Why are more people single? Can dating be bad?

Found an article, Times Online, says:

"The number of people who are single has doubled in the past 30 years and the Government predicts that by next year the single-person household will be the most common kind."

Dating can seriously damage your love life - Times Online

A few interesting tidbits include:
- "Yet the more guys that I've met, the harder it's become to know if there's that spark."

- "I have became convinced that the problem lies in dating - an American export not only completely alien to traditional British culture, but also detrimental, in fact, to the process of finding lasting love".

- "but this competitive style of dating encourages us to rate appearance and superficial qualities over personality, even though, ultimately, this is not what makes for a good long-term partnership."

He's basically saying (I think) that as society has become more focused on short term gratifiation that dating has become more 'drive-thru' and we're not willing to invest the time needed to actually get to know someone enough and instead making more significant judgements about less significant traits. ((And I certainly agree with this last part...I cannot ever recall being asked a question on a date that related to personal values.))

So enough said.. does this relate to you, do you see it in society?, is it possible that 'American dating' is just wrong?

Because the amount of divorces have increased and very seldom you see a couple who wants to be together and stay together, this takes a lot of work and effort on both parts, we have become an effortless in every way and in everything, even vacuum cleaners clean by itself. We have gain some and lost some values, specially moral values.

Personally, I have my moral values and it takes prority in my life but it is hard to find someone with this kind of substance therefore I rather stay single, it is a vicious circle. I committed once before and didn't work but that does not mean that I am resentful and don't want to try again, if I find what it is right for me I'll do it again with the same entusiasm as I did before. I cannot pass from one hand to another feeling good about it and I am sure that some of us here feel the same way.

Being divorced or never-married was not socially acceptable 100 years ago. It is now. People who'd rather be single these days feel free to be that way; people are less willing to settle for marrying or staying-married if they're not happy with their mate.

I think 100's of years ago marriage was more of an economic and co-parenting partnership. Nice if you like/love your spouse, but not necessary, and you can always have love on the side.

That changed in more modern times where people want to combine love and economic partnership into one union. Does it work? Maybe, maybe not.

I wonder what effect there will be on children over coming generations, where the "nuclear family" is no longer the norm.

A few interesting tidbits include:
- "Yet the more guys that I've met, the harder it's become to know if there's that spark."

- "but this competitive style of dating encourages us to rate appearance and superficial qualities over personality, even though, ultimately, this is not what makes for a good long-term partnership."

Found an article, Times Online, says:

"The number of people who are single has doubled in the past 30 years and the Government predicts that by next year the single-person household will be the most common kind."

Dating can seriously damage your love life - Times Online

A few interesting tidbits include:
- "Yet the more guys that I've met, the harder it's become to know if there's that spark."

- "I have became convinced that the problem lies in dating - an American export not only completely alien to traditional British culture, but also detrimental, in fact, to the process of finding lasting love".

- "but this competitive style of dating encourages us to rate appearance and superficial qualities over personality, even though, ultimately, this is not what makes for a good long-term partnership."

He's basically saying (I think) that as society has become more focused on short term gratifiation that dating has become more 'drive-thru' and we're not willing to invest the time needed to actually get to know someone enough and instead making more significant judgements about less significant traits. ((And I certainly agree with this last part...I cannot ever recall being asked a question on a date that related to personal values.))

So enough said.. does this relate to you, do you see it in society?, is it possible that 'American dating' is just wrong?

Being divorced or never-married was not socially acceptable 100 years ago. It is now. People who'd rather be single these days feel free to be that way; people are less willing to settle for marrying or staying-married if they're not happy with their mate.

I think 100's of years ago marriage was more of an economic and co-parenting partnership. Nice if you like/love your spouse, but not necessary, and you can always have love on the side.

That changed in more modern times where people want to combine love and economic partnership into one union. Does it work? Maybe, maybe not.

I wonder what effect there will be on children over coming generations, where the "nuclear family" is no longer the norm.

This is an anti-MotherNature gender feminist politics. What is going to happen when all those gender feminists finally realize 1) Mothernature is smarter than them 2) they are being controlled by international bankers and
3) Armies of Muslims WILL invade the American homeland. What will they do then? Have their feminized boys hand over their computer games?

So maybe in 100 years a nuclear family will consist of microbes as the human race will no longer exist if things continue.