GEF2 is offline GEF2 Post #1  September 12,2009, 10:25pm
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Guys, have a question? I've gone through guided communication and sent an email or two and exchanged #'s. This guy called me twice in one day-both times I missed his call b/c I was still at work and then I had gone out after work and got home late, so I figured I'd just return his call the next day. When I got home that night, he had also left me 2 emails! The next day, I was visiting a friend and I had looked at my phone and he had left me yet another message. Now, I am definitely not calling him b/c I am so put off/creeped out by his behavior. I have never even met him and it feels like he's stalking me. Why is he calling me so much and not giving me a chance to get back to him?
 
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Robecology is offline Robecology Post #2  September 13,2009, 1:35pm

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In a nutshell, it's because-
a. you've impressed him
b. you're one out of 50 that he's tried to contact that actually contacted back
c.he's not a game player and just wants to go to the next step.
d.he's a wierdo, creep, and obsessed.
You can ass-u-me the negative and miss out on a possible keeper. If he's creepy/needy, you'll know by the first conversation, and certainly by the first meeting. Just keep the conversation under control, and if you plan to meet, meet in a public place, and go dutch to avoid the obligation. Then make your judgement call.
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olneyjeeps is offline olneyjeeps Post #3  October 14,2009, 10:43pm
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So he's interested and persistent. Not answering is rude and will just leave you (and him) wondering.
Don't judge, communicate
 
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I would say give him a chance to see what is up. But if he keeps it up then get out. I will never forget the biggest red flag I had with my ex fiance of 4 years, the worst most abusive relationship of my life, I called him on my way home from work one night and he said, "why do you always work late on Thursdays? I find this very suspiscous." I thought to myself what the hell that is crazy, but over time these questions became normal and I didn't think anything of them - next thing you know I am in a VERY bad situation. It could be okay, just be careful.
 
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roguewolf1 is offline roguewolf1 Post #5  November 25,2009, 10:36pm

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Good answer and I agree.


Robecology wrote :
In a nutshell, it's because-
a. you've impressed him
b. you're one out of 50 that he's tried to contact that actually contacted back
c.he's not a game player and just wants to go to the next step.
d.he's a wierdo, creep, and obsessed.
You can ass-u-me the negative and miss out on a possible keeper. If he's creepy/needy, you'll know by the first conversation, and certainly by the first meeting. Just keep the conversation under control, and if you plan to meet, meet in a public place, and go dutch to avoid the obligation. Then make your judgement call.
 
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LadyButterfly is offline LadyButterfly Post #6  November 28,2009, 5:35pm
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c.he's not a game player and just wants to go to the next step
Looks like he is just so exited and may be worry that he could be late.
Be careful with some one who is rational and does not make mistakes and PLAY the game by the rules - this one is most dangerous. You will spend months or years before recognize the danger.
Anyway, the best protection you can get is YOUR OWN intuition. So, don't listen advices - hear what your guts tell you.
 
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