how my body reacts to almost anything and how to control the daily pain (unrelated to food sometimes) and other unpleasant side effects. No one really has any idea I have it unless I reveal it. I would be certainly happy to share any other experiences with Chron's if you have questions - I knew no one at the time I was diagnosed that had it so I sort of figured things out on my own via various research methods.

Best of luck to us both!
 
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I once had some persistent digestive troubles, and although I do not have Crohn's the experience caused me to read up on it and others. I believe my mother had Crohn's, but she had other health issues and they primarily called her digestive ones IBS.

Anyway.... I once dated a homeopathic doctor. I do recall him telling me he had quite a bit of success in treating Crohns and IBS. Perhaps you might want to consider visiting a homeopathic doctor to see if he/she can help.
 
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I actually have the disorder under control-most of the time- with a 99% vegetarian food plan.

It's the infrequent flare-ups that I'm concerned with, especially since becoming emotional can also set me off..it was a combination of Holiday over indulgence and emotional upset that dealt me a low blow this past week I'm sure.

As song as I stick to vegetarian eating, I'm in pretty good shape-but I do see a naturopath so I'll address it with her at my next meeting, WW.
 
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I do not have IBS but something called Chronic Pancreatitis which can lead to some of the same problems you mention. My biggest concern is trying to sneak some digestive enzymes at meal time without having to get into a long story of why and so on. What has sorta worked for me is telling people what is going on and if really just hoping I do not have to cancel or postpone a date because I don't feel well or am in the ER again.

I would be interested in hearing how you handle telling people about your condition. What sort of timing do you have and so on. How do people react... do they openly react?
 
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