sacredmezzo is offline sacredmezzo Post #1  April 17,2009, 2:10pm
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Do most men enjoy giving oral sex to a woman? Is it a learned preference? I plan on marrying someone with no sexual experience and I've had quite a lot of experience. I particularly like oral sex and I'm hoping that he will like it too. My first husband did not. And what is the best way to teach a guy how to please you without offending him or making him feel bad? Just talk about it? Or read a book? I'd like some insight from the male perspective on this.Thanks!
 
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Do most men enjoy giving oral sex to a woman? Is it a learned preference? I plan on marrying someone with no sexual experience and I've had quite a lot of experience. I particularly like oral sex and I'm hoping that he will like it too. My first husband did not. And what is the best way to teach a guy how to please you without offending him or making him feel bad? Just talk about it? Or read a book? I'd like some insight from the male perspective on this.Thanks!
Some women like to give oral sex to men and some don't. Same with men. Learned preference? Not sure what you mean. For me I knew my first live in lover (I was 17) would like it. SoI experimented on her before we moved in together. A few of my guy acquaintaincesover the yearswould verbalize their distaste for it. But usually these kind of men tended to be prejudiced anyway.


Gently bring up this question with your husband to be. Would you still marry him if he said flat out no to giving you oral pleasure? My last girlfriend did not like it done to her. Teach-depends on his personality and how open heis towards sex. A book on Cunnilingus would be good as well as buying "The Hite Report onFemale Sexuality."


Talking about itwould be great if heisn't a sexual prude, etc. Good luck.
 
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It's all about being comfortable with your partner and your own s-e-xuality. If your partner trusts you and has confidence in himself, it should be easy to nudge him or steer his ears wherever you like.


The other thing is...umm...being down there needs to be a pleasant situation, if you know what I mean. If you just got done running a marathon or returned from a 3 day camping trip....A bad experience will make many guys shy away from visiting the southern hemisphere in the future. Especially because there really is no way to tell you why.


You should be able to tell if he's enjoying himself, or just going through the motions. Some guys truly love being down there, some don't. Some take great pride in making you climb the walls, to others it's a means to an end.


It's like anything else, if you love doing it, you'll be better at it. And practice makes perfect.
 
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Probably the best advice would be - take a bath beforehand. Most guys are really not into 'a la naturelle'. Cleanliness is the absolute minimum... Guys, you want great sex, put some effort into it. I've yet to meet a woman who responds to kissing sandpaper.
 
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I wouldn't know as I've never tried it (or anything else for that matter). But it's one of those things I'd like to try out just to see how it is.
 
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I have found that most of the men I'm friends with and that is alot since I've been from N.Y. - Cali. all like to have oral sex done to them and enjoy returning the pleasure to their spouses. My 3rd. wife didn't like it being done to her when we first got together 12 years ago and didn't like to give it either now I can't keep her away from getting oral sex done to her she loves it of course it is away to the womans heart if a man can be gifted orally in every way.Don't be afraid to talk to him and everything will work out just be honest about your wants and ask him to be honest about his wants and just as well both of your needs.And please remember sex don't make or break a relationship but it does help or hurt it,if your not open and honest about it.
 
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I've always believed in "Ladies first," so yeah, if she's into it I enjoy doing it. Even better if she enjoys returning the favor!
 
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jamesp81,595619 wrote :

I wouldn't know as I've never tried it (or anything else for that matter). But it's one of those things I'd like to try out just to see how it is.
Hang out with us for awhile James...we'll show you how to get your groove on!


 
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legend29,599994 wrote :

jamesp81,595619 wrote :


I wouldn't know as I've never tried it (or anything else for that matter). But it's one of those things I'd like to try out just to see how it is.


Hang out with us for awhile James...we'll show you how to get your groove on!

I appreciate the optimismic response. However, truth is I'll probably never get married and since I believe in celibacy outside of marriage, then I'm not likely to get a chance to practice my groove as it were.
 
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I my self enjoy both ways. I have met women who dont like it done on them or do not like doing it to me.


You could tell your husband to do the alphabet with his tongue. I know some women do not like to talk in bed but when your husband is doing it. You could say yes no up down faster slower.
 
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