jlf1964 is offline jlf1964 Post #1  July 15,2009, 10:26pm
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I just recently ended a relationship with a man who treated me very well but couldn't understand why I had to invest so much of my time into my 22 year old son. My son has learning and mental challenges due to mild cerebral palsy. He sometimes faulters in his quest for independent living because of this and at times needs my support and presence to assist him in finding solid ground again. This means I have to spend more time with him and less focused on a relationship. This is never going to change for me and my son, I have accepted this. However, it was very difficult to let this man go. I had met him through Eharmony so in many ways we were a great fit. I want very much to find a lasting loving relationship but I will always need to make my son my first priority which sometimes means I can't focus as much attention as I would like to on my partner at times. I want so much to believe there is some special out there for me that can accept how life is for me. Is there anyone out there in a similar situation who has found lasting love?
 
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Helo ,i can relate to you,mi 18 years son is autistic,and demandig,he is a blessing in my life;taking care of him make a better men.
 
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I have no doubt there is a wonderful man out there...who will not only respect your efforts to help your son become independent, but would even become part of the team to assist your son in reaching his goals...

I am sorry this happened, but the right man is out there for you...keep yourself dating and meeting new people...don't let this man's actions sour your expectations...

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Nobody can understand the situation with a special needs child
until you have a special needs child yourself and then only dealt with this.
 
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My point of view may be a bit different being a man but if you truly fall in love with someone then you fall in love with the children as well without issue of any challenges large or small. Your arms have to be big enough to wrap around the WHOLE family. There are a number of things that might initially look like love; lust for one, but true love is just that. If you feel that you have to explain why any of your children need you no matter what age they are then you do not have the right connection, feeling that all your children are loved and accepted is the right connection. No one may read this but it helps me realize just how important the right connection is.
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I read it...

+100, Don!
 
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I admire you, you're efforts for your son, your love to your son. I'm a mother of a healthy son and a nice daughter but I think sometimes I become tired about take care of my children.I should learn from you. you are a very very great mother.
 
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