can a lib and a conservative really make a good couple?


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rremmy72 is offline rremmy72 Post #11  May 12,2009, 8:47pm
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I think it all depends on the level of connection that couple wants to have. If they truly want to be "soul-mates", then, no, a liberal and a conservative can NEVER be a couple. But if they're comfortable with a not-quite-so-deep level of connection, then, yeah, for sure. Some people are totally OK with not delving that deep into the human condition, but me, personally, I think it's a huge part of how we see the world and ourselves and how we make individual day-to-day decisions.
 
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rremmy72,615007 wrote :

I think it all depends on the level of connection that couple wants to have. If they truly want to be "soul-mates", then, no, a liberal and a conservative can NEVER be a couple. But if they're comfortable with a not-quite-so-deep level of connection, then, yeah, for sure. Some people are totally OK with not delving that deep into the human condition, but me, personally, I think it's a huge part of how we see the world and ourselves and how we make individual day-to-day decisions.

(What "couple" doesn't want as deep a connection as possible?)


Can you give an example? It seem that "soul-mates" would transcend values? (or maybe that's what you mean by soul-mate...not sure...just asking for clarification).


I know a couple who are politially separate but share the same value system because a person's personal value system doesn't have to be the same as what they view for society. (For example, a catholic father can not want people to be gay but still love his gay son.)
 
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I tjink so,because,well,it depends.If they are hardcore in their views,no it won't work.But,if they can seperate,or at least have civilized disagreements,it can,I think.I mean,look at James Carville and Mary...I forget her last name,most of you will know who I'm talking about.They are polar opposites,and very passionate about their political views,yet seem to be a very happy and on camera anyway,pretty affectionate,holding hands,a quick smootch,etc.What do you think?

After going thru a divorce, fighting Parental Alienation and seeing how society treats divorced fathers, it would be difficult for me to marry a Politically Correct woman. I would date them but that's it. I believe in fairness & equality, not superiority.
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I really think that a person's core values dictate their political outlook. People usually have the same core values or a relationship usually doesn't work out as well.Yes, we fall in love and after that we discover who the person REALLY is,inside and outside,hopefully before marriage.I guess one can always change political parties- look at Maria Schriver(Kennedy clan)- she married Arnold Schwartznegger-Republican.I would assume she does not count herself as a Democrat now, it certainly would embaress her California governor spouse!
 
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There have been several threads on this very topic throughout the time I have been on eHa. And my answer has been pretty much the same, I am not opposed to dating a conservative girl if she was civil and able to have civilized conversations though because I am active with the local liberal groups I am no so sure things would really work out if I was with a conversative girl in the end but I would certainly be willing to give it a shot.
 
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I think a liberal and a conservative can make a relationship that works, depending on their maturity level and ability to have an open discussion on the issues without demeaning the other. And I would say it would also depend on where on the spectrum of liberal to conservative the individuals find themselves. Obviously, if the conservative is on the extreme end of that spectrum, and the liberal equally finds him or herself on the extreme liberal, it could pose a problem, as it would impact the choices in life. But most people are somewhere in the middle, conservative on some things and more liberal on others. So, if they can find common factors and values within their stance, and in other areas of life besides politics, they could do just fine. If respect for the individual is there, it should be fine.
 
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