simplydreamer is offline simplydreamer Post #1  August 21,2009, 10:33pm
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Why is it so difficult to select a partner, a partner that is a whole,
Not just pieces of pain and hurt, someone who is moving in the same
direction at the same time
 
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kevin76 is offline kevin76 Post #2  August 22,2009, 9:44am
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If you spend your time analyzing and examining every flower that comes your way, searching for reasons why it is not perfect, then you will become nearsighted and miserable and not going anywhere fast.

If you walk through the fields with your head up and your eyes on the horizon, enjoying the flowers along the way, sooner or later you will glance to the side and see someone else walking near you in the same direction. Ask them if they'd like to walk beside you for a while, and just enjoy their company.

Love is not a succession of notes to be examined and copied with mechanical precision like a writing lesson, it is a song which can only truly be enjoyed when it is played as the background music for a purpose-filled life.


(...or maybe I just haven't had enough coffee yet...)
 
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simplydreamer wrote :
Why is it so difficult to select a partner, a partner that is a whole,
Not just pieces of pain and hurt, someone who is moving in the same
direction at the same time
Maybe you mean 'meet a good partner'? ... because I think that's the real hurdle... the statistics of dating.
 
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kevin76 wrote :
If you spend your time analyzing and examining every flower that comes your way, searching for reasons why it is not perfect, then you will become nearsighted and miserable and not going anywhere fast.

If you walk through the fields with your head up and your eyes on the horizon, enjoying the flowers along the way, sooner or later you will glance to the side and see someone else walking near you in the same direction. Ask them if they'd like to walk beside you for a while, and just enjoy their company.

Love is not a succession of notes to be examined and copied with mechanical precision like a writing lesson, it is a song which can only truly be enjoyed when it is played as the background music for a purpose-filled life.


(...or maybe I just haven't had enough coffee yet...)
This was beautifully and well put....... Suzie
 
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It is hard because we have preconceived what we are looking for in that partner, what we want them to look like, think like, and be like, and perspective partners are looking for what they have preconceived makes the perfect ( wanted) partner. Let's go into seeking that partner with our hearts, blinding ourselves to preconceptions of what we want!
 
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sssuze is offline sssuze Post #6  September 4,2009, 6:57pm
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Wow Kevin,
You make my heart go pitter patter.
Say more poetic things?
 
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debhow wrote :
It is hard because we have preconceived what we are looking for in that partner, what we want them to look like, think like, and be like, and perspective partners are looking for what they have preconceived makes the perfect ( wanted) partner. Let's go into seeking that partner with our hearts, blinding ourselves to preconceptions of what we want!
That was well put.
 
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kevin76 wrote :
If you spend your time analyzing and examining every flower that comes your way, searching for reasons why it is not perfect, then you will become nearsighted and miserable and not going anywhere fast.

If you walk through the fields with your head up and your eyes on the horizon, enjoying the flowers along the way, sooner or later you will glance to the side and see someone else walking near you in the same direction. Ask them if they'd like to walk beside you for a while, and just enjoy their company.

Love is not a succession of notes to be examined and copied with mechanical precision like a writing lesson, it is a song which can only truly be enjoyed when it is played as the background music for a purpose-filled life.


(...or maybe I just haven't had enough coffee yet...)
Kevin,
That was beautiful and poetic! It was a pleasure to read.
 
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Sometimes, we are too fearful of the unnown, to allow ourselves to venture to new experiences. We may fail to get to know someone, because our eyes trick us into automatically thinking that person isn't a person that we would be happy with. And sometimes we are afraid to go after what we want.
 
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simplydreamer wrote :
Why is it so difficult to select a partner, a partner that is a whole,
Not just pieces of pain and hurt, someone who is moving in the same
direction at the same time
It is not difficult. You just have to know what it is that you want and then look for it. If the store is out of stock, you have to wait for it to come in.

You can always try another store.
 
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