meri75 is offline meri75 Post #1  August 22,2009, 6:15pm
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One of my team members was diagnosed with prostate cancer earlier this month. From what I can gather, it appears that it may have spread already into some form of secondary cancer. He's losing weight rapidly, does that happen with prostate cancer? He's not talking to me or other management ... would he be in discomfort or pain?
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All cancers have potential to spread and/or develop into other "types."
A good friend of mine died two years ago after first developing prostate cancer...which then spread into his liver.
When any type of cancer gets into the liver it's really hard to stop. The same with the lymph nodes...that's the body's highway system, of sorts.

Yes, weight loss happens with chemo or radiation treatments which are the standard for prostate cancer. Usually treatments for prostate cancer(like other forms)are based upon the person's age...the younger they are, the more aggressive the treatment.
Yeah, he's probably in pain of some sort...that's a safe bet.
A lot depends on what stage he is in:.i.e; 1 through 4, etc.

If he's not talking to anyone at work, it may just be his way of separating his illness from his work...it's not uncommon.
Work can be a refuge for patients going through cancer treatments.
Unless you've gone through it yourself or know people close to you that have had cancer, it's extremely hard to understand.
It's very personal.
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Thank you for your response. He's late fifties and hasn't been started on any treatment as yet. Stage 3-4 ... he is having other tests such as bone scans etc this week.

I am sorry to hear about your friend.

I'm the departmental manager. He is a hard worker - just worried he will work too hard as a distraction. Hmm - yes that makes sense. I offered for him to reduce his hours or go to fixed shift, but he just wanted to get on with his life for now.
 
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meri75 wrote :
Thank you for your response. He's late fifties and hasn't been started on any treatment as yet. Stage 3-4 ... he is having other tests such as bone scans etc this week.
Well, that's as serious as it gets. I hope he decides to seek treatment.

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I'm the departmental manager. He is a hard worker - just worried he will work too hard as a distraction. Hmm - yes that makes sense. I offered for him to reduce his hours or go to fixed shift, but he just wanted to get on with his life for now.
Just give him space and let him know you'll be there for him, that's pretty much all you can do.
 
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Okay - will do. And thanks again.
 
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