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Everything about creating a happy life... your tricks, skills, what happiness is, what it's not....how we should change the world to create happier people...etc.
 
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WeDesignOurLives wrote :
Everything about creating a happy life... your tricks, skills, what happiness is, what it's not....how we should change the world to create happier people...etc.

For me happiness is whatever makes me smile and jump up and down at the moment.

If we can get people to laugh, I think we make them happy.
 
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For me happiness is whatever makes me smile and jump up and down at the moment.

If we can get people to laugh, I think we make them happy.
Can't you be happy when you're not smiling and jumping up and down? For many people happiness doesn't have to require joy in the moment. Having fun can't make you happy but is it really happiness?
 
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Can't you be happy when you're not smiling and jumping up and down? For many people happiness doesn't have to require joy in the moment. Having fun can't make you happy but is it really happiness?
"Jumping up and down" is obviously a figure of speech, so being a bit too picky and literal here, aren't we?

Besides, why criticize others' happiness anyway? Or is that what makes you happy?
 
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ming_on_mongo wrote :
"Jumping up and down" is obviously a figure of speech, so being a bit too picky and literal here, aren't we?

Besides, why criticize others' happiness anyway? Or is that what makes you happy?

?... well of course it was a figure of speech and who wasn't saying the person wasn't feeling happy or isn't happy?

I said what I meant...that happiness isn't joy. People can be happy without having to demonstrably joyful. I am right now. Were you happy when you made your post?

Discussing what happiness is and isn't is something that makes me happy because it empowers people to be happier.
 
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Do the things that make others happy, you will get back more than you give.
That's a good one...very underused.
 
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I said what I meant...that happiness isn't joy. People can be happy without having to demonstrably joyful. I am right now. Were you happy when you made your post?

Discussing what happiness is and isn't is something that makes me happy because it empowers people to be happier.
Well now that you mention it, I suppose I do enjoy poking fun at dogmatic types who think they have all the "answers", and who try to insist that the rest of us think (& feel) the same way they do.

But then I'd be very happy if that actually resulted in some self-reflection on the part of said recipient! Although so far, it appears so unlikely, that if it did happen, I'd probably jump up and down with joy!!
 
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Knowing how to laugh at myself makes disappointments tolerable. It's so easy to let other bring you down. But if one can laugh at oneself, when others start laughting, it won't be "at", it'll be "with". And when a whole bunch of people are laughing with you, it's hard to get down in the dumps.
 
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Well now that you mention it, I suppose I do enjoy poking fun at dogmatic types who think they have all the "answers", and who try to insist that the rest of us think (& feel) the same way they do.

But then I'd be very happy if that actually resulted in some self-reflection on the part of said recipient! Although so far, it appears so unlikely, that if it did happen, I'd probably jump up and down with joy!!
?...again you're making use a question mark. I didn't mention poking fun at anyone and I don't do that. I *do* like to ask questions about what people think and why they think it but it's because I want them to feel dumb, it's because I want them to do more critical introspection.

When people ask me questions that challenge my beliefs I don't feel offended, I feel honored.

How often does that cause self-reflection on the part of the recipiant?... well you've got me there because that's a very small number indeed (and I would be indeed stupid if thought it would be otherwise...bell curve always applies).
 
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