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An idea came to me after reading a post on another board. Here's what he wrote:

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"A professor once told me, 'the books you read today determine who you will be in five years". The same applies to the friends you have, and more so with more intimate relationships."

It made me seriously think about who and what I am allowing to influence my life now. My question is, who do you want to be in the next five years, and what are you reading, who are allowing in your life to help you achieve that goal?
 
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I'm reading Walden. I don't have goal, I wouldn't like to think too much about tomorrow and what I would be in 5 years. but I'm sure I want a family of my own.
 
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Right now, I'm reading nothing but fluff, because every now and then I need to believe there is justice, equality, and happily everafters. As far as books influencing who we are, I think it's the chicken or the egg. Do we read books that we would like to involve into or do we pick books that are already mostly like us?
 
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As far as books influencing who we are, I think it's the chicken or the egg. Do we read books that we would like to involve into or do we pick books that are already mostly like us?
I have certain fluffy readings that are my old stand-bys. I'm sure those are mostly chosen because they reflect who I am or what I am interested in now. But partly because of my job and partly because I am still in college, I have been exposed to a lot of books that I wouldn't have ordinarily sought on my own. Partly under the influence of a few of my professors wanting me to take their classes and the interests they awoke, I have narrowed my ideas of what my ideal career will be. So those readings have definitely influenced who I am likely to become professionally. Similarly, books have influenced who I am and who I am becoming in my personal life as well. Can anyone else relate?

I could list things that have influenced me in certain ways, but I'd like to hear from others so this doesn't become a one sided conversation.
 
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My current readings involve mostly magazines... from the practical (Money magazine, Consumer Reports, Prevention) to relationship and possibly racy topics (Redbook, Women's Health, Cosmopolitan). There's also some work-related reading and spiritual things that cross my reading path.

In 5 years I want to be much like the person I am today, except a little older and in an established relationship. My kids will be in college then, and I will have a lot more "me" time.
 
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I'm reading bathroom walls.

So I guess in five years I hope to be reading the bathroom walls of the rich.

(But this is a fantastic topic...I hope this stays near the top for a long time).

But I have to ask "What are the choices of Who?"

Who do I want to be? Ok... tough... not sure what flavors of Who are out there... most people will answer with WHAT...I want to have this much money, etc.

But WHO is tougher... I think I want to be the walking personification of integrity... that's a good initial guess.
 
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Well, I have been multitasking on the reading (e.g. Malcolm Gladwell, Obama, etc.). I plan to be a department head where I teach and be married with a little one or two. Also, I'm trying to get a Second Cup franchise going on the side, but we'll see. I tell you that in 20 years, I plan to retire to my land in Greece.

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WeDesignOurLives wrote :
I'm reading bathroom walls.

So I guess in five years I hope to be reading the bathroom walls of the rich.

(But this is a fantastic topic...I hope this stays near the top for a long time).

But I have to ask "What are the choices of Who?"

Who do I want to be? Ok... tough... not sure what flavors of Who are out there... most people will answer with WHAT...I want to have this much money, etc.

But WHO is tougher... I think I want to be the walking personification of integrity... that's a good initial guess.
I thought of one thing that I am doing, that maybe I need to do more of. I want to be a wife in 5 years time, which may also be a what rather than a who. I don't know. But one thing I do to influence who I will be is to spend time with people who have happy marriages. I have noticed a lot of friends to hang out with similar groups, singles with singles, young married with other yms and yms with kids with the same. I want to learn something from others so I don't need to make so many mistakes in my own marriage and to stay encouraged that there are good marriages even in these divorce prevalent days.

My brother-in-law did a lot of this and I think it made him a better husband and father. And helped him to remain content while he waited till my sister came along.
 
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WeDesignOurLives wrote :
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Who do I want to be? Ok... tough... not sure what flavors of Who are out there... most people will answer with WHAT...I want to have this much money, etc.

But WHO is tougher... I think I want to be the walking personification of integrity... that's a good initial guess.
Interesting response. Now comes the part where you have to think about what you are doing RIGHT now to make that happen. Do you have people around you who can encourage you and give you examples of integrity? Bathroom walls may not provide the necessary readings to further your desire, but perhaps some books would be worth exploring.
 
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Alive. Seeing how I have no control over the future, a vast knowledge of the past, the likly scenario is to live for today. True peoples' actions today have a profound impact on the future, to know who is the most influential is to know how we will live.
 
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