suri19 is offline suri19 Post #1  December 27,2009, 8:30pm
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Trying to figure out something....
I really clicked with this guy. First date went really well and after the first date communicated via emails and by phone nothing serious just light, causal, flirting conversation and he said I could call him anytime. He said he was going to be busy for the next two weeks with school... Which I can understand life is busy.... We live in different cities about an hour away from each other. I had traveled to his city to drop off a relative. I called him to let him know I will be up there for a few hours and if he wanted to take a quick break to give me a call to see where I was at and I also told him not a big deal if he can't. I really wanted a second date to see if I wanted to get to know him better.


In short no call... no text... from him since the 19th of this month. He has not closed me yet from eharmony. Not sure how long I should wait before I close him. I have not text him nor called him. So any advice would be great!
 
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Diann1950 is online now Diann1950 Post #2  December 28,2009, 5:10am
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If you close him, that will give him the chance to reply if he wants to and also lets you find out if he will make any effort to renew the relationship or not. Since he has your phone number that would be easy for him. You might want to wait a full month though before you do that.
 
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relationshipqs is offline relationshipqs Post #3  December 28,2009, 4:51pm
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He had told you he was going to be busy for two weeks. Closing him off seems premature. All he did was not accept your casual "no big deal if you can't" invitation. It was only your first date and you don't have the relationship yet where either is compelled or inclined to report in. It's still very casual.

You don't know but exams may have gone badly, or there could have been family emergency, flu or something that needed tending

Think about sending him a light e-mail hoping that his exams went well, wishing him a happy new year, and that you're looking forward seeing him again.

If you don't get a reply to that after a couple of weeks, then make your decision.
 
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RoxyRedhead is offline RoxyRedhead Post #4  December 28,2009, 5:08pm

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____^^^^^______what she said.

Especially during the holiday madhouse, I wouldn't rush to close someone you are interested in. Give it a while into January before you do, then close with a Didn't Respond.....that way, if he wants to, he will.
 
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