Do You Want Political Correctness or Do You Want Sincere Honesty?


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ThaddeusJohn is offline ThaddeusJohn Post #1  June 2,2009, 7:03pm

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Hi Good People!.
I’ve noticed that this site advertises as a PC- "No male bashing zone-the only one of it’s kind on EHA". Since I’ve read so many vitriolic, venomous male bashing posts/threads written by women, Am I supposed to come to the conclusion that male bashing is politically correct or should be retaught to the culture at large as acceptable?

Since when has prejudice, verbal violence/personal attack, lack of respect or intolerance of a person’s God-given attributes become politically correct in a free country? Thank you to ALL of the Wonderful & Loving Woman of Quality that refuse to engage in such hurtful behavior! (Yes, Men do hurt and have strong emotions, ladies)! There’s spirit, flesh and blood on the other side of your comp screen and keyboard, ladies.

However, what common good on the whole has political correctness done for anyone, especially women? I’m thinking about a specific Male-bashing post where gals were just tearing up Men to shreds. (men who admittedly could be classified in the minority as "little boys", rather than Real Men. The gals kept posting asking, "Why don’t the Men weigh in on this?" Some passive men tried, but were insincere and dishonest in their replies and told the angry women what they wanted to hear and how much they agreed. These types of men are basically disrespectful to women (and are the kind that tell you anything, just to get laid). I’m sorry, but these wimps chose to lie to you rather than telling you what they thought to be the Truth. More lack of true communication to complicate our already confusing relationships.

So what’s it gonna be? Political correctness or sincere honesty? Women being told lies, disrespected, disregarded, manipulated, abused and feeling no connection, time and time again with their man-friend? Or Women choosing to be less sensitive/defensive and chosing to allow their man an open line of communication for intimacy to feel comfortable about sharing his feelings without fear of ridicule or rejection?

Now Men, it’s past time for US to step up as the Real Men that we are and to treat our Women with the utmost of Love, Gentleness & Respect, especially when expressing our thoughts and feelings to our Special Woman! We ALL despise dishonesty and deception especially in intimate relationships!
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outlaw1 is offline outlaw1 Post #2  June 3,2009, 3:11am

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My only guess has been verified on TV via Scientists and Doctors-Estrogen certain times of the month is repelled by Tetosterone.

So Mothernature made it natural for women to dislike being with men during parts of a month. Our smells, everything about us is not attractive to many of them.

Then miracle of miracles, those same women become much more attracted to men a few days during the month.

In my humble opinion this outright dislike and hatred of men from some women during certain parts of the month has been and is being used by the Political Correct.

I'd rather have a sincere & honest woman than an insincere Politically Corrct one who just says what I might want to hear at any particular moment. That doesn't help anyone or the relationship imho.
 
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Lisa4fellowship is offline Lisa4fellowship Post #3  June 9,2009, 12:02am
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Dear Thadeouse,
On behalf of the menbers of the female gender who participate in male bashing, I appologise for them. I personaly hate "politicaly correct speech" or anything termed politicaly correct, because it does tell people not to be honest about what they realy think and feel. There are women who have dealt as treacherously with men as some men have dealt with women, and I wish all genders would just stop with all gender bashing. from Lisa- female
 
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Lisa4fellowship is offline Lisa4fellowship Post #4  June 9,2009, 12:09am
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Hi outlaw,
Are there any more honest ones like you and Thadouse in the Iowa area? Because Ya'll seem hard to find! ( I'm reffering to people in general)
 
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JDavid is offline JDavid Post #5  June 9,2009, 8:10am
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I was initially surprised at the amount of negativism expressed by the older women (over 50) posting in an advice site associated with a dating service. I would have expected that they posted in forums such as this with at least some hope of establishing a relationship (or discussing their successful relationship) – and not just to express bitterness about men preferring other women.

Bitterness does not seem to be regarded as a desirable personality characteristic and is not usually a priority in date or mate selection. Yet, several women who post regularly display that their most prominent characteristic – then seem unable to comprehend why men prefer other women.

They often blame their failure to attract a date or mate on age discrimination ('they all prefer younger women") – evidently overlooking the fact that other women of similar age manage to find suitable partners for short-term or long-term relationships.

It would be interesting to know if men were widely interested in relationships with them when they were younger. If they were interested earlier (beyond infatuation and lust), what has changed? How are the women different? Are they still personally appealing – or have they become ________________ ? (fill in the blank)

 
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Vinsa81 is offline Vinsa81 Post #6  June 9,2009, 1:28pm
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I'm new to this group, and just came across your post. I am sorry to hear that women here have been bashing you guys because of the experiences that they have had with a few.

Personally, I would prefer my man to tell me the truth, I'd rather hear that more than what he thinks I want to hear. Tell me if my butt looks big, if I am being crazy, or clingy, or anything else that you don't find attractive.

I am a firm believer that being PC is over-rated. In your question/rant, you asked if women need to choose not to be so sensitive, but also mentioned that men hurt and have feelings . . . There is a tactful, not necessarily PC way for either party to speak the truth.

If you have to lie to make it work, it never will.
 
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Hi everyone!
I think I stumbled on the thread that JDavid is reffering to. The tittle caught my attention and I was curiouse what people were saying. The theory repeated over and over again, was just so inaccurate and absolutely irritating that My insides were screaming my protest!

Soooo, I couldn't resist offering my opinionated self to their Questions and Pleas for answeres. Now here comes the test as to whether people realy want the Honesty they claim to want. I gave answeres that were real, and honest, and that require people to look inward. That is where most people get stuck. ( I beleive)When they have to take responsibility for something they see as a problem, instead of blaming something or someone else for what their disturbed by.

So, I think one thing we can all check our selves about, is how we react when someone IS HONEST with us, and we just aren't compfortable with what we're hearing? Are we sending the signal that we realy do want the truth. Or are we setting our selves up , even occasionaly, to be lied to. Even by info that being ommited. Still dishonest.
Well, take care all,
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123listen is offline 123listen Post #8  June 18,2009, 3:27pm
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great topic I'm for respecting and even honoring women . I believe that theres something good in everyone. its what your bent on looking at.
 
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hogrally is offline hogrally Post #9  June 18,2009, 10:16pm
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I vote for being bluntly honest.
It may sting for a while but the other makes me twitch and break out in Hives!!
 
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