mercury12 is offline mercury12 Post #71  December 26,2009, 5:14pm
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Lacey37 wrote :
It has been my experience that it is not possible for men and women just to be friends. Although some of my best friends have been guys, and my friendships with women rarely last, there is ALWAYS sexual tension when a man and woman are close friends. I think the reason is that women really want a man to love them who can be a great friend as well. So if you have the friendship already, the sexual tension naturally follows.
Rubbish.

90% of my friends are male!!
 
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pinkdale is offline pinkdale Post #72  December 29,2009, 6:46pm
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I've only found real friendship to work between women and gay men. From what is easily seen when watching the interactions between men and women, guys usually classify us. Women are treated as either potential sexual partners or non-potential sex partners. Seldom do you see men with female friends they are not attracted to.

Of course, there are always those rare examples
 
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Prego is offline Prego Post #73  December 30,2009, 1:33pm
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Men and women can DEFINITELY be platonic friends. In fact, I have found many of my most rewarding relationships are with women. Some of these friends have been older than me, many of them younger. When I meet someone who shares a similar passion for work, family, or other interest, it ceases to matter if they are male or female. I have met someone who makes a difference in my life, and I will work at making that relationship stronger.
 
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Yes, of course, but there is more than one template. I have two best friends who are men [many more who are women]. One is married and we allow absolutely no 'auras' of sex in our 40 year relationship through two wives. My single best friend and I are very attracted to each other at times and have had to negotiate the limits of touch, language, compliments, activities, particularly when neither of us is dating others so as to be helpful in not 'crossing over'. I knew within two weeks of dating him that he was not a candidate for a long-term relationship, but have grown to love him as a friend and we are very close. We are dear friends. I would hate to think because we wouldn't be able to control acting out sexual feelings when we already decided we did not want to be mates, that we would have to give up a truly wonderful relationship that both of us enjoy so much.
 
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Yes I have a few female friends, one is my ex wife.
 
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shohreh is offline shohreh Post #76  January 26,2010, 9:46am
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I'm sure they can It depend on their opinions. All of us need many friends,but one partner.
 
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ANDR3W is offline ANDR3W Post #77  February 4,2010, 2:37pm
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roguewolf1 wrote :
I strongly believe the above interaction between several members demonstrates the gulf of communication between men and women.

None of us owns the reality of the Universe. But if we can listen to each other in a civil way (and please let me know when I have crossed the line) then we might be able to learn.

If we look at dating from a strictly all male or all female point of view, then we have a shallow understanding of what actually goes on.

After all there is a third point of view. What actually happens!
Maybe I'm wrong, what do you think?
Well said Roguewolf1, you make an excellent point. I have always wondered how dating is percieved from the female point of view. I can theorize, but the only way to know for sure is to hear it from the source. Can the ladies in here shed some light on this please?
 
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OK, here is a woman's point of view, at least THIS woman's point of view.

A friendship between a man and a woman cannot be platonic for long! When the friendship starts, it may seem like it can remain platonic, but that is more at the "acquaintance" than "friend" stage. By the time they get close enough to be actual friends, it is no longer platonic. There is some kind of emotional connection, even if sexual involvement has not started. Let some sort of strongly upsetting or really fantastic event happen and see what occurs when they share the experience. Yup, no longer platonic for sure--sex gets in there pronto. I don't think that level of attractiveness matters that much, because emotions override that.

Look, I was married to a guy who played mixed doubles tennis with a woman from the office. I worked at the same place they did. She was no beauty. He practiced with her after work, and I had to put in a lot of overtime hours on a project. I noticed them talking in her office during the evenings and laughing and flirting. When I protested, my husband told me they were "just friends" and even pointed out how unattractive she was. He definitely liked her company, and the first time they had sex (so they claimed) was in celebration of an unexpected win. He didn't think that win would also cause him a big loss--a wife, a family, a home.

Doesn't Chris Rock do a routine about how men view female friends as sort of spare tires? "Someone he hasn't -bleep-ed...yet," I think is the way he puts it. He is so right......

Hey, I like men. I am not a man basher or I would not be on e-Harmony. I think there are a lot of great guys out there, and I hope to find one.
 
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skeeety is offline skeeety Post #79  March 30,2010, 3:34am
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I believe men and women can be platonic friends, provided both side are very mature in their thinking.
 
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I believe men and women can be platonic friends, provided both sides are very mature in their thinking.
 
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