Is There Something Dating Articles Aren't Telling Women?


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outlaw1 is offline outlaw1 Post #1  May 27,2009, 3:05am

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{below article's research is based on MSN, Cosmopolitan, Yahoo and other dating articles. It does not include any research on eha or EH dating articles. Please let us NOT discuss eha or EH dating articles. Thank you!}
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Dating articles lie to women. Most are about how and why the "man" is always wrong, has done something "wrong" and it's always "his" fault. Get a life! That's such BS, how can "intelligent" women (the media alleged "superior" sex) buy into such untrue Kindergarten myths?

It's the biggest scam per online dating...and women... $eat it up. ? Why, because women are not superior (were they, they would have to be androids) but are HUMAN. *Gasp* what a concept.

So the real question is who lied to women? Who told them they could have it all? Be a superwoman and have both the CAREER and Husband/Child? Who? Well it was the Media and extremists who lied to them.

Now these same (media and extremists) are re-profitting off of the same women by not only keeping the lies alive, but also expanding them to younger women and saying it's all men's faults. "You are perfect so men can't accept you" BS. Duh, doesn't take a genius to see how illogical and WRONG this is.

Nope. Men don't want to date or marry difficult women. That's bottomline. No man around the world wants a difficult woman. And a lot of women today (according to older women) are difficult. A woman can be successful but she doesn't have to be difficult. Or does she?

Whoever figures out this solution will make $ a million.
Men have drawn a line in the sand. Women can continue to strut their wares but many men aren't buying. As a woman what can you do? Avoid reading gender biased dating articles! Ask publishers for gender fair dating articles.

Women can use this information here to show online potential daters that you:

1) are low maintainence {many men including divorced men would appreciate an easy going woman to a high stressful argueing kind.

2) While your career is important don't make your EH profile make it look like THAT's all you are about-your career.

Men don't want to be treated like furniture in a busy household. Would you? Stress how you want and need (gasp! the horror) a man in your life. Write how you have time and/or will make time to fit in this new piece of furniture, er I mean man in your life.

3) Show that you like men! *Gasp* what a concept! Some women's profiles on EH appear to seethe "I've got it all, a great career, my children, a beautiful house, my mom, 2 cats, 2 dogs, etc. "I don't need a man IN MY LIFE. But I'd like to hug someone" etc.

What I'm saying is SHOW your potential mate that you CARE! You DO want and NEED a man in your life. Humans are social animals and do NEED other humans in your life. You NEED your children in your life. Why not a husband?

Men smell this attitude and run in the opposite direction. If you come across as being antagonistic to the opposite sex and/or having an attitude that you have a take it or leave it attitude, guess what. Most online men will leave your profile alone.

4) Attitude-drop it because online men can smell it a mile away. The "I don't need a man" phrase that so many extremist dating authors tell you that you MUST write is wrong. If you don't need a man then why are YOU a subsriber to an online dating website? Personally I would never get serious with a woman who had this attitude. It hurts and is a direct insult to men.

Just ask any 100 men...offline. There you will find things like reality & truth.


{These articles continue to perpetuate myths. A kind successful woman will have a better dating opportunity than a biotchy successful one. The more these articles tell women to "keep your standards high ladies" the more men offline say "no way, I'd rather stay single."}

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outlaw1 is offline outlaw1 Post #2  May 27,2009, 3:09am

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Forgot to ask, what do you think?

Also PLEASE let's not critique eha Dating Articles. Feel free however to use an MSN or Yahoo dating article. Thanks!
 
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outlaw1 is offline outlaw1 Post #3  May 28,2009, 11:17am

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I am wrong below to only blame dating articles and difficult women per dating problems today. Truth be told, there are many variables including living in a mobile society, how the genders have changed, how rudenss is "in" including some rude behavior per some men, how family laws are being enforced in an unfair manner to men/fathers, how some men can't handle the change women's roles have undergone and the economy.

For me to simply blame difficult women is as prejudiced and unfair as my charge that dating articles are unfair & biased. Thank you everyone for giving me time to clarify this before hanging me.

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Perhaps the bottomline is two questions.

1) Are these dating articles, which all blame men, helping EH women understand & communicate better with men?

2) With so many men objecting to these prejudiced articles...what has happened in the Men's World (or not happened) that these articles are NOT addressing?

Why not have dating articles from the Man's Point of View? Are women that sensitive that they always have to be told they are right? And at what point does that hurt women consumers per online dating?

Finally why do MILLIONS of men across the United States refuse to commit to women today? What has changed to make this happen? Wouldn't understanding this help women understand how to better communicate online to men? If I was the owner of EH I'd be jumping on this.

Many of my EH matches seem to be so oblivious to me as a man and potential date/partner. I simply close out so many matches because of that. Now that's just me...are many other men are doing the same thing? Maybe EH has done enough research to let women know & understand why men are closing out women on EH?

Finally has any of the above helped women advance careerwise while holding back men? (changing laws, change of gender roles, economy including men losing most of the jobs today* & men fighting Parental Alientation.)

If men are indeed being held back, that might explain why there are either more successful women than men. Or perhaps there just are more women engaging in online dating per EH than men?

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Thanks. That's some good info to think over.
 
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outlaw1 is offline outlaw1 Post #5  June 1,2009, 10:50am

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Is this article/thread too harsh? Should I rewrite it or close the thread? Is it unfair to women?
 
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outlaw1 is offline outlaw1 Post #6  June 1,2009, 10:51am

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jeffreynevins wrote :
Thanks. That's some good info to think over.

Thanks! You don't think it's too harsh?
 
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That was hilarious, Bro! I'm still in stitches :-D Long, long ago when I was 25 years younger, I worked the night shift at a 24Hr convenience store. All I had to do besides wait on the customers who came in the morning was to read magazines. Many of the mags I read were cosmo and other's of the same nature-of how women were to deal with their man. Even back then I noticed a common theme about how to get your Boyfriend/Lover to do this or that. All it was really about was how to teach women how to manipulate their men into doing things they didn't want to do. Of course, pulling back sexually was one of their great strategies that were taught. Sadly, it seems like we haven't come very far in a generation.
 
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ThaddeusJohn wrote :
That was hilarious, Bro! I'm still in stitches :-D Long, long ago when I was 25 years younger, I worked the night shift at a 24Hr convenience store. All I had to do besides wait on the customers who came in the morning was to read magazines. Many of the mags I read were cosmo and other's of the same nature-of how women were to deal with their man. Even back then I noticed a common theme about how to get your Boyfriend/Lover to do this or that. All it was really about was how to teach women how to manipulate their men into doing things they didn't want to do. Of course, pulling back sexually was one of their great strategies that were taught. Sadly, it seems like we haven't come very far in a generation.
Are you kidding me? Where did you read THAT? Or am I the only woman who thinks piling on the sex would tend to make a man more inclined to...oh....I dunno, go change my oil in my car for me? Seems like a win-win-win-win to me....everybody gets sex (win), he gets to go out and do something that makes him feel manly because I certainly can't change the oil in my car (win), I get to see a man get all nice and sweaty (win) which would probably lead to a mutual shower and more sex (win). Man, women can be SO stupid.
 
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Outlaw, interesting post and article...much to address, so here's a limited response...

There are a generation or 2 of women that were trained well by their mothers, aunts, even grandmothers...we were told never to rely on a man for anything...we don't need them, etc...and a fair amount of male bashing was involved with it...it was an attempt to encourage us girls to be more independent, ambitious, to the degree where some of the traditional roles were not held in a favorable light...Unfortunately, I was part of that movement and drank some of the koolaid...

For some reason, some (not all) women appear to need to impress and always be in control...almost like we are less woman if we don't have it all...I have many female friends and members of my family that cling on to this for dear life...

And perhaps the reason we can be so difficult is because we are exhausted and cranky trying to be perfect...and its much easier to blame someone else for that...

I am able to take care of myself and my kids, but I have made concessions with my career...because I wanted to be a good mother and that means being here, working from home...it was my choice and one that has kept my perspective in order...

At age 49 (now 50), I entered into a new relationship with a pretty terrific man...I have discovered I do need him...I need him for the emotional, physical and mental connection...I need his advice, his wisdom, often I might add... his help with things around my house...his humor...sometimes I just need to be in his presence...

I want to be strong, competent, self reliant...but also soft, vulnerable and lovable too...there are some of us out there!

I am trying to teach my daughter differently than I was taught...
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Dear outlaw,
It's refreshing to read the intelligence you write with in so many threads. I was raised my a "man - hater" so to speak. My mother loved to have men in her life, but did not speak well of them nor respect the ones in her life. I personaly banished man hating speech from my vocabulary at a young age, feeling it was disrespectful to all the wonderful male figures that I knew.

I have never participated in even reading dating articles (except for one) because I have always thaught they were bogus. The one I did read caught my attention because it was more about body language and reading subtle signs of interest from the opposite gender. I'm so used to the bold signs(receiving end) I think I cant recognise the subtle more desirable ones.

Any way, Kudos for your comments about articles. I agree with you.

I do have a comment about the independant women. Many women have been abandoned by less than honorable men, after placing their trust in them, men have left them to very treachourase fates with children, and poverty, and even illness. It still happens in this generation. So woman realy arent safe to trust their well being, nor their childrens well being to the hands of husband/Father. Some women have abandoned their husbands and children as well, but it is more the other way around. ( Not all men are like this)

Any way, this has caused women to feel a need to protect themselves against this possible fate. Including me. I have lived through this abandonment from My father, and then my second husband. I don't intend to ever be financialy dependent again. However, I don't want lots of toys, or a fancy house, or a long list of luxuries either. I want to share life with a man who wants to take care of me,yet respects that I won't be financial y dependant on him.

Then there's the emotional side of needs. I'm willing to be emotionaly vulnerable because one can't find love without it.I also want hi m to feel some emotional and companionable need of me. But how can a women tell if a man is also making himself open emotionaly, or if he's realy not looking for that? My ex- husband once told me that if a man tells a woman alot of personal things, that he likes her alot and wants to get closer emotionaly. Is that true? If so, Are there any other signals?
 
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