JDavid is offline JDavid Post #1  June 4,2009, 2:17pm
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Will you date / see / spend time with a woman whose divorce is not final?

If no, exactly why not?

 If yes, exactly why yes?

Should people who are in the process of divorce refrain from seeing / dating others?

 What, if anything, do you see as potential negatives?
 
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ThaddeusJohn is offline ThaddeusJohn Post #2  June 4,2009, 5:00pm

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Hey JD,

"Red Flag City". My general answer would be NO. However, there are a lot of variables involved that I'm thinkin' 'bout. How long has there been a seperaration between the two? Is it recent or quite some time ago as in like 2 years or more? If recent, the Woman hasn't had enough time to grieve about the hurt and rejection and all of the negative thoughts/feelings a crushed, broken heart can bring.

Are there kids involved? If so, the couple would have continuous contact with each other in terms of child visitation/child support. I also would be wondering if they've actually "let each other go" or are there still romantic, sexual feelings involved. There could be a continuing emotional affair going on which could easily go sexual, especially if Dad often visits the kids or if one of the partner's is hurting and needs "company". If each partner hasn't completely moved on, then I see a good chance of heartache if you continue to pursue her. I guess I would advise big time caution.

I similarly was involved with a woman that gave me the "I'll be divorcing my husband and moving out soon", type of lie. She added that she slept on the couch at home and had no relations with her hubby. I was young and dumb, but still pretty much aware of what her real intentions were so, I have only myself to blame. She'd visit me for a week every month and told her hubby that she was doing her antique type business work, up in the big city. This went on for several months and I ended the adulterous affair with the knowledge that she wouldn't leave her hubby because he had her covered by excellent health insurance. She had Fibromyalgia and needed proper med care and meds. After all that, she wanted to continue the affair. I said forget it and that was that.

This chump(meaning me) had to learn the hard way, although I didn't have much of an emotional investment in the relationship. But, here I am supposed to be a Christian and I'm committing adultery. So, I regret the affair and hope that you JD will use wisdom in deciding whether this woman is worth pursuing. Good luck!
 
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If you only were dating a divorced person there is no problem. The problem arises when the relationship turns sexual before the divorce is final. That is called adultry and the person who was awarded the custody of any children could end up with major legal problems do to this if the ex ever found out. You do not want to be named in legal action which could be messy but could end up costing you your job and/or professional license.
 
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Yes I would,reason for this is due to she will probably be going through a hard time and if I was going to try and turn it into a relationship,It could only be a good thing to share with her and be there for her to support her and comfort her during her time of struggles & hardships.
 
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