DennisWisconsin is offline DennisWisconsin Post #1  August 18,2009, 3:09pm
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Looking back on our lives it's easy to recognize defining moments. Moments in time that changed our lives for better or worse. These moments in time are so definitive that you would think that we would recognize them for what they are the minute they happen... and sometimes we do.

I may have had one of those today but time will tell... In the past, defining moments included meeting someone, making a decision, or something happening that was out of my control... these are sometimes the simple things that can change lives.

So I'm in Baltimore and I left very early this morning so I got here early enough in the day that I was able to walk around a place that I've wanted to see for a long time. Harbor Place. There are cities with similar but I wanted to see this place and so I walked. I walked on board an old civil war ship, a WWII submarine, and a WWII vintage Coast Guard Cutter. No I'm not joining the navy! Sheesh...

I ended up sitting next to a young gal at the bar of The Hard Rock Cafe. We talked a little, I ate and as I sat there thinking about my day I decided that it was time for a change. We'll see... If it's not a defining moment for me, so be it... I had fun... by myself... It was a day in the life...

Come see Harbor Place... It's worth the trip.
 
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Are you only now asking us what you should have said to her?!
 
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So what changes are you planning? You can't just throw that out there and not tell us! Epiphanies require explanations

Geographic change? Outlook change? Occupational change (though I can't see that one because I thought you loved your job)?

Spill it!
 
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You guys are too much... lol

I have to go to work right now but I'll get back to you on all that...

hehehehe... (evil laugh)
 
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DennisWisconsin wrote :
You guys are too much... lol

I have to go to work right now but I'll get back to you on all that...

hehehehe... (evil laugh)
...and?

[taps her foot impatiently]

We're waiting!

Please don't make me entertain the troops while they all wait for your answer. Though I do very well distracting people and confusing the issue, I can't keep it up for hours on end.
 
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Fine, since Dennis is being evasive, I'll offer up some of my own defining moments. I've had quite a few, which isn't a good thing because it means I've had the need for quite a few. But I digress.

One was when ex #1, who was a mean drunk, came home and found out I had accepted a job without asking his permission. It was a job that he knew about and had even helped me prepare for the interview, since it was in construction (his field). But I didn't actually ask his permission to accept the job when they called, so he was angry and told me it didn't really matter because they would fire me in a few months anyway.

Well, that was a big wakeup call. For some reason, after 13 years of putting up with him being a mean drunk and doing everything he could to intimidate me, the defining moment was when he told me I was incompetent. I'm not. And now I refuse to accept people assuming I'm "fluff".

The other was when I was dating a man who had issues. He smoked A LOT of weed (4 or 5 times a day) and was living off of his inheritance. He was immature and irresponsible, but he was a charmer (literally a car salesman, when he felt like working) so he made it easy to brush things off.

On night, I had a dream where I lost everything (my son, job, car, apartment - everything) due to our relationship. Have you ever woken from a dream and were still feeling the emotions, even though you knew it wasn't real? When I woke up, I was terrified. I told him I had a bad dream and was scared, and would he please hold me. You guys know my background; I'm not the type that needs a lot of protecting! He rested his hand on my stomach for about 10 seconds and that was it. When I said something about it, he just told me he had been sleeping and rolled back over.

I broke up with him the next day, saying he was the man he was, and it wasn't my job to change him. And he agreed without even knowing the reason I reached that conclusion. Ever since then, I have made a conscious effort to accept people for who they are, without feeling the need to keep them in my life. There is no changing people, there is only changing whether or not they are in your life.

Well, now that we're all cheery...!

Dennis, maybe I'm not so good at entertaining the troops! When do we get an answer???
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Let's moderate all his posts for that evil laugh!
 
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You guys crack me up... Chawks... Will you marry me? I'll laugh at all your jokes and never roll over to sleep... unless you hit me... then I'll sleep... or be knocked out... either way... umm... moving on...

I totally hate my apartment because it is so close to the sidewalk that I can't open my patio door blinds for fear that someone will walk by... same with my bedroom window blinds. I've lived here for three years now... not really a long time but it is if you've gone that long without sunlight! I feel like a mole!

After dating three women last year and meeting another in November, I ended up spending the holidays alone... again... So I took a break from dating... It's a total lie that love will find you when you aren't looking... I'm not looking really hard! Where's the love?

I love my job, I travel all over, I meet all kinds of people... and now that's all I do... I don't want to live for my job as much as I enjoy it, I need more than that in life...

These three things must change... I won't change jobs, but I can change everything else... The defining moment as I sat in the Hard Rock Cafe was that I think I have the will to change this now... that it's time to plan for a shake up...
 
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That sounds like a very good thing.

What's your plan of attack... I mean... action?
 
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chawks64 wrote :
That sounds like a very good thing.

What's your plan of attack... I mean... action?
Wow... You're still up? I forget that your in a western time zone.... I went to sleep about four hours ago because I have to get up really early... I think my alarm is set for 4AM... but I woke up in the middle of 'my' night and couldn't sleep so I got up to write...

The machinists in the union at this plant I'm at gave me a really hard time yesterday while I was training 'line captains'. Tomorrow I have the machinists in the classroom.... yuk

I'm there to train people but it isn't unusual - especially in a large plant - to be called to another area that is having problems because they want my help... that is a catch 22 situation though... they are calling me over because they can't find the problem... If I do find the problem, now I just showed them up regardless of how much I try not to... it is usualy a losing situation.... and that happened yesterday also... sheesh...

There are too many children masquerading as adults in this world....
 
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