kittycat8 is offline kittycat8 Post #1  September 7,2009, 9:05pm
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Just wondering.... Usually it seems it is the guys who seem to be focused on the sexual relationship with the lady and from what I have known it can be that way sometimes... just a sexual relationship. But what if the table is turned and the lady just wants it to be that way and she let you know? How do you feel about that? Would that hurt your feelings or not? Would it matter if you had hoped for more or not?
 
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Kewl!
 
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So I am taking it as this is something you don't say to a guy... I really would of thought they might like that...
 
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Actually I was kidding.

If that question was actually asked, a large number of men (myself included) would probably go along with it for awhile until what they're really looking for came along. (If they're really looking for a real relationship.)

And there's probably a large percentage of men that wouldn't go along with it at all because they don't really care to have sex outside of a committed relationship. Contrary to popular belief among women, all men aren't just after sex.

Then there are guys that would say 'Kewl!'

And yes, there may be some hurt feelings if the guy was looking for more than that and felt an emotional attachment over a period of time, only to be told 'later dude, I just wanted a couple quick ones'.
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Most men would be more than happy to accommodate you...even some men who are looking for a relationship would be happy to have a sexual-only relationship with a woman who they are attracted to until they find one who also meets the relationship criteria.
Remember that for most of us, sex is a physical activity. At the beginning, we don't make it an emotional activity or a love activity...it's physical. No difference than playing basketball (emotionally). But like all humans, prolonged exposure to sex with the same woman causes side affects: feelings. So take with caution!
 
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Well, at least the average stereotypes are getting their proper attention here. I will have to see if this one matures...
 
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kittycat8 wrote :
Just wondering.... Usually it seems it is the guys who seem to be focused on the sexual relationship with the lady and from what I have known it can be that way sometimes... just a sexual relationship. But what if the table is turned and the lady just wants it to be that way and she let you know? How do you feel about that? Would that hurt your feelings or not? Would it matter if you had hoped for more or not?

If we agreed to a sex only thing, or FWB, or, NSA why would a person hope for more after being told this and agreeing??
 
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What is a FWB or an NSA? Don't have any idea of what you are talking about.

There is a reason I asked this question.
 
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kittycat8 wrote :
What is a FWB or an NSA? Don't have any idea of what you are talking about.

There is a reason I asked this question.
FWB=Friend with benefits
NSA=No strings attached
 
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Thanks. New at the abbreviations being used.

.... Okay doesn't really matter anymore but I do not like to intentionally hurt anyone and it bothers me if I do. Had a situation happen not too long ago with a client that I had known for over a year. Younger than me and one night too much to drink became something else that I really didn't want it to be. Not ready for a relationship asked if we could keep it just a sexual one. Seems I might of hurt my friend and everything became different after that. I just really thought a guy would like that scenario without taking into consideration that just maybe there were feelings involved..... My bad.
 
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