julesbutterfly is offline julesbutterfly Post #1  March 28,2009, 2:28pm
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I'd like to know what people think about matching based on education level. Does it have merit. I mean should a doctorate date a highschool drop out? Would theyhave things in common or even the same vocabulary? I know Eh matches on similliar education levels. I want to know what people think. How important is it?
 
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I believe it all depends on the individuals involved. So long as you can communicate on the same level regarding things that are pertinent to the relationship, then education likely won't matter. Someone I have worked with in upper management for a small clinic only has a highschool diploma, perhaps an Associate's. She is quite adept at running the clinic. There is a difference in processing information between an Associates prepared individual and a Bachelor's prepared individual let alone a PhD, but the overall goals and objectives stay the same.
 
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I think it is important in that you're seeking people who are compatible to you, which often means education similar to your own since it more than likely determines lifestyle, income and social intrest and strata, or class. But the importance isn't absolute because there are always exceptions. For example, there are folks with doctorateswho just lack common sense,basic social skills and are so impressed with themselves that they are justinsufferable. And, therepeople who are high school dropouts who havean innate ability to adapt and thrive no matter the situation or circumstance,possess masterful communication skills and enjoy all that life has to offer. The late playwright August Wilson was a well-knownhigh school dropout who wrote beautiful, brillantPulizer-Prize-winning Broadway plays, but he also acknowledged that he turned the public library into his classroom and read just about every book in the place.


But most often, education matters because it is not uncommon for the person with a high school diploma to be insecure, resentment, or have a chip on the shoulder, or consistently reminding the other person, with saycollege or professional degrees,of all the book-learning s/he has obtained. And, of course the reverse is true as well, where the more higher educatedperson belittles or mocksthe other one for not obtaining more education. Either can gettiresome, be troublesome, emotioanlly damaging anderode relationships.
 
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LOVE the topic...talked about this in some other topic and my complaint (observation) is how people falsely equate self-worth with education. I have really no tolerance for women (sorry, I've not had dating interactions with men) who are quick to proclaim their collegiate degrees in their profile without a mention of the values, traits, and personality of whom their looking for.


The elitism of a college degree isn't deserved.
 
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julesbutterfly, wrote :

I'd like to know what people think about matching based on education level. Does it have merit. I mean should a doctorate date a highschool drop out? Would theyhave things in common or even the same vocabulary? I know Eh matches on similliar education levels. I want to know what people think. How important is it?
It's not. Matching on cars might be better... I'm serious. And I'm gonna start a topic about it.
 
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For me, I want a match who is as equally interested in the world (science, politics, religion, etc.) as I am. A high school dropout might beas interested and intellectually involved, but not likely. Education level is a decent estimate of such a world view and involvement. Now, I've known college-educated people who paid absolutely no attention to developements in science or politics and people with only a high school degree who could intellegently discuss tax policy or medical science. So, there is not a perfect correlation.


Maybe they could include a computer-adapted IQ test in the screening and match on that--maybe anyone within 20 points (that's the range on the Stanford-Binet between the average college graduate and the lowest 'genius' or the overall average).


So I set my eH matching levels to include everything from high school degree up, but I've yet to have a match who has not at least attended college who I was in any way interested in. (Just for background, I have 2 masters. With one of those I am a PhD dropout--long story.)
 
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Education level doesn't matter at the individual level. Whether or not I'm interested in someone isn't going to depend much on whether or not they graduated college.


That said, dating is a numbers game, and all else equal, I'm probably more compatible with those who do have a college degree. But the degree itself doesn't tell you much. A huge percentage of the population now has degrees. So a degree can't be a very useful heuristic.


Thus, I might have a slight preference for someone with a degree in terms of who I'm matched with. But not much of a preference.
 
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But not much of a preference.
Me neither.


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I would like someone with similar or higher education accomplishments than myself. I think there are exceptions to the rule... geniuses that don't need a degree or people that come from a background that couldn't afford it or even military members who didn't have time.


But generally speaking, if I want to have a conversation about game theory in economics... i want someone to have an understanding.
 
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How do you handle people who dumb themselves down obviously? Or patronize you just so they think they will look smarter, or dumber? Just wondering.............Suzie
 
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