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Mommy, I need $5 for tomorrow's lunch!
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D_Lion wrote :
Two other observations:

Most OP's don't post beyond one topic (most don't even post again in their one topic), including all the topics that no "regulars" were in at all.

The people who stick around tend to react well and engage with their own humor.
These are both true. There are things I can do to impact the first item on this list.....and they are on MY list.
 
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VB_Girl wrote :
Lori you are too funny! I like to see the OP come back and support their threads and answer questions that invariably come up. I've noticed that when that doesn't happen, it seems that the threads die quickly or stray off topic. Not sure if there is a solution to that problem.
More deeply engaging new Members is definitely on my list of to-do's!

From a technical perspective we can default thread subscriptions to "on" but I think that would be annoying for a lot of folks, so we choose not to do that....
 
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neardc wrote :
I would distinguish between threads that go off topic because it's a natural progression of the discussion, versus threads that are "thrown" off topic when someone comes in (or several people do) and essentially hijacks it. It's the latter that is really a problem here. Brief digressions are fine -- that's part of the natural ebb and flow of discussion -- but it's not okay to come in and force a thread off-topic (which as often as not just seems to be a "Look what I can do!" sort of attention-getting ploy ).
Important distinction.

And, I recognize that much of the time this can also come form a desire to have FUN, but when the fun is (even unintentionally) at the expense of someone else, it's a problem.
 
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PY_2 wrote :
Mommy, I need $5 for tomorrow's lunch!
LOL!
 
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neardc wrote :
I would distinguish between threads that go off topic because it's a natural progression of the discussion, versus threads that are "thrown" off topic when someone comes in (or several people do) and essentially hijacks it. It's the latter that is really a problem here. Brief digressions are fine -- that's part of the natural ebb and flow of discussion -- but it's not okay to come in and force a thread off-topic (which as often as not just seems to be a "Look what I can do!" sort of attention-getting ploy ).
Here are a couple of good examples. I am not singling out these threads in particular... there are countless examples of this every day.

http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...-arrive-5.html (starting at #41)

http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/dating-advice/dating/32524-first-date-same-first-meet-3.html (starting at #26)

There is no reason to intentionally yank the threads off-track like this. And absolutely no reason for the usual suspects to join in and accelerate the process. It's not humorous and it's not fun. It's obnoxious and rude to the other posters in the thread, who will probably not be able to get their discussion back. Often the "thread wreckers" will carry on their "witty" irrelevant discussion across several threads at the same time.

Making a random comment and then contributing something to the thread is one thing. But this behavior is almost OCD-ish in nature. There's no reason for it. Thus my request (again) for a dedicated forum where those who are apparently addicted to this kind of posting behavior, to have their own sandbox to play in.
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I vote for keeping Everything Else ... which is a place for eclectic stuff that just doesn't fit elsewhere, but adding a ChitChat Forum for banter, flirting etc. Which is very fun when that's what you want, but does get in the way sometimes.
 
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Here's another example of a thread being yanked off the the tracks.

http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...-wrong-me.html (What's wrong with me?!)

It's not humorous and it's not fun. It's obnoxious and rude to the other posters in the thread.
 
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