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This thread is for those who want to talk about dating while having a disability. What your experiences are and what if anything might make it better. Thanks!
 
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Doesn't this thread belong in the Dating Forum?
 
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"This is a place where we can all discuss our Community, moderation philosophy, technical or any questions you have for us."
 
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Does anyone with a disability have anything to point out to others on eha that might help you here?

Do you find online communication more difficult than offline? (for those with a communication or otherwise disability.)
 
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I'll start, I have Aspergers (autism.) that means I miss many social cues, wander off topic and might only write half sentences. Sometimes word games confuse me.

Offline I communicate better since we can talk more directly (online you have to be Politically Correct) use body language, etc.

Online it's a nightmare. Many people telling me to "communicate better" or "communicate in a more clear manner" etc.

Even after I've informed them on eha that I have Autism they continue to berate my communication skills. Some of these same people purposely take my words out of context and try to make me look dumb.

I've rarely had someone with a high iq ask me to communicate clearer. Highly intellectual people understand me better (especially offline) and I get along best with lawyers, some doctors, some engineers, artists, Professors, etc.

No it's usually some with lower iqs who seem to be meaner & less accepting. They specifically write they like to "teach someone a lesson." Online this is a big thing to be accepted as humans are social animals.

So I've adapted by usually being the moderator and/or website owner. Though I have learned a lot since I've joined eha, I am still frustrated by the insensitivity shown to me (especially after I've repeatedly told the same people I have Aspergers.)

I think EHA should have Autism sensitivity training for the general population. I am presently strongly thinking of pursuing this in a different avenue.

While I continue to progress and learn, it's frustrating to be socially ostracized for being different. Rarely does someone say "hey you have changed and getting better." It's the same ole disenegenious "I don't understand you" or "can you speak more clearly."

It is disengenious because when I clarify (and they can't answer back) they ignore my response. So it's a verbal game to them. To me it's more...I have fought this battle my whole life.

I told one insulting eha person a few months ago that I'd exceed their verbal capacity. I learned some & did that. In a few months I will exceed that person's ability to communicate online.

If you are a person with a disabilty what is your goal?
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outlaw1 wrote :
"This is a place where we can all discuss our Community, moderation philosophy, technical or any questions you have for us."
Exactly ... I don't see how this falls under any of those categories ...
 
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ThePriestess wrote :
Exactly ... I don't see how this falls under any of those categories ...

Heres the front cover of this Group:

"This is a place where we can all discuss our Community, moderation philosophy, technical or any questions you have for us."

This is a question for eha. [edited] Where's the strike out when you need it? I see your point and raise you fifty! Ok perhaps then I can mold this thread in a positive way & leave it for anyone who might want to speak on the subject.

Thanks for your concern. [end of edit]
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Question can eha do more for people who have communication difficulties? Can eha have sensitivity training per Autism on the main boards?

I think that would help. I wouldn't want to think that eha is biased against autistics. Are the Political Correct word police biased against autistics?

After all they are the grammar police.
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Priestess do you have Autism, a communication disability or any other disability? You are too smart to be "normal."
 
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ThePriestess wrote :
Exactly ... I don't see how this falls under any of those categories ...

I don't see your rebuttal. Are you saying this does not fall into the "or any other question" category? What exactly are you suggesting? That people with disabilities cannot have their own thread on the Talk to Your Community Group?
 
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