What is the true test of someone's character?


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WeDesignOurLives is offline WeDesignOurLives Post #1  February 15,2009, 7:46pm
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What is the true test of someone's character?


... or tests if you want...
 
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reminds me of the odd test conducted back in the 60's where subjects were enticed to press a buzzer that would inflict increasing amounts of electric shock to a person who answered incorrectly to questioning. All staged of course...but the number of people who blindly pressed the button was intriguing.


Very deep in our person....after all the public acts of heroism, piety, kindness are displayed....there is a place of raging battle....you'll find character emerging somewhere inside this place - good luck testing it
 
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You can learn alot about a person simply by observing their behavior. The more important something is to a person the more time and resourses they devote to it. Actions really do speak louder then words.


>>reminds me of the odd test conducted back in the 60's where subjects were enticed to press a buzzer that would inflict increasing amounts of electric shock to a person who answered incorrectly to questioning. All staged of course...but the number of people who blindly pressed the button was intriguing.
 
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vlnman,489896 wrote :




Very deep in our person....after all the public acts of heroism, piety, kindness are displayed....there is a place of raging battle....you'll find character emerging somewhere inside this place - good luck testing it
I 1000% agree and I've tried posting message about this but no one seems to be very interested...I think anger is our dominant emotion (after fear) and people don't think they're angry at all... they are 'bothered', 'annoyed', whatever, but unless they understand it's actually anger they will never address the problem.


But there are ways to test character.... someone said "it's what a person does when no one is looking".
 
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It's not just what you do when nobody is looking (that's important to be sure)... but it's what you do when you're under intense pressure.


Nothing exposes character flaws like hardship.
 
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RobInPlano,491534 wrote :

It's not just what you do when nobody is looking (that's important to be sure)... but it's what you do when you're under intense pressure.


Nothing exposes character flaws like hardship.
Are you saying character is how you handle your emotions? (because that would seem to me what is being measured but 'how you act under pressure' where 'character' it seems to me is more about a personal value system.)
 
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Well, pressure has to be a component. How usefulis a personal value system if you discard it when things get hard? Most of life is hard...


I know pressure isn't all the equation... but it's part of it. As is sticking to your value system when the only people who know are you and God.
 
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RobInPlano,492243 wrote :

Well, pressure has to be a component. How usefulis a personal value system if you discard it when things get hard? Most of life is hard...


I know pressure isn't all the equation... but it's part of it. As is sticking to your value system when the only people who know are you and God.
I guess that's fair so I guess I need an example.... you could have a personal value that says "Always try to firm but understanding." but if you're in a situation where anger reigns that might go out the window.


So perhaps character is actually about grace under pressure and not values?
 
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RobInPlano,491534 wrote :

It's not just what you do when nobody is looking (that's important to be sure)... but it's what you do when you're under intense pressure.


Nothing exposes character flaws like hardship.
Boy, Ain't that the TRUTH! Although envy could be a close second perhaps?
 
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I think it would be if you tried to save someone even though you might not survive or it would be an enormous sacrifice you. I've had this happen to me twice and both times I saved myself. This is, of course, not your children.
 
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