Can men and women just be platonic friends?


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rocchio is offline rocchio Post #101  April 21,2010, 1:21pm
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Since this is the "Man's point of view" group, I will express myself in a much more honest and direct way since men, or they ought to be, are my primary audience. I apologize ahead of time if I inadvertantly offend any women with my frankness.

I think men and women can be platonic friends. It is far easier, however, to be platonic friends with a woman to whom you have no sexual attraction. I, nevertheless, have lot of female friends that I would sleep with in a New York minute (and sometimes do). My personal rule is that I would never befriend a woman with whom I would not be entirely satisfied being "just friends." It violates my ethics, and is not only a manipulative behavior but is needy and weak.

Over the last few months, I have become friends with a woman in an exercise class I particpate in a few times a week. Initially, I was not particluliarly attracted to her, but now I am (she has awesome breasts and they kind of grew on me when I started watching her do the bent over row exercise! She has a slender build with seemingly perfect breasts--I do believe they are 100% natural). She's bright, artiuclate, and just plain fun to hang with during the class. We laugh a lot. We text back and forth some, and I flirt with her some. I want to stay out of the "friends zone" and maintain some level of sexual tension--which I believe I have managed to do. She has a boyfriend, which, in a way, I'm glad, because I am going to try and sleep with her and it's probably better that she has a boyfriend because in terms of a seduction it is just more fun that way! I also don't see us as LTR material. In either event, I like talking with her, and even if I never sleep with her, I'm cool with it. She's great, and I look forward to seeing her at my class. So, yes, men can be friends even with hot-looking women!
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #102  April 25,2010, 3:07pm

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dixielee wrote :
"women can have men as friends and not sleep with them, men just have female friends they haven't slept with yet!"
So after they've slept with them they'd be friends right? I've got a close friend who I originally dated, we had lots of sex for the first six months we knew each other, and it was really good but we didn't fall in love so we stopped having sex. Since then we've been proper mates, no lapses, no tension, just two people who like each other and enjoy a catch up and a beer every so often. I could rely on him if anything bad happened and vice versa. We've had other bf/gf since and talk to each other about them.

Am I kidding myself?
 
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trixie1868 wrote :
So after they've slept with them they'd be friends right? I've got a close friend who I originally dated, we had lots of sex for the first six months we knew each other, and it was really good but we didn't fall in love so we stopped having sex. Since then we've been proper mates, no lapses, no tension, just two people who like each other and enjoy a catch up and a beer every so often. I could rely on him if anything bad happened and vice versa. We've had other bf/gf since and talk to each other about them.

Am I kidding myself?
Trix, I don't think so. I'm friends with a lot of woman I've slept with.
 
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ANDR3W wrote :
The main problem I have with platonic relationships is that they do not fulfill my needs for a meaningful friendship or for physical intimacy. My needs are best met in the context of a romantic relationship. Given that I am already in de facto platonic relationships with the wives and girl friends of my close friends it makes no sense for me to court more platonic friends. Is it wrong to avoid platonic relationships if they don't meet your needs?
Andrew, I don't think it's wrong at all. One ought to avoid any friendship if it does not meet a need. As I mentioned in an earlier post, if one is not satisfied or cannot accept a friendship with a woman on platonic terms, he ought not befriend her.
 
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j0hn8andy wrote :
I think you're right. I think those are the ones that worked best for me.

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That's what I need! Only, I think I'd prefer to be friends with the "lipstick" variety, even better if she has friends. I'd even be cool if they want to make-out or something in front of me.
 
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